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Post by amber on Jun 23, 2014 9:14:22 GMT -5
Hi I'm Amber and I'm new to the board I have been here awhile (lurking) and decided to become a member. I have read a lot of interesting things here and gotten some good insight on "devotees". I don't know if I fall into the category, I've never dated a guy that's in a wheelchair. There is a hot guy that's a para living in my apartments where we've crossed paths, mainly just passing greetings and smiles. I find myself attracted to him, he is really fine He was out at the pool the other day, so I decided to go out there and get a little sun. I wanted to approach him, but the feeling of awkwardness kept me from doing anything more than waving to him and saying ''hi''.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2014 10:11:11 GMT -5
Welcome! Go and get him!
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Post by amber on Jun 23, 2014 10:42:02 GMT -5
Welcome! Go and get him! I'm a pretty shy person, and to be honest I have no idea how to approach him without feeling like a weirdo. I know he's single, I never see him with a girl. Actually I've never seen him with anyone at all.
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Post by greeneyedvillan on Jun 23, 2014 10:54:35 GMT -5
honestly if he's always alone, there's a decent chance he's shy too. give him a break and go say hello.
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Post by greeneyedvillan on Jun 23, 2014 11:28:09 GMT -5
I'm a pretty shy person, and to be honest I have no idea how to approach him without feeling like a weirdo. I know he's single, I never see him with a girl. Actually I've never seen him with anyone at all. In fact, the easiest way to determine interest is to ask the other person to do you a favor. If you are both at the pool, ask if he'd watch you stuff while you swim, or go make a quick phone call. People are more attracted to people they do something for, so asking a small favor is a great way to gauge his interest. If he declines, then at least you know where you stand. If he accepts, then whoo hoo!! man, that is crafty. I like it
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Post by vegmama on Jun 23, 2014 11:38:18 GMT -5
Hi Amber...welcome! I agree that you should totally take a chance with your neighbor. I know you're shy, but like the things lucretia suggested, you don't have to do anything crazy. And try to gage his responses...how does he react when you smile/wave hello? But you have to make sure you let us all know what happens!
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Post by amber on Jun 23, 2014 11:52:21 GMT -5
I'm a pretty shy person, and to be honest I have no idea how to approach him without feeling like a weirdo. I know he's single, I never see him with a girl. Actually I've never seen him with anyone at all. The easiest way is to just BE where he is. I'm not talking about stalking, just doing your normal stuff. Since you see him in your area often, just make a point of being out and about where he is. Smile, wave, say hello, just what you are doing. Under normal circumstances, if he's interested, he'll let you know. However, if you are BOTH shy... you may have to be a bit bolder if you want to see if he's interested. One way is to invite him for coffee. Is he new to the complex? That's a perfect opportunity to offer a "Welcome to the neighborhood" invite. If YOU are new, you could reverse it, say you are trying to get to know the vibe and would he help you out? In fact, the easiest way to determine interest is to ask the other person to do you a favor. If you are both at the pool, ask if he'd watch you stuff while you swim, or go make a quick phone call. People are more attracted to people they do something for, so asking a small favor is a great way to gauge his interest. If he declines, then at least you know where you stand. If he accepts, then whoo hoo!! I never thought about this! Such a wonderful idea, I think its perfect!
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Post by Sir Paul on Jun 23, 2014 12:07:35 GMT -5
If he declines, you know that he's NUTS! This is your mission Amber. Come back and debrief us after you do it. Oh, and welcome to PD.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2014 14:03:11 GMT -5
Welcome to PD and yes, my first initial tought was, "She is young, single, hot and the guy is young, single and hot to her, she needs to sooooo move on in"....Gosh, if I could be in your shoes or Flip Flops at the pool :-)....go for it and Good luck!
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Post by AngelsFallFirst on Jun 23, 2014 16:52:52 GMT -5
go for it! better to know it for certain than to have the eternal 'what if...' in your head btw, you look really beautiful zo he'd be crazy to say no
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Post by Deleted on Jun 24, 2014 1:17:59 GMT -5
Welcome Amber. I am shy too but I definitely would give it a try. Don't ruin that chance and please keep us posted. Hopefully he's just shy too and will say yes
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Post by tom60313 on Jun 24, 2014 5:36:44 GMT -5
My only advice: keep saying hi and try to change some words with him till it feels very natural to invite him for a nice cuppa. ;-) Oh. And welcome Amber.
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Post by amber on Jun 24, 2014 9:19:03 GMT -5
go for it! better to know it for certain than to have the eternal 'what if...' in your head btw, you look really beautiful zo he'd be crazy to say no Thank you all for the welcome and encouragement And thank you to those who think I'm "beautiful" . I chose that picture because my hair comes down in my face that covers a scar that goes through my left eyebrow, not so pretty. (I'm kinda self conscious about it) But compared to the scars others have, its nothing.
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Post by AlrightyAphrodite on Jun 24, 2014 9:53:33 GMT -5
Scars are sexy! I think just about everyone here understands that. Welcome!
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Post by didi on Jun 24, 2014 10:04:06 GMT -5
I was just about to say the same AA And welcome to PD Amber
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