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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Aug 19, 2014 13:37:25 GMT -5
Hello! I am glad that you found the forum. I hope talking with the other devs here and reading what they have written helps you further understand this attraction. From what you have written, it sounds like you may have told your family about this. Have you? If you dont mind me asking, How did they respond? Yes! About 3month ago, I told my secret to my parents carefully and they said Im really weird and they wont understand me ohh goodness... I'm so very sorry. You were very brave in doing so, frankly I really admire that because not alot of devs would've done what u did. I only wish that outcome had've been different... "sigh" I really hope in talking with us that u realise how wrong your parents are..
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Post by lars on Aug 19, 2014 13:48:49 GMT -5
The further something is away from the norms of the society, the more easy it is for people to judge. That doesn't mean they are right about it. By being brave and joining this forum, you may have found the keys to pursuing your happiness. I hope you'll attain it some day. In my experience, it's something that requires a bit of work from time to time, but it's very much worth it.
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Post by rebel6842 on Aug 20, 2014 13:48:57 GMT -5
Welcome Hyunalee, I'm more curious, being in S Korea, how you found this board? Anyway, welcome. I only became familiar with the term devotee recently myself, so as far as I know, the devs on this board are the only ones in captivity You really couldn't be in a better place to learn and grow As far as your parents are concerned-I'm sure that it's a shock to them that you "came out" as a dev. They'll adjust, and if they don't, it's their loss-not yours. You're the same person that you were before you came out-you just decided to take it upon yourself to be happy-and there's nothing wrong with that. When you get to college, just flash that smile, and the wheelers will find you...
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Post by jen on Aug 21, 2014 10:35:15 GMT -5
Welcome Hyuna! I'm asian too, but chinese, not korean. I just recently stopped lurking and started reaching out on here and am so thankful to have met people I can really relate to here. I'd love to hear more about how you told your parents (since I haven't got the guts to tell them yet) so send me a message and we'll chat! Jen
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2014 16:47:09 GMT -5
Hi nice to meet you. My name is hyunalee, (just my nickname) and I'm 18years old in my country. I live in south korea, and I'm a high school student. I definitly think I 'm a devotee. When I was young, I was just interested in watching dramas or reading books about paraplegics. I thought that my interest was really weird. But it makes me feel um.. good? I don't know. maybe, I was attracted to them. and, 2years ago, I became a high school student. I had to be dedicated to studying. so I've done so. In south korea, high scool students should study very hard. because they want to go prestigious university. I want t go there too, so I study hard from 7:00 am to 12:00 am in weekdays. and I go to Hagwons(private education institutions) Actually there is almost no time to relaese my stress. or do my hobbies, what I want. So, I started to imagine? or think about wholly handsome sexy wheelchair guy before I fell a sleep. every night, I make my own drama.- Always paraplegic or quadriplegic man and normal woman's love story. The main characters are described as unrealistic or unusual. ( accidental events etc...) Complete DRAMA. and i'm certain that this kind of habit is my fantasy. and recently, I find myself too much enchated with watching youtube videos about para or quadriplegics. Even worse, I consider my life accomplishment as marrige with soulmate who is paraplegic..! i live in Daejeon, Korea, but when i go univ, I want to go Seoul, Korea(capital city) and find my soulmate..!
let me explain my feelings in detail(I do not want to call it 'symptoms'). I wanted to contact with para or quadriplegic people, I want more media contents dealt with them. While watching videos or reading fictions, I feel excited, intoxicated, and enchanted. sometimes, I want to have sex with them..!
However, on the one hand, I'm afraid of my obsession. I read some articles that dealt with DPWs. they can be potential sexual criminals.(WHAT???) and many people think it's really weird. My dad is doctor so I tried meeting counselor or psychiatrist by dad's advice. But, in korea, devoteeism is very very rare thing. there is no expert..!!
How can I do? I really want to know why I am attracted to disabled man. and maybe this obsession will be worse in the future? in korea, there is absolutely no devotee. Should i stop doing this?
Hi, hyunalee. I found this website fairly recently. I am disabled, with spina bifida. I use crutches. I found this website after I was having a bad day. One where I didn't feel loved. I think I Googled "wheelchair fetish", or something like that, and found this site. I actually fall on both sides here: I am disabled, but I have also had a fetish for girls in masks (which, as it happens, is accepted much more in Asia: bird flu, SARS, etc). My attraction is most for girls who have to wear them for a medical reason. I had a friend in 2006-7 with cystic fibrosis, which is affects the lungs and immune system. She had to wear a mask in public, and looked quite sexy in it. Devotees are looked at by some in a bad way. I went to watch a married spina bifida woman talk, and she warned everybody about devotees. It kind of hurt, but I think I can guess where she's coming from. If we didn't have our need for wheelchairs and crutches (and masks, for those that need them), we might become less attractive to a devo. And that's sad to think about. I think it's great that you do fantasize. So do I, and I've written fiction stories about my particular attraction. It can be a very nice release. As well, like you say, there is YouTube. I like certain medical YouTube videos, myself. They cater to my mask devo side. I'm sure there are many videos of interest to wheeler and crutcher devos. Nothing to be ashamed of. I'm glad you are here. Please post more!
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Post by wheelieguy38 on Aug 23, 2014 21:33:09 GMT -5
I guess there is a lot in this world that considered wrong but people have a lack of understanding and sometimes dont want to understand I say do what makes you happy.
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Post by Tomny on Aug 26, 2014 7:55:00 GMT -5
Hi Hyuna.
Welcome to the site :-) I'm relatively new here myself but I'm glad to see you exploring your feelings. I live in a neighborhood in New York with a lot of Korean-Americans whose parents are still very traditional and steeped in the Korean culture. I understand the expectations and pressure they can put upon you and how difficult it can be to try to do something that is significantly against their wishes. I wish you the best and I hope you can explore your interests as freely as possible and be yourself. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being attracted to people with disabilities.
Good luck,
Tom in New York
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Post by Gale on Aug 26, 2014 10:56:29 GMT -5
This type of thing is something I personally will never understand, and I see it a lot honestly. Not just with devs, but with people in general. There's this mindset of what "normal" is (which is complete horse shit by the way, there is no such thing as "normal") and people feel ashamed, worried or scared for liking the things they like. Ask yourself this, would you feel ashamed for finding a particular piece of art or literature attractive/interesting? Regardless of how bizarre or unpopular it is? You shouldn't care what other people think of you and your interests/preferences, and this goes double for sexual preference/attraction. I could show you some people who have a waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more bizarre sexual interest than you do, so I don't think you should really feel ashamed of it. As for the why of it, that's the fun part. Nobody here will be able to tell you why your brain works the way it does, that's something that will take a lot of time, and a lot of specific directed effort on your part to identify why you feel the way you do. I don't think you should "stop doing this". That would be like if I quit listening to the music I love just because other people didn't agree with it.
TL;DR: You like what you like, there's nothing wrong with liking what you like, and quite frankly you shouldn't give a fuck about anyone who tries to tell you differently.
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Post by Kiran on Oct 18, 2014 1:06:28 GMT -5
Hello, hyunalee! Despite my belated welcome, I wish you all the best of luck in your quest for happiness!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2014 17:19:42 GMT -5
hyunalee, I am a little late as well, I just came across your intro seeing Kiran respond....well, a late Welcome from me. I am glad you found PD and I think if you look around here and read some of the things we discuss you will feel better about yourself. You are still young, and really cute by the way, you still have all doors open for you and I really hope you can find that wheeler "prince" in Seoul once you start school. I am surprised you told your parents, I wouldn't say anything else about it to them since they are already not accepting of it. Just be yourself and enjoy your attraction and hopefully you will find someone to make your dreams come true. Hope you will be on PD often
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