Hi!Nice to meet u★★★please read this and give me advice!!

[Deleted]

Welcome.

Does anyone else love the idea of finding a soulmate in Seoul?

Anyway, I wish you all the luck in the world.

[lars]

Welcome on board (:

You came to the right place, and I'm sure that exchanging thoughts with some of our lovely ladies will help you to find some peace and acceptance.
Talking about things tends to be better than holding something inside yourself forever.

L

[kivic]

Hello and welcome, hyunalee.

There is no answer to "why" you are attracted to disabled men, nor do I think you can stop. This attraction does not go away, it will have highs and lows but it is always present. It is difficult to manage the obsessive nature of this attraction but I think you're doing the right thing by recognizing this is what turns you on and also by watching videos, reading books, fantazing about disabled men. You may be fortunate enough to meet a wheeler/paraplegic with whom you can have an emotional and physical attraction to and possible marriage (that might be the hard part). Sometimes it's a bumpy road being a devotee. This is a good place to be for sharing with and gaining support from fellow devs. I hope it leads you in the right direction.

[Ath]

Welcome to PD.
There is a sub forum here below where we talk about all these things I recommend that you read the devs only section.
You are attracted to disabled men because they are the most beautiful -But in reality many of us don't know why.
The obsession will probably come and go.

I don't understand this I read some articles that dealt with DPWs. they can be potential sexual criminals.(WHAT???)
Anyone is a "potential criminal" -both devotees and disabled people, we are not unique from the rest of the worlds population in that way if you understand what I mean.
A disabled person who commits a (sex)crime might get more media attention though.

Just because they don't talk about devotees in Korea doesn't mean it doesn't exist. -And if you are the only devotee, just imagine all the wheelers that will be swarming for YOU

Even though disabled people sometimes talk about devotees in Sweden, I had never talked to any other devotee before I came here.

[Maurine]

Welcome, Hyunalee, glad you found us! Devotees aren't all over Europe and the US either. Most keep it to themselves. I wish you the best of luck to find your perfect wheeler!

[JW]

Hi Hyunalee,

No need to worry about what you're feeling. There are lots of other devotees just like you. Just follow the advice of the other devotees on the Board and you can't go wrong.

[alexa2010]

Welcome hyunalee.
The question is not why we are what we are.
The question is what we do with our life. How we deal with our desires, wishes, hopes.
Accept who you are and enjoy your life. You only have this one!

[A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo]

I really hope being a dev isn't consider to be wrong within the korean culture. Going to jail for something like that would be down right disgusting. I really don't think that is case honey so don't worry about that ok? There's nothing wrong with being a dev if u aren't hurting anyone, and if anyone thinks it is then they are the ones who are wrong ok? never forget that ok. If your dream is to have a para or quad for a husband then I think that is the sweetest greatest thing in the world, because frankly finding a dev is my dream too! So again, if u are ever feeling down about being a dev, or if u think that u should stop taking joy in us wheelers, never forget that u are someone's dream too.

[doe]

Aug 15, 2014 17:05:23 GMT -5 A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo said:

So again, if u are ever feeling down about being a dev, or if u think that u should stop taking joy in us wheelers, never forget that u are someone's dream too.

Really well said, A$$y. So well in fact, you could give Pony a run for his writing money.

More importantly, this should be adopted as the daily affirmation for Devs.

[MotorcycleCrash]

Welcome... You should be able to have your dreams come true. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Once you get to Seoul look for some wheelchair bound guys at your school and just go up and talk to them. I'm sure that a quad or para in your area would be more than happy to date you if you find one you're interested in. Then you can have fun and see if you like your fantasy in reality. We are normal people, nothing to be afraid of.

[hanabanana]

Also, take a look at this! paradevo.proboards.com/thread/5765/best-threads-pd

I speak a little korean, but not very well
Enjoy your time here dongsaeng~ ^_^

Feel free to message me if you want!

[Pony]

I think it would be terrible to be very alone with an 'attract' that you can never express to anyone. That's why this site is so important to Devs...here, you can actually lighten up, open up and explore your own feelings. And, there's dudes in chairs, which is probably something missing in your real-life.

So, welcome to this crazy jungle....I think you're going to make friends fast!

-tony

[tom60313]

Very welcome.
I hope you will find a lot of friends here!

[Corey]

Aug 15, 2014 10:42:42 GMT -5 hyunalee said:

My dad is doctor so I tried meeting counselor or psychiatrist by dad's advice.
But, in korea, devoteeism is very very rare thing. there is no expert..!!

Hello! I am glad that you found the forum. I hope talking with the other devs here and reading what they have written helps you further understand this attraction.

From what you have written, it sounds like you may have told your family about this. Have you? If you dont mind me asking, How did they respond?

[Deleted]

Ahnyoung Hyuna!~

Welcome to the board - I hope you find the info here useful!
By the way, I'm Korean too Disability/devoteeism is not something openly talked about in our culture so it must be hard for you to be dealing with this on your own...especially since you're living in Korea where it's even more taboo.
If I told my family I was a dev, my parents would probably send me to a psychiatrist as well!

Anyway, if you ever want to chat, message me