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Post by quantangle on Oct 28, 2014 10:58:08 GMT -5
Hey Jaina, well I cant speak in terms of wheelchairs because im an amp, I just walk slower than these guys roll. But as for ways to introduce yourself, think about how you done it any other time with AB guys, its really no different. Don't let a wheelchair, prosthetics or any other hardware get in the way of a good conversation. Best of luck,,, no, no sorry,,, best of efforts to you in finding your dream guy
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Post by queenjane on Oct 28, 2014 12:23:33 GMT -5
Hey Jaina, well I cant speak in terms of wheelchairs because im an amp, I just walk slower than these guys roll. But as for ways to introduce yourself, think about how you done it any other time with AB guys, its really no different. Don't let a wheelchair, prosthetics or any other hardware get in the way of a good conversation. Best of luck,,, no, no sorry,,, best of efforts to you in finding your dream guy Hmmm...any other hardware?! Am I missing another disablity sub-category here? Please explain, I'm totally intrigued...
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Jeffinsocal
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Post by Jeffinsocal on Oct 28, 2014 13:33:30 GMT -5
I'd say approach just like you'd approach any AB guy, we don't bite, not that often at least.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2014 14:37:12 GMT -5
Welcome. I think all guys like to be approached by a beautiful young woman, just go for it.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2014 15:11:40 GMT -5
I would say most of us would have no problem with a pretty girl talking to us. Most wheelers I know are super open to talk about our injuries etc I think this is true.
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Post by seemsnice on Oct 28, 2014 15:23:43 GMT -5
[/quote] Is that a special club for playing out of the rough??? Of course if he had a dev around he wouldn't need to pick up his own paper!!
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Post by quantangle on Oct 29, 2014 10:16:02 GMT -5
Hey Jaina, well I cant speak in terms of wheelchairs because im an amp, I just walk slower than these guys roll. But as for ways to introduce yourself, think about how you done it any other time with AB guys, its really no different. Don't let a wheelchair, prosthetics or any other hardware get in the way of a good conversation. Best of luck,,, no, no sorry,,, best of efforts to you in finding your dream guy Hmmm...any other hardware?! Am I missing another disablity sub-category here? Please explain, I'm totally intrigued... Yep, I think everyone else answered it for me Not forgetting Otto Bock-y things and stuff-ness. Where would I be without Otto Bock? About a mile behind where I am right now, I guess.
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Post by Emma on Oct 29, 2014 23:25:18 GMT -5
Are you dev girls always making love or quickie on your first date with wheeler guy? Everyone is different for sure but I'd say that most American women I know, both devs and non devs do not have sex on a first date. Sure it happens, but I don't think its typical or expected. On the other hand waiting until marriage to have sex for the first time is more common with people who have certain religious beliefs. I'd guess that from the people I know many non-religious or less religious Americans don't wait till they are married to have sex for the first time. I don't think being a dev changes the speed with wich you enter into a sexual relationship with a guy.
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Post by queenjane on Oct 30, 2014 10:22:16 GMT -5
Hmmm...any other hardware?! Am I missing another disablity sub-category here? Please explain, I'm totally intrigued... Ummm, ahem... What on earth could you be referring to, Braced?
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Post by Ray T on Oct 30, 2014 11:46:59 GMT -5
What do you say instead of 'fancy' a quickie then? 'Wanna'? 'Gimme'? 'Let's have'? 'You up for"? What...? All of those work except "gimme." You walk up to a disabled guy and say, "Gimme a quickie," you'll be arrested as a sex predator. LMAO! Or given what you asked for... lol By the way all 3 chairs i have had over the years have been Quickies
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Post by Ray T on Oct 30, 2014 11:55:22 GMT -5
Lol and the one i have now has power assist lol. So it is a quick, quickie with less effort lmao
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Post by rebel6842 on Oct 30, 2014 13:03:26 GMT -5
Well I would have known that was a load of bollocks straight away. What do you say instead of 'fancy' a quickie then? 'Wanna'? 'Gimme'? 'Let's have'? 'You up for"? What...? I wish I could say that to him. Most of people in my country are not talking sex explicitly or doing sex frequently before they enter marriage. It’s our culture. Most of the men are feeling more satisfaction when they found out their wife still virgin until their first sex after the wedding. It means mostly Indonesian girls are keeping their virginity until marriage. Are you dev girls always making love or quickie on your first date with wheeler guy? With respect to your culture, Jaina-just do what feels right for you, and don't worry what anyone else thinks...
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Post by Emma on Nov 2, 2014 23:56:14 GMT -5
I've just met him two days ago. I've had discussion and lunch with him. He's so friendly, nice, and charming. I can't wait until I meet him again. BTW, he has a very good upper body strength. Well-built biceps, which I like that so much. He's so fast, even he's just using manual standard wheelchair, not an ultra light weight wheelchair. Maybe next time I meet him, I just wear flat shoes. Can't wear high heels again Thanks great to hear Jaina! What an exciting time in your life. Enjoy it! So how did you meet him?
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Post by Maurine on Nov 3, 2014 10:22:16 GMT -5
Most of people in my country are not talking sex explicitly or doing sex frequently before they enter marriage. It’s our culture. Most of the men are feeling more satisfaction when they found out their wife still virgin until their first sex after the wedding. It means mostly Indonesian girls are keeping their virginity until marriage. Are you dev girls always making love or quickie on your first date with wheeler guy? I don't think it's unusual in many European countries, but many - dev/dis or not - wait for the second or third date if they think it's going to be long-term. Some may even wait for months. It's highly unusual to wait until marriage, though. My country isn't very religious, and even most religious people I know have sex before marriage. I don't know if it makes a difference in case of a dev/dis constellation. I can just say that I was more eager to become intimate with my first and only dis guy than with any AB guy. The physical attraction between us was more overwhelming than anything I had ever known. We also had had very intimate phone conversations before our first date, so we didn't wait. I think it depends on a lot of factors. I've just met him two days ago. I've had discussion and lunch with him. He's so friendly, nice, and charming. I can't wait until I meet him again. BTW, he has a very good upper body strength. Well-built biceps, which I like that so much. He's so fast, even he's just using manual standard wheelchair, not an ultra light weight wheelchair. Maybe next time I meet him, I just wear flat shoes. Can't wear high heels again I’m a research consultant. Usually I’m doing other corporate research. Now I’m conducting research of PWD (to satisfy my dev need). I’m doing a research “Evaluation of Customer Satisfaction for Building Accessibility at Shopping Mall in Jakarta”. It gave me opportunity to meet PWD guys. They’re my respondent. So I’ve introduce myself to him, that I’m a researcher. And I interviewed him. But I’m not just talk to him about the question in the questionnaire. I say compliment to him a lot, such as how good his biceps is, how bold he is when he’s doing marathon with his wheelchair, etc. Then after I finished interviewed him, he ask me to lunch with him, and I happily agree. We’re talked a lot of things. I think he’s smart, talkative and sociable. I can’t stop thinking about him after the meeting. Hope he’s thinking about me too That's great, I'm so happy for you! He definitely seems to like you! I wish you the best of luck!
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Post by lilyth on Nov 3, 2014 10:46:33 GMT -5
I've just met him two days ago. I've had discussion and lunch with him. He's so friendly, nice, and charming. I can't wait until I meet him again. BTW, he has a very good upper body strength. Well-built biceps, which I like that so much. He's so fast, even he's just using manual standard wheelchair, not an ultra light weight wheelchair. Maybe next time I meet him, I just wear flat shoes. Can't wear high heels again I haven't worn heels in two years now, unless I'm out with girlfriends and not my man. Haha. Never looked back, don't care! So excited for you! I love that you just went for it. Keep us updated of course!
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