dmdslayer
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Post by dmdslayer on Feb 1, 2015 12:24:52 GMT -5
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Post by blueskye101 on Feb 1, 2015 12:38:11 GMT -5
Nice
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Post by Mets on Feb 1, 2015 13:02:11 GMT -5
I've read his book and met him on a few occasions, great guy and hilarious author. His blog is what made me realize that dating was a possibility.
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Post by blueskye101 on Feb 1, 2015 15:19:07 GMT -5
Just read a link to William Peace( bad cripple ) Quite the rant on our other thread of inspirational porn. What does everyone think. Still think the kid has good things to say about using humor and that everyone deserves a good date once in a while
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Post by LaMara on Feb 1, 2015 15:28:33 GMT -5
Just read a link to William Peace( bad cripple ) Quite the rant on our other thread of inspirational porn. What does everyone think. Still think the kid has good things to say about using humor and that everyone deserves a good date once in a while Sorry but my limited english strikes again: whose rant about what thread? What link? It sounds interesting but I don't really understand and I'd like to know more...
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cooks
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Post by cooks on Feb 1, 2015 15:33:24 GMT -5
I have mixed feelings about this guy. I've read his blog and don't find him very funny; the punchline is always "I'm in a wheelchair and that's a-ok!" Great, but what else? I feel like he crosses the line into inspiration-porn pretty often as well.
Maybe I give him a hard time because he's a fellow SMA-er. Though his case is definitely more severe, I identify with him. It's his attitude that bothers me. His life and the lives of those close to him seem to be totally focused on his disability. I sympathize- it's a tendency that's difficult for anyone with a significant disability to avoid, especially during a rougher than usual patch. Still, I wish he'd for once talk about something other than how he bravely copes.
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Post by blueskye101 on Feb 1, 2015 15:53:29 GMT -5
Just read a link to William Peace( bad cripple ) Quite the rant on our other thread of inspirational porn. What does everyone think. Still think the kid has good things to say about using humor and that everyone deserves a good date once in a while Sorry but my limited english strikes again: whose rant about what thread? What link? It sounds interesting but I don't really understand and I'd like to know more... Sorry, the rant is on a blog by " badcripple" who's real name is William Peace. I was referencing our thread on "inspirational porn" Nothing wrong with you're English. I was not very clear. Hope that helps.
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Post by LaMara on Feb 1, 2015 16:30:46 GMT -5
blueskye101 thanks, I'm gonna check that guy's blog, I heard about it but never read it...
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BlasphaYou
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Post by BlasphaYou on Feb 1, 2015 22:18:50 GMT -5
I have this other problem where when I go out to lunch with my sister people think we are a couple. I may be warding off suitors unintentionally by hanging out with my sister...
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Post by mcc2121 on Feb 10, 2015 12:40:31 GMT -5
I have mixed feelings about this guy. I've read his blog and don't find him very funny; the punchline is always "I'm in a wheelchair and that's a-ok!" Great, but what else? I feel like he crosses the line into inspiration-porn pretty often as well. Maybe I give him a hard time because he's a fellow SMA-er. Though his case is definitely more severe, I identify with him. It's his attitude that bothers me. His life and the lives of those close to him seem to be totally focused on his disability. I sympathize- it's a tendency that's difficult for anyone with a significant disability to avoid, especially during a rougher than usual patch. Still, I wish he'd for once talk about something other than how he bravely copes. You might be my favorite poster now. I, too, hate when disabilities stop being real and start making people's eyes roll.
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Post by matisse on Feb 10, 2015 18:53:30 GMT -5
Just read a link to William Peace( bad cripple ) Quite the rant on our other thread of inspirational porn. What does everyone think. Still think the kid has good things to say about using humor and that everyone deserves a good date once in a while Looks like this is the rant: badcripple.blogspot.com/2013/04/shane-burcaw-laughter-is-not-always.htmlI am not as negative as the rant, but I do agree that the "everything's great!!!" inspiration porn is probably the worst of the porn. At least with straight up pity, you maybe have the effect of people actually appreciating what they do have. With "everything's great!!" porn what is the positive effect? Maybe a somewhat more enlightened view on disability? Who knows. What we really need is the opposite of disability porn: outright shame porn. If I were ever to speak about this, I would be tempted to go through all the crap I go through every day and for my work travel, and then ask people how they can still expect me to PAY ALL YOUR FUCKING TAXES WHILE YOU ARE ON THE COUCH EATING CHEETOS AND WATCHING KIM KARDASHIAN. Get off your asses and do something!!!! The fact that Kim Kardashian is a $100+millionaire and that I even know about her, or someone like "Snookie" is a testament to the laziness and superficiality of a significant portion of our society. But even my own rant aside--I think balance is important. People need to know that it's NOT all good for us, that it takes a lot more than just a cheery, can-do attitude for us. And as pointed out in another thread, it starts with basic stuff like transportation (shame on you NYC) and leaving our handicap spots alone.....
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Post by darthoso on Feb 11, 2015 3:04:38 GMT -5
I have mixed feelings about this guy. I've read his blog and don't find him very funny; the punchline is always "I'm in a wheelchair and that's a-ok!" Great, but what else? I feel like he crosses the line into inspiration-porn pretty often as well. Maybe I give him a hard time because he's a fellow SMA-er. Though his case is definitely more severe, I identify with him. It's his attitude that bothers me. His life and the lives of those close to him seem to be totally focused on his disability. I sympathize- it's a tendency that's difficult for anyone with a significant disability to avoid, especially during a rougher than usual patch. Still, I wish he'd for once talk about something other than how he bravely copes. Agreed completely. I don't consider SMA the primary thing that identifies me, for me it is third or forth on the list. Society wants us to be something in life in addition to being disabled and it just seems like this guy is being rewarded (not the right word) for being "just disabled". I'd love to hear his opinions on other stuff, pwds tend to have a unique perspective on things. It is why the US Intelligence Community likes hiring PWDs, we think outside the box and can offer alternative explanations.
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Post by Corey on Feb 11, 2015 22:19:52 GMT -5
I cant comment on his book or other articles, but I thought this one was okay?? I basically said the same thing as what hes saying a month or two ago in the 'devs as PCAs' thread. One thing Ill mention though is that the article was written kind of strangely. It starts off describing how people confuse his girlfriend for his nurse, but then he describes all the personal care activities she does for him. So the take home message of whoever reads the article is probably still going to be "dating a wheeler: just like being his nurse". The thing is, I am also an SMAer and am probably only a wee bit stronger than he is. The girl cuts my food and helps me sip too, and its a non-issue, not even worth mentioning. I dont think dating a wheeler is such a drastically different experience from dating anyone else, but he didnt describe it that way. I can see what people mean when they say he focuses on the disability
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Post by rebel6842 on Feb 12, 2015 0:12:49 GMT -5
Just read a link to William Peace( bad cripple ) Quite the rant on our other thread of inspirational porn. What does everyone think. Still think the kid has good things to say about using humor and that everyone deserves a good date once in a while Looks like this is the rant: badcripple.blogspot.com/2013/04/shane-burcaw-laughter-is-not-always.htmlI am not as negative as the rant, but I do agree that the "everything's great!!!" inspiration porn is probably the worst of the porn. At least with straight up pity, you maybe have the effect of people actually appreciating what they do have. With "everything's great!!" porn what is the positive effect? Maybe a somewhat more enlightened view on disability? Who knows. What we really need is the opposite of disability porn: outright shame porn. If I were ever to speak about this, I would be tempted to go through all the crap I go through every day and for my work travel, and then ask people how they can still expect me to PAY ALL YOUR FUCKING TAXES WHILE YOU ARE ON THE COUCH EATING CHEETOS AND WATCHING KIM KARDASHIAN. Get off your asses and do something!!!! The fact that Kim Kardashian is a $100+millionaire and that I even know about her, or someone like "Snookie" is a testament to the laziness and superficiality of a significant portion of our society. But even my own rant aside--I think balance is important. People need to know that it's NOT all good for us, that it takes a lot more than just a cheery, can-do attitude for us. And as pointed out in another thread, it starts with basic stuff like transportation (shame on you NYC) and leaving our handicap spots alone..... I'm going to take this in a slightly different direction: While BadCripple is correct in pointing out that there are much more important things going on than being "the happy cripple"-the problem is HOW he delivered the message. If you'll indulge me for a bit, I've got some "home course knowledge" on how he thinks the way he does While I don't know BC personally, when he mentioned ADAPT, I knew EXACTLY where he was going. For our international contingent, ADAPT is a radical disability rights group headquartered here in Denver, and I happened to use their home health branch for over 20 years while it was still active. The major problem with his (and ADAPT's) view of disability rights is the groupthink that it fosters: "If you're not for disability rights OUR way, you're wrong" IMO, they are more interested in civil disobedience and getting arrested than actually fostering the independent living they purport to support. BC's problem with Shane, IMO is rather disingenuous, because if he REALLY lived up to ADAPT's supposed creed, he would be supporting Shane in getting his message out instead of being the bitter "idiot in the ivory tower" he appears to be Before I get accused of being ungrateful towards ADAPT's mission/home health care branch, I'm truly not, they enabled me to go back to/finish college and find the two gigs I have now-I've just never found the need to "kiss their _" that other people have... The sad fact of the matter is that WE ALL need to teach the PWD-ignorant in whichever way we feel comfortable. And, IMO, throwing around terms like "inspiration porn", doesn't help, especially when I believe as Matisse does that it's not directed towards us, it's directed to the Jerry Springer-watching, Cheeto-eating segments of the AB world that are just lazy OK-rant over
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Post by matisse on Feb 12, 2015 12:36:04 GMT -5
Here's the follow-up article from the other thread: www.buzzfeed.com/alanwhite/heres-what-its-like-when-everyone-thinks-your-girlfriend-is?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgp#4ldqpgpNote the word "heartwarming"....... ;-) One thing I noticed is that they didn't ask some basic Qs like how they met, and what attracted them to each other initially. She says she knew she would like to head to a relationship from the start--ok, why did you like him? One thing Ill mention though is that the article was written kind of strangely. It starts off describing how people confuse his girlfriend for his nurse, but then he describes all the personal care activities she does for him. So the take home message of whoever reads the article is probably still going to be "dating a wheeler: just like being his nurse". Yeah I noticed that too. I think she was trying to make the point that she considers these things she does as not a big deal, but instead they come off as expected/inevitable. She probably should have over-emphasized the real point she was trying to make, given the audience.
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