katz
New Member
I have no idea what I am doing... :-)
Posts: 20
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by katz on Oct 4, 2015 19:35:18 GMT -5
Hi Katz! You've received great advice, and Emma makes a very good point. It might help if you try remembering why you're not attracted to him in the first place. It happened to me a while ago, when this now very good friend of mine who was a co-worker at the time started hitting on me. I wasn't particularly attracted until he broke his foot, crutches an'all. What's a dev supposed to do? But then we were both in a relationship so it really didn't go further than exchanging a few kisses. The thing is that, in your case, it's not about a broken foot. So, unless thay find a cure, it might last. You do have a great friendship going on though, which IMO is the best basis for a great love RS. Was/is your lack of attraction based on physical appearance? That's a great question. I think that's part of it. And of course, like your situation, that's completely changed now. I just don't want to complicate things with our friendship right now. I can wait and see what transpires naturally. This board has really helped get me over a bit of an emotional crisis and breathe again. Also he got an AFO, which has helped with his mobility and stability, and allowed me to chill out a little bit. I'm not going to rule out anything but my main concern at this point is helping him through this and being there for him. If I cross that line, I could ruin a perfectly good friendship and then not be able to be there for him on top of that. Does that make sense?
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katz
New Member
I have no idea what I am doing... :-)
Posts: 20
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by katz on Oct 7, 2015 9:28:05 GMT -5
I've been binge-watching House to feed my dev side. Mmmm Does he do it for anyone else?
Any other suggestions?
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Post by Justagirl on Oct 7, 2015 10:48:39 GMT -5
Welcome! I've enjoyed reading your intro and everyone's responses. Sorry, I don't watch much TV so I have no suggestions to offer, but I'm sure others will!
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katz
New Member
I have no idea what I am doing... :-)
Posts: 20
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by katz on Oct 26, 2015 15:47:02 GMT -5
A quick update... I can't remember why I wasn't attracted to him before. I am now. I miss him when he is not around and I think about him all the time. I think the dev-ness is winning.
We have gotten much closer since I first posted - emotionally and physically. We have been snuggling and cuddling and holding hands. It has been platonic so far. He is walking with a cane now. Emotionally, he is doing better. Stronger. Less fearful about the future.
Raise your hand if you totally saw this coming. I didn't.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2015 17:22:02 GMT -5
(raises hand) Under "normal" circumstances, it is rather common that good friends of different sex find themselves to be suddenly more than friends when something brings them closer. If this something happens to also increase the appeal of one of them, it is only natural that things would progress.. especially that you already lije each other. good luck
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