ghost
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Post by ghost on Jan 24, 2016 20:02:16 GMT -5
I live in an area where the general belief towards the disabled. Is that we are forced to be loners and forced to be completely celibate. As well as treated as a sexual. I am none of these things by nature I've come here looking for a woman I can actually date so that I may have an adult life and a sexuality. I'm a 36-year-old male college student. Located in Freeport Florida my disability is cerebral palsy I've had quite enough of the excuses and bull crap that comes with trying to date in this area if you're disabled. Anyone interested please reply
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Post by MarineAmp on Jan 24, 2016 22:04:13 GMT -5
I'm sure it is completely the disability's fault, nothing to do with you or being a 36 year old college student.
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Post by Mets on Jan 24, 2016 22:16:15 GMT -5
I'm sure it is completely the disability's fault, nothing to do with you or being a 36 year old college student.
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Post by A££Y "Cuddles" Magoo on Jan 24, 2016 22:45:59 GMT -5
I'm sure it is completely the disability's fault, nothing to do with you or being a 36 year old college student. ohh how did I know it was you Mean Marine? lol
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Post by farfaraway on Jan 24, 2016 23:03:47 GMT -5
Just remember.. No one here owes you a thing.
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Post by lucretia on Jan 24, 2016 23:04:24 GMT -5
Just reading through your posts, it doesn't look like you've posted more than trying to hook up.
You've been around for a while now, so pretty sure you've seen the advice given to everyone looking for a relationship.
This isn't a dating site, but people do meet here. I met my husband here. But we didn't get together because he posted every few months how lonely he was or how much bad luck he had.
Most of the successful guys will tell you to be confident in who you are and invite conversation. Perhaps not in exactly those words.
The women here may also tell you that confidence is attractive. The opposite.... Is the opposite
Since you've been around for three years, give or take, what do you like about PD? What has been your favorite conversation? When do you graduate? You've been in school for a while now. Are you a graduate student?
If you want to generate interest, you need to be interesting.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 24, 2016 23:37:30 GMT -5
Oh dear god... You're from Florida? No wonder nobody wants to talk to the disabled guy. They're a bunch of fucking savages down there, seriously.
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Had Enough
Jan 24, 2016 23:46:05 GMT -5
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Post by farfaraway on Jan 24, 2016 23:46:05 GMT -5
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ghost
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Post by ghost on Jan 25, 2016 5:59:20 GMT -5
In answer to your question the reason I have been in college so long is I've had a line full of prejudiced people doing everything they can to keep me out of college. I actually had to go to the state legislature to force my high school to find my records they came to have lost I was literally told by the person in charge of school accountability that I should just give up on college. I've also had to deal with a couple of instructors that required college force and legal force to make them behave so I could take their class Walton County is probably the most prejudiced place on earth I agree entirely with the comment that their savages in Florida. These people are still trying to get out of idea that African Americans are no longer slaves. For the information of any of the rest of you that would like to make fun of my age and the fact that I'm still in college for your information I have never failed anything in college I just had to fight a war to get to go to it in the first place. Needless to say I would tell you do not ever live in Walton County in Florida if you are disabled as this is probably the worst out of all of Florida if there's anywhere worse than this I wouldn't hardly imagine it. Enter the two people but decided to be jerks to me I would really like to post here without getting insults are fun made of me any time I open my mouth on this site. Thanks to them I've given serious consideration to simply deleting my account. The reason I came here was in the hopes that somewhere exist where I could elect like a normal person and maybe have some normal relationships where I actually get traded seriously instead of made a joke out of.
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ghost
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Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by ghost on Jan 25, 2016 6:07:29 GMT -5
If anyone would like to have a reasonable civil conversation I'm more than willing to. But I'm not here to be told what my problem supposedly is nor am I here for a life lesson. I'm here hoping to build some decent adult relationships. And as for the fact I always message looking to hook up perhaps I'm confused but it was my understanding that the definition of a devotee is someone who is sexually attracted to disabled people. If I am wrong or of said something offensive I apologize. But I would assume the purpose of this board would be to meet people who fit the desired persuasion. I have nothing against having an intelligent conversation about anything else but that is the primary reason I came here. After what I told you above about my educational history I think you can imagine how anyone disabled is traded in this county when they attempt any kind of socialization. I'm sorry if my words offend anyone I'm a very nice man in a very serious person and I have a lot of hobbies but I honestly thought it would be better to encourage conversation and not to write a biography here on my self. In a short bio I'm a biomedical engineering student I paint I draw I miss with computers I write stories. And I also have an IQ of 147. Which also means I typically have 1 million projects going just to keep from getting bored. Thanks for reading I apologize if my above comment came out rude but I really am a bit annoyed it the receptions I got here in the past. So please forgive me if I'm a little bit sharp
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Post by Hopper on Jan 25, 2016 8:01:35 GMT -5
You'd think with an IQ of 147 you'd be able to seperate text into paragraphs by now. Joking aside, its clear that your attitude is the problem here.Why not instigate the intellectual talk that you crave? Be pro-active in terms of showing your good qualities, show that side more than this self-loathing sea you're drowning in.
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Post by lucretia on Jan 25, 2016 9:32:39 GMT -5
Lots of guys here are in college. Lots of guys here are college graduates. Lots of guys here are incredibly intelligent. Lots of guys here have CP. Lots of guys here have overcome huge obstacles to get where they are today. I'm afraid you are not unique.
And... Yes. Being a dev means there is an attraction to disabled men. But most devs have an attraction to a primary disability with some secondary attraction to others. If you read the threads you'll find a huge variety in how devs react to different disabilities.
But first and foremost, women are attracted to men who are confidant and positive. Just like out in the real world. The difference here is, if you're disabled you're definitely seen as a sexual being. That's not an automatic "in". It's just a door opener.
So many guys have come here with the opening line " I'm disabled, come get me!"
It just doesn't work.
I'm married now, but I spent six years of active participation in thousands of conversations before I met the guy that became my husband.
Most single devs are just as picky as any other women. There is no magic word. A disability is an asset here, but that's really the only difference.
To attract someone, you must be attractive. Emotional maturity and emotional intelligence go much farther than mere IQ points. (Sorry, mine is only 145.)
I'm not trying to discourage you, but I am trying to tell you that simply stating your assets is just not enough.
Participation, getting to know the women here and letting them know you is the only way a relationship will develop.
Get to know the men, too. Many of us have known each other for years and years. They know us better than many of the people out there in the real world. Alienating the other guys or arguing with those giving you advice is just going to create barriers and more distance.
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Post by AlrightyAphrodite on Jan 25, 2016 10:39:31 GMT -5
Lots of guys here are in college. Lots of guys here are college graduates. Lots of guys here are incredibly intelligent. Lots of guys here have CP. Lots of guys here have overcome huge obstacles to get where they are today. I'm afraid you are not unique. And... Yes. Being a dev means there is an attraction to disabled men. But most devs have an attraction to a primary disability with some secondary attraction to others. If you read the threads you'll find a huge variety in how devs react to different disabilities. But first and foremost, women are attracted to men who are confidant and positive. Just like out in the real world. The difference here is, if you're disabled you're definitely seen as a sexual being. That's not an automatic "in". It's just a door opener. So many guys have come here with the opening line " I'm disabled, come get me!" It just doesn't work. I'm married now, but I spent six years of active participation in thousands of conversations before I met the guy that became my husband. Most single devs are just as picky as any other women. There is no magic word. A disability is an asset here, but that's really the only difference. To attract someone, you must be attractive. Emotional maturity and emotional intelligence go much farther than mere IQ points. (Sorry, mine is only 145.) Only 145...and you still manage to dress yourself and enter public life. Don't apologize Lu, you're an inspiration to the rest of us who just quiver in silence, gazing wistfully up at the 170s, where we know we'll never be...like a kitten endlessly chasing the elusive laser pointer...(wipes a tear away).
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Post by lucretia on Jan 25, 2016 10:52:15 GMT -5
Lots of guys here are in college. Lots of guys here are college graduates. Lots of guys here are incredibly intelligent. Lots of guys here have CP. Lots of guys here have overcome huge obstacles to get where they are today. I'm afraid you are not unique. And... Yes. Being a dev means there is an attraction to disabled men. But most devs have an attraction to a primary disability with some secondary attraction to others. If you read the threads you'll find a huge variety in how devs react to different disabilities. But first and foremost, women are attracted to men who are confidant and positive. Just like out in the real world. The difference here is, if you're disabled you're definitely seen as a sexual being. That's not an automatic "in". It's just a door opener. So many guys have come here with the opening line " I'm disabled, come get me!" It just doesn't work. I'm married now, but I spent six years of active participation in thousands of conversations before I met the guy that became my husband. Most single devs are just as picky as any other women. There is no magic word. A disability is an asset here, but that's really the only difference. To attract someone, you must be attractive. Emotional maturity and emotional intelligence go much farther than mere IQ points. (Sorry, mine is only 145.) Only 145...and you still manage to dress yourself and enter public life. Don't apologize Lu, you're an inspiration to the rest of us who just quiver in silence, gazing wistfully up at the 170s, where we know we'll never be...like a kitten endlessly chasing the elusive laser pointer...(wipes a tear away). LOL My uncle's IQ is far, far above us mere mortals and he has the saddest life... I love him, but he's so disfunctional I can't be in his orbit. My mom is the same way. IQ is no indicator of success in any area of life. It's a rush to find out you're in the top whatever percent... But in reality it bears few tangible gifts.
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ben10
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Post by ben10 on Jan 25, 2016 11:19:28 GMT -5
IQ is no indicator of success in any area of life. It's a rush to find out you're in the top whatever percent... But in reality it bears few tangible gifts. not to mention unless professionally administered(even then) iq tests are meaningless and mostly fake. none, NONE, of those online tests are real
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