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Post by Lee on Feb 5, 2005 13:55:49 GMT -5
I don't know how many disabled guys are reading this, but I'm just curious to what extent you realize that women/men are attracted to you for your disability? I'm always paranoid that when I'm extra friendly to an amputee I meet (for example), he knows the reason why immediately.....
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Post by Deleted on Feb 6, 2005 2:52:21 GMT -5
Personally I would have no idea unless they actually told me. I didnt even know about devotees until I went on the internet! I may have met hundreds and not known it! If I caught them looking at my legs etc I would assume they were wondering how disabled I am, what I can feel, why I am in the wheelchair etc. There would be no way of knowing I was actually turning them on ( unless they got a huge erection or a wet patch in front of my eyes!, according to thier sex
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Post by Rob on Feb 6, 2005 16:26:15 GMT -5
Because a disabled guy is a guy first and disabled second I try to make general conversation as I would to an abled guy.
If that's well recieved I will subtly bring in the wheelchair, disablity or whateverseems appropriate, and take it from there.
So far this has worked well. Unfortunately I haven't yet found a guy who I could be sure was gay as well, so I've never got to that stage.
Rob.
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Post by GimpyGuy on Feb 15, 2005 20:12:41 GMT -5
I'm like Paul. I am a gay disabled male and had no idea or at least very little idea that devotees existed until I got on the internet. It was at that point that I really started picking up on the fact that there were folks who maybe weren't staring at my wc or legs wondering about my situation but rather being turned on by it. Like Paul, unless someone (usually gals in my experience) brought it up, I was oblivious to the attraction. Now that I am more aware, I can't help but wonder when I see someone looking a bit longer or staring....
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Post by Lee on Feb 16, 2005 14:38:48 GMT -5
I met this single below knee amputee at my last job and I went out of my way to be friendly to him. But all I could think about was that he was thinking, "God, another f*cking devo!"
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Post by Randy on Feb 17, 2005 15:12:21 GMT -5
I'm a gay DAK who uses a wheelchair and have been aware for years that there are men attracted to my disability. Unless we meet in a gay setting there is no way they know I'm gay or vice versa.
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Post by wheelie37 on Sept 1, 2005 11:34:05 GMT -5
maybe devotees could come up with some sort of signal that may indicate that they MAY be a devotee. Like rainbow colours for People who are gay. maybe a small disabled badge. blue band. any suggestion? Otherwise unless you come over and say hi, we will not know and will think you are averting your eyes for other reasons
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Post by Scarecrow on Sept 3, 2005 5:57:47 GMT -5
I've never had a devotee show any interest. Not on the internet, nor in the real world. I don't think I'm the "type" that they're looking for. I have spina bifida, so I have a hump on my back. And I'm underweight, so I look like a skin covered skeleton. My legs also tend to point in awkward looking positions. I don't know if my independence has anything to do with it. I'm not sure if that's a turn on or a turn off.
Maybe I just smell funny.
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Post by Sean on Sept 3, 2005 6:43:38 GMT -5
Maybe I just smell funny. --> handing you a bar of soap Thing is, you probably will never know if it's a devotee showing interest or not. In fact, most devotees I know may be interested but are too shy, embarassed, ashamed, or whatever to actually *show* interest.
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Post by lisa on Sept 3, 2005 6:55:26 GMT -5
Scarecrow,
Sean said it.
I am a devo. This message board breaks down the barrier of shyness that in real life would not allow me to make eye contact with you or any other disabled guy in whom I may be interested.
As for independence being a turn on or off, depends on the devotee. Independence is not a turn off for me.
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Post by Scarecrow on Sept 3, 2005 7:24:58 GMT -5
Thanks for the soap wylz ;D I guess it's possible I've met one and didn't know it. There have been plenty of times when someone was kind to me, but I just assumed they were being nice. I understand where you are coming from Lisa. I was even a little hesitant to post on this site, which is why I've posted a few things as Scarecrow instead of under my screen name... alienhouseplant
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Post by lisa on Sept 3, 2005 7:48:49 GMT -5
Scarecrow/Alienhouseplant, you are fascinating. Your art is incredible. Don't be hesitant to post here, please. I have never joined a board before this one and it has been a very positive experience for me.
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Post by alienhouseplant on Sept 3, 2005 7:54:29 GMT -5
You are very sweet Lisa. Thank you. I like the people here, everyone is open and honest, and so many posts really make me think about things.
I'm really shy and self conscious. I can't tell you how many times I've started to post something in a thread someone started, only to chicken out and not send it. I'll try to be better about that. ;D
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Post by Christine on Sept 3, 2005 8:51:50 GMT -5
I think that there are plenty of non-devotees(and a large percentage of devotees, too!) that are able to look past the exterior and ready to love you for your personality. So, in a way, you are lucky, because you have all the 'right' people looking for you! And please don't be afraid to post whatever you like on this board!
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Post by Christine on Sept 3, 2005 8:54:23 GMT -5
and btw, independence is definitely a turn on . Just because devs are attracted to disabilities doesn't mean that we want for those people to act helpless or to be bitter!
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