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Post by Sir Paul on Oct 14, 2016 23:19:03 GMT -5
I really like your profile! You're funny and super interesting. Very nice. The only thing I wasn't sure about is the "let me touch your butt after the 5th date" part but that might just be me. Ha! Maybe that's not quite as amusing as I thought it was at the time. I appreciate you taking a look at my profile and for the compliment That's very sweet of you to say.
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Post by Sir Paul on Oct 15, 2016 11:47:14 GMT -5
I received this gem today "Grrrr, you look rather awkward! I doubt any woman will fancy you. Sorry, I just tell you the truth." The person has a blank profile, so maybe they just like trolling and spreading good cheer to the lonely hearts club.
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Post by PacMan on Oct 15, 2016 12:06:28 GMT -5
I received this gem today "Grrrr, you look rather awkward! I doubt any woman will fancy you. Sorry, I just tell you the truth." The person has a blank profile, so maybe they just like trolling and spreading good cheer to the lonely hearts club. Some people really are a waste of oxygen. Massage them back mate then block them so they don’t get a chance to re-reply and just say that they mustn’t be no Brad Pitt themselves as they don’t even have the guts to put their photo up.
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Post by Sir Paul on Oct 15, 2016 12:34:27 GMT -5
Some people really are a waste of oxygen. Massage them back mate then block them so they don’t get a chance to re-reply and just say that they mustn’t be no Brad Pitt themselves as they don’t even have the guts to put their photo up. I had to respond, though it didn't make me mad or anything. However, I'm reminded that there ARE some people so miserable that they would use up their time to inflict pain on a complete stranger for no reason at all. It's bizarre. I didn't bother telling this sub-human that I got out of a relationship with an intelligent, beautiful woman recently.
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nayr828
New Member
Posts: 14
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by nayr828 on Oct 19, 2016 19:43:48 GMT -5
Plenty of fish, most of the women on there won't even respond when they see my picture .
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nayr828
New Member
Posts: 14
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by nayr828 on Oct 19, 2016 21:32:25 GMT -5
Plenty of fish, most of the women on there won't even respond when they see my picture . Well see, there's your problem! Devs like wheelers cause it's easy for us to reach you when kissing. Kissing a giraffe is a big turn-off! Seriously, on POF distance is the biggest turn-off for me. I'll take a chance on lots of pictures, but I'm really not interested in the long distance thing. (In most cases.) Where are you? Are you messaging local women? I've messaged a few local people but there aren't very many. I live in southeastern Oregon, so most of the people around here are the outdoorsy type that like horseback riding, camping, offroading things like that all sounds fun but not being ablle to do any of those things kind of alienates me.
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nayr828
New Member
Posts: 14
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by nayr828 on Oct 19, 2016 21:55:41 GMT -5
I usually tell them about my interests and try not to grief them about my disability or try to get pity.
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Post by Pony on Oct 20, 2016 11:01:31 GMT -5
I don't mind posting my POF profile, it's been there years...nothing decent! pof ad
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Post by Pony on Oct 20, 2016 16:43:42 GMT -5
Back dat profile pic up here, baby...
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youngwheeler
New Member
Posts: 4
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by youngwheeler on Oct 25, 2016 13:13:51 GMT -5
Tried POF & Match. No dice, meeting people out and about may be best since girls generally can't get past the wheelchair initially. Show them you personality before the chair?
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Post by AlrightyAphrodite on Oct 25, 2016 13:41:32 GMT -5
Tried POF & Match. No dice, meeting people out and about may be best since girls generally can't get past the wheelchair initially. Show them you personality before the chair? This is curious to me. I tend to assume there are two types of girls, girls who are OK with the chair, and girls who aren't. To me, it's crazy to think a girl in the second category would overlook it, regardless of how sparkling your personality is. I would think it better to be up front in the beginning to avoid wasting your time. Does anyone else have any indication that a girl who is not originally OK with the disability might come around? I have no idea how "normal" girls react so I'm curious.
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Post by jturk on Oct 25, 2016 15:09:53 GMT -5
I put my wheelchair in my profile picture, because my feeling is if it's going to be a dealbreaker, it's going to be that way no matter when they find out so why go through all the time and effort to get to know that person in a dating situation when there is absolutely no chance in the first place?
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Post by hedgehog on Oct 25, 2016 17:27:45 GMT -5
Dude, I laughed out loud several times at stuff on your profile. You crack me up. Your pics are great too. Takes a strong man to post shots of yourself in front of a LunchBOX waxing salon. Your personality shines through. As I was reading through it, I'm reminded of a line in a movie where a guy asks for an opinion on what to wear for a first date. His shirt says "get it here" with a down arrow pointing to his crotch. The friend says, yeah, it may be hard to strike a really romantic note. (Ten points if you can identify that, by the way.) I love getting a feel for your sense of humor and the stuff you're into. I was missing the kind of things you're looking for in a woman though. Guess it depends on the point of the profile, but as a chick, I'd be looking for stuff like, "I'm looking for someone with a good heart that's loyal, responsible, loves to laugh and knows how to hotwire a TransAm". Maybe that's just my perfect man, but you get my point. If I was cruising your profile, I'd be wanting to know what you're looking for in a girlfriend/life partner beyond that fact that I am indeed female...check...and have a valid license...check...and would probably let you touch my butt by the fifth date...double check. I would probably message you just because you sound like a ton of fun to get to know, but I'd want more info. Us chicks are a demanding lot and I'd need data to narrow my field of research! Take this with a grain of salt because I've been domesticated longer than there was "an app for that, but there's my take on it. There will always be morons that do stuff like message you without the use of proper English and say you look awkward, but they felt that was somehow necessary to point out. Don't waste any energy on them. They definitely don't have a valid driver's license anyway.
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Post by hedgehog on Oct 25, 2016 18:12:58 GMT -5
Does anyone else have any indication that a girl who is not originally OK with the disability might come around? I have no idea how "normal" girls react so I'm curious. I guess I'm kind of one of those girls. I think part of the reason I keep vacillating between deciding if I'm a "true dev" or not is that it's something that's grown on me in recent years whereas a lot of you guys have said it's something you felt even as kids even if it wasn't figured out til later in life. My first wheeler friend was a guy I met online and as we clicked and planned to spend some time together in person, he felt the need to mention that he used a wheelchair as he'd been burned before by not mentioning it. That wasn't going to make a difference for me. I'm definitely not the kind of person that is going to backpedal like that's a deal breaker when we had already hit it off as friends. There was a little awkwardness as to what kind of help he needed and when he wanted assistance with things (since I was basically clueless in the beginning), but he was good about just asking or telling me in advance what the plan would need be logistically. I suppose my point is that while I wasn't someone that was originally drawn to disability in the traditional dev sense, I've gotten there over time because I'm more comfortable with it just from exposure, from spending time with friends who use wheelchairs. I'd have no qualms about being in a relationship with a PWD now whereas I would have been hesitant a few years back, mostly just because I wouldn't have known what to expect or how it could work out. Moral of the story for the PWDs, let the women like I used to be see you for the fun, interesting guys you are and we will find a way to get to know you better.
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Post by hedgehog on Oct 25, 2016 18:14:55 GMT -5
What a coincidence! I was just re-watching Notting Hill yesterday hedgehog . I agree Sir Paul is a great catch for the right gal! Ten points for Betty! Best selection of first date shirts ever there! And yep, I totally agree.
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