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Post by britishtetra on Apr 15, 2017 9:10:15 GMT -5
During my time on this site, I had written to many ladies on here and become friends with many. I have written to [name deleted] for about four years, sharing intimate details with each over on various topics and I was led to believe that she was single. This however was not the case, she told me she was scared of meeting a disabled man because she was a devotee, I accepted this and just spend time on Messenger talking to her. Then six months ago when we was chatting on the hangout her surname popped up so I looked on Facebook and found out that she was married, to a disabled man. I have been trying to contact her since and she has blanked me over and over again to the point were I'm sick of her lies. If she had gotten back told me she was sorry for lying then it wouldn't of got to this. Do you think I should tell her husband that his wife has shared intimate conversations with another disabled man, sent photographs of herself to him or should I just leave it?
Pete in sunny Oswestry.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2017 9:20:31 GMT -5
I know you must be hurt by this but I personally think that you should leave it and move on.
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Post by robbb on Apr 15, 2017 9:36:53 GMT -5
I agree, you can never be sure who you are talking to online. I had a similar thing chatting to a para guy I met on here who turned out not to be a para. I think all you can do is chalk it up to experience. At least you're not the guy she's married to.
R.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Apr 15, 2017 11:04:51 GMT -5
This is not cool and you should delete it.
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Post by MarineAmp on Apr 15, 2017 11:18:25 GMT -5
During my time on this site, I had written to many ladies on here and become friends with many. I have written to [name deleted] for about four years, sharing intimate details with each over on various topics and I was led to believe that she was single. This however was not the case, she told me she was scared of meeting a disabled man because she was a devotee, I accepted this and just spend time on Messenger talking to her. Then six months ago when we was chatting on the hangout her surname popped up so I looked on Facebook and found out that she was married, to a disabled man. I have been trying to contact her since and she has blanked me over and over again to the point were I'm sick of her lies. If she had gotten back told me she was sorry for lying then it wouldn't of got to this. Do you think I should tell her husband that his wife has shared intimate conversations with another disabled man, sent photographs of herself to him or should I just leave it? Pete in sunny Oswestry. ya let him know |
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Post by darthoso on Apr 15, 2017 11:24:31 GMT -5
Do nothing. Except maybe delete this thread because calling someone out publicly is kind of a dick move. You don't know her situation or the dynamics of it, so it isn't your place to do anything about it.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2017 11:25:16 GMT -5
Yeah, this is just bad form to air your laundry and name names when doing it. I get you're hurt, but this is just vindictive. No, you shouldn't tell her husband; you shouldn't have told us, at least not with so many details. It sucks man, but at this point you should leave it alone. I guess your hope is she'll see it here and know how much she's hurt you, but it's pretty messed up to name her here. We can't get her side of it and we might not be getting the the full story anyway.
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Post by mikefatty on Apr 15, 2017 11:29:22 GMT -5
dude.. dick move. take the names out of the post. not cool.
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Post by Sir Paul on Apr 15, 2017 11:44:19 GMT -5
No. Do not tell her husband. You are not a crusader fighting against immorality and saving your fellow man. It would be petty, pathetic, and it will bring NOTHING but misery to everyone involved, including yourself. Take a breath and give it time. Also, think about deleting your post or taking out the names. No woman will ever think about getting involved with a guy that places absolutely no value on discretion.
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Post by wheelavfun on Apr 15, 2017 12:11:22 GMT -5
Why would you even dream of possibly wrecking a marriage or at least giving this guy heartache he doesn't need. Why did you feel the need to use her name? Time to forget and move on I would say.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2017 12:48:01 GMT -5
I've been hurt in ways by girls so I understand the desire to stop the playing however it kinda sounds like that is what it was for her playing not cheating. Your moral compass may disagree but there's a whole world of gray out there swingers, poly and just plain players so there's no real reason to tell the husband in my view there's no real way to prove cheating was her goal as defined by you.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 15, 2017 13:10:01 GMT -5
Ok mate, I can see your hurting, but you didn't share publicly you were chatting to her, so it's not fair you share publicly it's not worked out. What goes on in private should stay private.
A simple "be careful all is not always as it seems" would have been enough and I'm sure you'd have got plenty of support and empathy from the people here.
Doing it this way, smacks of bitterness ... Life is too short to feel like that.
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Post by audrewsmith on Apr 15, 2017 13:46:08 GMT -5
She can always tell her side of the story if she believes there is the other side of the story to tell.
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Post by darthoso on Apr 15, 2017 15:32:53 GMT -5
She can always tell her side of the story if she believes there is the other side of the story to tell. It's not our business. |
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Post by audrewsmith on Apr 15, 2017 15:59:15 GMT -5
She can always tell her side of the story if she believes there is the other side of the story to tell. It's not our business. Oh well, even we all know it's none of others' business, it won't stop others gossiping. Don't you agree? |
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