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Jun 15, 2017 11:44:17 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 11:44:17 GMT -5
I think we've all been in love with someone and they stopped reciprocating those feelings.
I been in a situation like that and tried to stay "bffs" with this woman. She decides this morning to send me the Dear John message randomly that she's seeing someone new and hopes we can stay close friends.
That's obviously not gonna happen. It's torture to myself. So my question is...to all...how did you move on?
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Post by James on Jun 15, 2017 11:55:52 GMT -5
You just put your head down and push forward.
Remove and block her from all social media, go spend time with your friends, do what makes you happy. If it was me I'd go out with friends, see some live metal, have a drink, and learn to have fun again.
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Post by darthoso on Jun 15, 2017 12:36:06 GMT -5
You just put your head down and push forward. Remove and block her from all social media, go spend time with your friends, do what makes you happy. If it was me I'd go out with friends, see some live metal, have a drink, and learn to have fun again. That's definitely one approach, me I've never understood the value of burning bridges with people unless they've screwed me over in a intentionally harmful way. The only person I've really burned a bridge with was an aide who left $5k worth of damage to my apartment (dog ate the floor). Relationships of all types have ups and downs, but just because it is currently down doesn't mean it needs to stay there by force. Let it play out naturally and see where it goes long term. I'm not saying don't protect yourself or become her confidant, but don't curse her away either.
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Post by James on Jun 15, 2017 14:45:33 GMT -5
Eh it's not really about burning bridges. He says he's heartbroken so the last thing he needs is to have easy access to seeing her happy with someone else
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Post by el_steveo on Jun 15, 2017 14:48:47 GMT -5
I think we've all been in love with someone and they stopped reciprocating those feelings. I been in a situation like that and tried to stay "bffs" with this woman. She decides this morning to send me the Dear John message randomly that she's seeing someone new and hopes we can stay close friends. That's obviously not gonna happen. It's torture to myself. So my question is...to all...how did you move on? weed...lots of weed.
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Jun 15, 2017 14:49:16 GMT -5
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Post by malibu on Jun 15, 2017 14:49:16 GMT -5
Is she on pd?
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Jun 15, 2017 14:52:36 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 14:52:36 GMT -5
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Jun 15, 2017 14:53:03 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 14:53:03 GMT -5
I think we've all been in love with someone and they stopped reciprocating those feelings. I been in a situation like that and tried to stay "bffs" with this woman. She decides this morning to send me the Dear John message randomly that she's seeing someone new and hopes we can stay close friends. That's obviously not gonna happen. It's torture to myself. So my question is...to all...how did you move on? weed...lots of weed. That's my solution for everything in life though
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Post by malibu on Jun 15, 2017 15:29:04 GMT -5
It's easiest and quickest just to block everywhere, exclude everything (pictures and messages), throw away stuff, change the color of your wall, change the wallpaper of your phone, quit pot, don't look back and party
I cant think of many perks of still be friendly with ex...maybe the slight satisfaction when you realize she's dating someone much less interesting than yourself? But I dont know if thats worth it, really! Better block and make sure you date someone more interesting than her next time.
Mature advices.
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Jun 15, 2017 15:51:35 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 15:51:35 GMT -5
I'll quit pot when I'm in my grave, and if there's an afterlife I'll probably try getting stoned in it too.
In a nutshell, this started out as an accidental fling. I tried online dating shortly after my divorce in 2011. for the first time. As most of us can attest to, online dating sucks from our position. It sucks for most people but especially for us. So when I held the attention of a younger well endowed chested mother, I was fit to be tied. One thing led to another and she moved in. Of course I wasn't her only lover and after that big spill she had to go. That was my first demon to overcome
A few years go by and I'm friends with this chick to see the kid. I did help raise her briefly. Over that time, her mother started commenting on my stuff. With witty sarcasm and she understood sports and she was dirty minded. It turned out the mom was who I really loved. But she was unhappily married and sold me on all the right things. The sex was breathtaking and I didn't care that she had 12 years experience on me.
A few years later here we are and I'm alone. She's separated but with a new man
And this all started because I wanted to tell my ex off one day and end it with "I fucked your mom" and mean it FML
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Jun 15, 2017 15:56:00 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 15:56:00 GMT -5
Eh it's not really about burning bridges. He says he's heartbroken so the last thing he needs is to have easy access to seeing her happy with someone else I didn't block her but I do unfollow all feeds. You're right I can live with what I don't see
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 18:34:23 GMT -5
I'll quit pot when I'm in my grave, and if there's an afterlife I'll probably try getting stoned in it too. In a nutshell, this started out as an accidental fling. I tried online dating shortly after my divorce in 2011. for the first time. As most of us can attest to, online dating sucks from our position. It sucks for most people but especially for us. So when I held the attention of a younger well endowed chested mother, I was fit to be tied. One thing led to another and she moved in. Of course I wasn't her only lover and after that big spill she had to go. That was my first demon to overcome A few years go by and I'm friends with this chick to see the kid. I did help raise her briefly. Over that time, her mother started commenting on my stuff. With witty sarcasm and she understood sports and she was dirty minded. It turned out the mom was who I really loved. But she was unhappily married and sold me on all the right things. The sex was breathtaking and I didn't care that she had 12 years experience on me. A few years later here we are and I'm alone. She's separated but with a new man And this all started because I wanted to tell my ex off one day and end it with "I fucked your mom" and mean it FML Ummm.... (How is there not a head-scratching emoji?) To each their own. I guess it doesn't matter HOW love develops, it always sucks when it's over. I was so hung up on an ex for so long that it's kind of embarrassing, actually. My advice is try to remember the bad times. I know that sounds depressing but it really helped me realize that she isn't worth the constant heartache. Lean on your friends, live for yourself and throw yourself into something you enjoy (or at least keeps you busy). I think cutting all ties is a necessity. It's too easy to just "take a peek" at their FB page or instagram and set yourself back over and over again. Just let it be over. The best way to avoid meeting the right partner is to keep the wrong one around.
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Post by newjess on Jun 15, 2017 18:49:28 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your heartache @theboulder88 ...that's never fun I really feel like it depends on the person though. I dated a guy for a few years and he is literally my best friend now. Yeah it was confusing at times but it was also nice being able to talk to each other about our feelings, how much the break up sucked, etc. I've had other relationships where.... Yeah that wasn't going to happen lol. In those cases I agree I think cutting off ties as much as possible and moving on is for the best. But wait I'm confused... So you ended up having sex with the original girl's mom? So now are you having heartache over the mom, or the original girl, or both?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 15, 2017 18:51:01 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your heartache @theboulder88 ...that's never fun I really feel like it depends on the person though. I dated a guy for a few years and he is literally my best friend now. Yeah it was confusing at times but it was also nice being able to talk to each other about our feelings, how much the break up sucked, etc. I've had other relationships where.... Yeah that wasn't going to happen lol. In those cases I agree I think cutting off ties as much as possible and moving on is for the best. But wait I'm confused... So you ended up having sex with the original girl's mom? So now are you having heartache over the mom, or the original girl, or both? Yeap slept with the mom of the ex Fell for the mom who was also just as confused in her life as the daughter I'm an idiot in a nutshell
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Jun 15, 2017 19:31:29 GMT -5
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Post by newjess on Jun 15, 2017 19:31:29 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about your heartache @theboulder88 ...that's never fun I really feel like it depends on the person though. I dated a guy for a few years and he is literally my best friend now. Yeah it was confusing at times but it was also nice being able to talk to each other about our feelings, how much the break up sucked, etc. I've had other relationships where.... Yeah that wasn't going to happen lol. In those cases I agree I think cutting off ties as much as possible and moving on is for the best. But wait I'm confused... So you ended up having sex with the original girl's mom? So now are you having heartache over the mom, or the original girl, or both? Yeap slept with the mom of the ex Fell for the mom who was also just as confused in her life as the daughter I'm an idiot in a nutshell Lol I'm just... Still confused. In terms of being heartbroken, is it over the mom or the daughter?
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