Disabled man with CP looking for a serious relationship

[peter37]

Hi,


I am a 37 year old man born with cerebral palsy wishing to find love. It feels so strange talking about my disability after spending my life trying to blend in as much as possible.


I thought I'd tell you a bit about my disability and myself and if you're still interested hopefully we could form a real connection and go from there. 


I was born with severe cerebral palsy throughout my body predominately affecting my left side and legs. I was the only disabled person in mainstream education at my school and it was tough. However, I gained a strength of character and resolve from my adversity that has enabled me to be successful in later life. The isolation was hard and continues to be, although I distract myself, finding things to do and travelling: I've worked hard and I own a few houses, but I'm still alone and I miss the intimacy of being with someone. The point is particular rammed home as all of my friends are paired of now.I'm not meeting anyone new in my circle of friends, so I'm nervously reaching out. I was with an abled bodied woman at university, but she said, she liked me and that's I was with her for almost three years, but my disability did nothing for her and she didn't like the reaction of others when she was with me. 


So I am hoping to find a devotee woman that finds my disability attractive to build a connection with. Please don't be afraid to share your devotee desires/life style with me: I just see it as you having a type. I also have a type which I'm not ashamed off: I like woman to have a great bum and sexy legs.

Please get in touch if you'd like to build a connection with me or if you'd like to know more about my disability. bye for now. 

[blueskye101]

Welcome.

[peter37]

Thank you myrrh. Yes I'm English, I used to work as a primary school teacher, but due to muscle stiffness I had to take a job as an administrator: but I love the people I work with. What do you do for work?

[peter37]

Thank you Blueskye101.

[peter37]

Hi Myrrh,

I see you're from Oregon: Have you every done the Goonies tour? My friends and I always talk about doing it.

[Hopper]

I agree with @tc123. You do make a good first impression but hijacking other threads with the same message (welcome threads no less, the height of rudeness, it's the forum equivalent of stage invasion) doesn't sit well with me at all.

It's great that you're here and personally it's rather cool to see someone so similar to myself in terms of CP and general experiences. But you need to slow down and take your time here. Tell us about the travelling, tell us about Uni and also your hobbies.

Take time to let us meet YOU, not just your disability. I mean, that's a part of you that's interesting alright, but it needs something with it.

Stick around and put yourself out there, I must say I admire the confidence you have to do so, but just take care and read the forum, find a common interest and see what interests you in turn and makes you tick.

[peter37]

Yes I taught primary children 5-11 and I really enjoyed teaching. The best part was Monday morning, all the children would come in with their smiley faces and art work and rush to tell me their stories: I'd be thinking where am I going to put the new artwork. Sadly I had to have an operation and the recovery time was a year. I never went back into the profession after such a time away: I am thinking of getting back into it though. I'm fortunate now that I can do what I want to do, rather than what I have to do financially.

To help you get to know me better I'll give you a bit of a summary: Now, physically, its very had to spot I have CP when clothed, you'll perhaps notice a slight gait and limp when walking. I am fortunate now, but I didn't start of that way. I live close to a major international UK Hospital and to this day I still hold the record for being the most premature baby to survive. I was pronounced dead at birth, but then they noticed I wasn't. I spent a year in an incubator and from that point I have had operation after operation to get to where I am today. Although every operation has benefit me and I'm grateful for the quality of life the doctors gave me, I do suffer some sleepless nights with the memory of the pain. It's strange, the bullying at school doesn't bother me, water of a duck back, but the memory of the pain from the operations remains. but I just get on with it and endure. I hope to make a connection with a devotee and be able to talk about my pain. It does not come easy to me as I'm from a military family and we just get on with it.

After university I did the gap year thing and taught in the Middle East, I told myself it was the gap year thing, but really I was running away and didn't realise it. Eventually I followed my feet home and got a job as an administrator and I work with great people and it gives me more free time than teaching did. I'm looking to find someone and hopefully raise a family. I think that's why I started my property business. No matter how many more operations I have to have, I'll also have the rental yield coming in supporting a potential family.

To sum me up: I want to make a real connection with a devotee and hopefully have a family: before then I'd like to see the world with her. I like Red Dwarf and horror movies and I love the ocean.

I am worried that the a devotee woman might be put of by the fact that I am having a few sleepless nights at the moment, hoping it will pass and I'm struggling a bit with survival guilt. I'll probably get zero responses now, I've been to open, but I am what I am. Anything else you'd like to know just ask.

Sergeant Gunny, hilarious.

[peter37]

I'm a definite child of the eighties and I believe that era of cartoon and movies were the best. I remember getting up early to watch the Mysterious Cities of Gold and Dungeons and Dragons on a Saturday morning.

I've always had to be hard and determined to survive at school and in life: I've had to earn every inch of respect and success. My father was my role model growing up and still is. I remember him carrying me up three flights of stairs at the cinema so that I could watch the Back to the Future Movies when they came out. In later life I enjoy the UK TV drama Sharpe: take a look..

As steadfast as I've had to be, I still cannot watch the movie Beaches without getting a bit misty eyed. I am a man that's always had to take the hard road and I've become the man that people lean on for support.

To sum up, I'm a steadfast man who can't help but cry when watching the movie Beaches that is looking for a devotee woman that's attracted to a man with Cerebral Palsy that wouldn't mind being a comforting ear and someone to cuddle on a sleepless night. Lovely bum and sexy legs is a bonus.

[Hopper]

Well Pete, despite us having a 13 year age gap among other differences our stories are remarkably similar. That's a cool thing to see and I hope you stick around.

One thing though, myrrh is right. This site is more like a support group or a social club.

While your romantic enthusiasm is admirable, it could be off-putting to some, so being in the 'dating site' mindset can be counterproductive.

Despite that, you have a penchant for storytelling and plenty to say. So take a seat, grab a drink and have fun.