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Post by missparkle on Jan 11, 2018 14:28:37 GMT -5
Thank you shape for your nice welcome! Cider sounds lovely!
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krissnap
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Posts: 17
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by krissnap on Jan 11, 2018 14:41:05 GMT -5
Hello everyone, I hope my message finds you all in good health and nice spirit! Although I know about this place from years and years ago and I was reading at times, it seems that only now the time has finally come for me to join it. Being aware of my “weird” attraction for as long as I can remember, wasn't easy for me to cope with and yet knowing very precisely what it is, what I am, I didn't want to identify, to belong to any similar group. I was probably in denial, but there has always been one more thing that was bothering me... Very usually accent is, both by devs and pwds, on the physical side of the whole thing. Oh how I wish it was so simple for me, it would make things much easier! For me this attraction yes, has clear sexual aspect, but it is far more complex than that. I have a strong desire, need, an urge to bond with pdw, another human being, on so many different, deepest levels. I am bright, positive, easy going person, very friendly with pretty good social skills. I can easily fit into any group, enjoy it and lighten up the atmosphere, being it kids, elderly people, respectful members of society, professionals or just simple, ordinary folks. By nature I am opened and extremely curious, always thirsty for new knowledge and experiences. I adore nature, animals and I spend outside as much time as I can. Water is my great passion, in all it's states and if I'd believe in previous life, which I don't , I'd thought I was some water creature, mermaid preferably! My mind is very rational, analytic, but I am also a big dreamer, too. Although turning 40 soon, mature and experienced enough, I am irreparable romantic and I still believe in fairy tales and happy ends. I hope that in the time that comes, I will have an opportunity here to openly express my toughs and emotions on various matters. The main reason I finally decided to join the site is the atmosphere and the level of communication here. I see a lot of smart, strong individuals very well aware of themselves and the world around us, who have a lot to say and know how to express it respectfully. I believe that reading posts and replies both from other devs and pwds will help me understand myself better and at the end, maybe I can contribute in some positive way to this small community, too. Welcome Missparkle! Love the way you describe yourself! I'm pretty new here too, but the members seem pretty great so far.
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Post by Sir Paul on Jan 11, 2018 14:57:25 GMT -5
Oh, it's weird in the best possible way. The way that WE have something special and many others go about their daily lives filled with sameness without experiencing the unique. Welcome to paradise. (or a small piece of it anyways)
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2018 15:00:28 GMT -5
Yes mom
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Post by shape on Jan 11, 2018 15:04:10 GMT -5
No mom! Aunt?? 😂😋
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Post by missparkle on Jan 11, 2018 15:06:23 GMT -5
Yes mom No mom! I am freshmen over here, therefore I can party only under seniors' supervision! I am not leaving the ballroom!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2018 15:10:44 GMT -5
Yes mom No mom! I am freshmen over here, therefore I can party only under seniors' supervision! I am not leaving the ballroom! No pm then
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Post by missparkle on Jan 11, 2018 15:49:33 GMT -5
Oh, it's weird in the best possible way. The way that WE have something special and many others go about their daily lives filled with sameness without experiencing the unique. Welcome to paradise. (or a small piece of it anyways) When you put it in that perspective, I almost feel privileged to be weird! Not to mention direct entrance to paradise!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2018 16:25:47 GMT -5
Hello everyone, I hope my message finds you all in good health and nice spirit! I was probably in denial, but there has always been one more thing that was bothering me... Very usually accent is, both by devs and pwds, on the physical side of the whole thing. Oh how I wish it was so simple for me, it would make things much easier! For me this attraction yes, has clear sexual aspect, but it is far more complex than that. I have a strong desire, need, an urge to bond with pdw, another human being, on so many different, deepest levels. Hi missparkle, welcome to PD. Hope you stick around this time and will realize sooner than later that you are not weird and if it is weird, than it is a good weird. Anyhow, can you explain for me the part above about the "accent, both by devs and pwds"? I didn't understand that.
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Post by tori on Jan 11, 2018 17:08:33 GMT -5
Welcome!
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Post by missparkle on Jan 11, 2018 17:21:19 GMT -5
Anyhow, can you explain for me the part above about the "accent, both by devs and pwds"? I didn't understand that. Ok, I am sorry if I was not clear enough. English is, obvious, not my mother tongue, so maybe there will be times when I make mistakes, I apologize for that. I wrote "Very usually accent is, both by devs and pwds, on the physical side of the whole thing." trying to say the following: When spoken about devotism, both by devs and pdws, it is mainly from the angle of physical side of attraction, that aspect is emphasized. For me, although not denying physical attraction and strong sexual desire, there is much more to it and it is more complex and deeper. To what I am attracted to, is not only and necessarily physical manifestation of particular disability, but includes many other aspects of "disability life" if you'd like.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2018 22:41:02 GMT -5
missparkle Thanks for clarifying. I think you will find that for many devs it is actually not only a physical thing at all but goes a lot deeper than just physical attraction. It is a misconception that it is mostly physical. I am also not only physically attracted to the guys with my preferred disability. It is a lot more psychological for me. The physical features and the hardware as for example the wheelchair are important but the psyche is just as important. I am sure there are other devs for whom devness goes a lot deeper than only physical. I can't speak for the guys but lots of men are a lot more visual than women and they may first see the object of their desire physically before they deal with the psychological side.
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Post by missparkle on Jan 12, 2018 4:53:08 GMT -5
missparkle Thanks for clarifying. I think you will find that for many devs it is actually not only a physical thing at all but goes a lot deeper than just physical attraction. It is a misconception that it is mostly physical. I am also not only physically attracted to the guys with my preferred disability. It is a lot more psychological for me. The physical features and the hardware as for example the wheelchair are important but the psyche is just as important. I am sure there are other devs for whom devness goes a lot deeper than only physical. I can't speak for the guys but lots of men are a lot more visual than women and they may first see the object of their desire physically before they deal with the psychological side. Yes, you've understood me well now, this is the aspect I was referring to. And yes, I am aware of the fact that many devs probably feel similar. But I was trying to say that most things that you can find, read about, that are said on forums, here and there, mainly address physical side of attraction. I would love to explore more psychological side of it, because, when it comes to me, it is the part that bothers me more. If it would be only primal, raw, sexual attraction on what I see, I would cope with that easily. But it is not. I am very attracted to the changes that disability makes on "inner being" of the person. Without idealizing, glorifying or making saint of anyone gone trough the "torture", one thing we all have to admit, disability yes, changes person's perception and attitude about life, itself and the world surrounding. And even if we agree that it is ok to be attracted to one's "body scars" is ot ok to be attracted to the "scars on soul"?
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Post by missparkle on Jan 12, 2018 5:06:42 GMT -5
I definitely vote “to be on PD!” Im glad you’ve joined us, you’ve already sparked some great conversation. Thank you @tc123 , the vote feels good, especially coming from you, one of my idols here. I hope you can deal with that! Lol My question "to be" was rather a joke. My decision to join was well reasoned and measured, after literally decades wearing this burden on my own and trying to deal with it the best way I knew. I have no intentions to go anywhere, I came to stay. And to light some fire! Every blaze starts with a modest sparkle... LOL
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Post by shape on Jan 12, 2018 5:24:06 GMT -5
missparkle... Love the tread, but I have to say it... You're a poet!!! Scars on soul... Every fire starts... With missparkle?? ;D
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