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Post by Experimentalist on Feb 2, 2018 17:38:24 GMT -5
Background: I like to try different things. One game I've played with an ex (non-dev) was that she wore a blindfold, got undressed etc. while I was watching. I liked it because I got the chance to look, even stare without any judgement or self-consciousness. Like most men, I like to look at women but we are (rightly) taught not to stare. You can stare at your own partner under the right circumstances, but even then you moderate it with politeness. In this case she gave me explicit permission to stare how, where and for as long as I wanted without judgement. She liked it for being watched and admired. My question to devs: What if the roles were reversed? Would you as a dev enjoy it if your pwd date or partner wore a blindfold and you were free to look? To really stare without him 'catching you' at it? What would you do? Would sit and watch him? Walk around him? Touch him (provided that was agreed)? Define your own context. It's someone you don't know well, someone you're dating or your partner. Give as much detail as you feel is appropriate  ps. my perspective is obviously that of a wheeler and I wonder what devs who like wheelers think. For blindness devs there might be a whole other dimension to it, or a way to achieve the same effect. I don't know. |
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Post by queenjane on Feb 2, 2018 18:20:17 GMT -5
Loving this thread already. I’m both a wheeler AND a blindness dev, and I can say yes with no hesitation, playing with disability / sensory experience in any number of scenarios & in different combinations is intriguing to me.
What really interests me in all this (and I’m guessing many other devs, too) is the experience of the dis guy who willingly makes himself vulnerable in that way, and even finds the experience enjoyable. I love to know about all the feels.
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Post by malibu on Feb 2, 2018 23:09:00 GMT -5
You can stare at your own partner under the right circumstances, but even then you moderate it with politeness. Nahh I´m not that polite!  |
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Post by devogirl on Feb 2, 2018 23:42:39 GMT -5
Would you as a dev enjoy it if your pwd date or partner wore a blindfold and you were free to look? To really stare without him 'catching you' at it? What would you do? Oh my yes. I have used blindfolds on both AB and PWD partners and it's the best. Probably the easiest and hottest way to initiate some SM play. I'm also a huge blindness dev, so that is part of it too. As for what I did once the blindfold was on, you can read all about it in Devo Diary. New chapter coming this Monday! |
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Post by lucretia on Feb 3, 2018 5:18:09 GMT -5
Definitely yes!
My husband and I have both experimented with blindfolds and mild restraints.
It's super exciting to play with sensory changes. It also requires a bit of trust.
My first husband and I also played around with blindfolds and restraints. Interestingly, my second husband and father of my children was adamantly against any of it. *shrug* His loss.
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Post by Experimentalist on Feb 3, 2018 5:48:42 GMT -5
What really interests me in all this (and I’m guessing many other devs, too) is the experience of the dis guy who willingly makes himself vulnerable in that way, and even finds the experience enjoyable. I love to know about all the feels. Right, I'd enjoy it because of the sensory deprivation, the vulnerability, the not knowing what happens next. But more importantly it's the knowledge that I'm giving a gift to you as a dev, that you get an enjoyment from this that most people wouldn't. |
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Post by Experimentalist on Feb 3, 2018 5:55:30 GMT -5
Ive actually fantasized about this a little- The first real life glimpse of the form/body of a pwd I admire. I like to explore each other’s bodies, so for me it would be a hands-on experience, not just to watch from a distance. Fingertips, tongue, slight touch from the back of your hand along his body, tracing scars.. you know. In my case I only have sensation from the shoulders up, so any touches there, like neck (incl scar), ears etc would be intense while anything below my shoulders I wouldn't feel at all. While to you it would feel similar - all just skin. Or would it? How does the knowledge of the sensory dividing line affect how you experience the touch? |
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Post by butterfly on Feb 3, 2018 12:12:07 GMT -5
Absolutely yes. Touch would be a big part of it for me, for proper exploration and appreciation. My playful and creative sides would come out in spades, and I’d love that he wouldn’t know what was coming next. And I’d love that, even blindfolded, he’d still know that I was admiring him. And the touch part....so many things to touch and touch with....celebrating every part of him....sensation or not, I’d still be able to feel it and, possibly, describe what I’m doing. Admittedly, I’d probably struggle with insecurities if he asked me to reciprocate, but I’d still do it. After all, he might have had some insecurities too, yet he let me do it anyway. Sometimes, embracing and sharing our vulnerability can be one of the greatest gifts of all.
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Post by Inkdevil on Feb 3, 2018 13:39:27 GMT -5
Oh my good god...YES!
What a wonderful idea. The mind is our most powerful tool. Why not use it?
Being intimate with someone you trust can make little games like this, amazing adventures in anticipation. Both of you get something out of it and the gentlest touch of your partner can be magnified to feel like something a hundred times more.
Imagine a wisp of hair tickling your neck, a whiff of perfume in the air, a breath taken in and out near your ear, or a fingernail trailed slowly from your neck down your back. The hairs on your arms standing up and your body wired and alert for the smallest touch and...
...Oh bollocksing bastards, I’ve just burnt the dinner!
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Post by pneilson on Feb 4, 2018 11:07:53 GMT -5
In my case I only have sensation from the shoulders up, so any touches there, like neck (incl scar), ears etc would be intense while anything below my shoulders I wouldn't feel at all. While to you it would feel similar - all just skin. Or would it? How does the knowledge of the sensory dividing line affect how you experience the touch? I happen to have experience with this When I was first dating my husband, I LOVED exploring his sensation. (Ok, I still do). I was fascinated with where his line from sensation to partial sensation to no sensation occurred and what it felt like. I’d make him explain to me what almost every trace of my finger (or tongue) felt like to him. I would straddle him as he lay completely still and explore his other areas of his upper body that he would find erogenous, etc. I never paid too much attention to the places he couldn’t feel, that never did too much for me. Although, I admit that in the very early stages, the knowledge that he couldn’t feel certain parts that I would touch was absolutely a major turn on. Like our first night together in his car, putting my hand on his thigh when he was driving was one of the most amazing things to me, which seems a little strange I suppose. He knew it was there, he had eyes, but the dev in me was on dev overload. Sorry, I kind of derailed from the blindfold, but all can be done while blindfolded too! Finding the "Other Erogenous Zones" is always fun. I pretty much know where mine all are, but when you're with someone new, letting them explore and discover them can make for a great night of intimacy... |
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Post by midwestguy on Feb 4, 2018 13:26:06 GMT -5
I've been blindfolded and cuffed, and blindfolded while cuffed. It's all quite a wonderful experience I like giving up the control and enjoy the anticipation of not seeing what's going to happen next. |
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Post by missparkle on Feb 5, 2018 7:12:04 GMT -5
And here I am, standing in front of you, with blindfold in my hands... And as I approach you, just that small, skilled, precise movement, the way you turned your head to grab chair control, instantly lifts the dev in me to incredible heights, you launch me into the orbit. The fear that you will notice my reaction, that I will be caught, enormously increases the intensity of my arousal, my dev heart is pumping so hard, my body trembles, my blood pressure raises, there are hundreds of muffle drums in my ears, my vision gets blurry, millions of butterflies in my stomach disturbingly bumping into walls of my womb, they so desperately want out... That eternal battle in me, that dichotomy feeling of lust and shame turns me on so badly, it is the strongest feeling I know...
In that moment I see the sparkles in your mischievous eyes. And I realize with excitement that you are thrilled with what you see. Feelings in you are also dual, mixed, you are extremely aroused, but slightly uncomfortable and bit insecure at the same time. The way I stare at you, you are not used to, not familiar with, it is completely different then any other staring you've experienced before. With slight shock and disbelief, but merged with ardor, you observe me as I savor you with my eyes, feast on your contorted hands, wallow in your paralyzed body. You closely study the effect that you have on me, you notice every single thread of my tensed muscle fiber, you see my lips getting dry, you watch my chest moving in and out largely, as I struggle to breath...
You realize at a glance you have the most powerful sex tool ever, not available in any shop, that no money can buy! You are getting aware of it, as you are getting aware of the incredible, amazing effect it has on me. You use it abundantly, you provoke me, you tease me, you challenge me, you move your neck, you turn your head, you move your chair... You triumph in excitement and arousal, as I go crazy in front of you...
You've undressed me to the very core of my being and I've undressed you,too. And all that colorful clothes of our fears, doubts, insecurities are torn down, laying all around us, on the smooth floor of the quit room... And that naked, completely exposed, down to the very bottom of our souls, with no walls, obstacles, restrictions, we make love with our eyes, widely, passionately, like neither of us has ever done before. You want to stare and to be stared at. I want it, too. Don't take that away with a blindfold. Don't cover your mischievous eyes. Please don't.
And as I am standing here, naked in front of you, with blindfold in my hands, completely surrendered to the yearn, my desire to touch you has become unbearable ... Do you feel the same?
***remark of the author*** Personal pronouns you and I are used only in attempt to contribute to fantasy's dynamics and to increase the intensity of the feelings for the dear reader. They don't refer to any real person in the present or the past. But the future looks bright...
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Post by Experimentalist on Feb 5, 2018 11:38:42 GMT -5
The way I stare at you, you are not used to, not familiar with, it is completely different then any other staring you've experienced before. With slight shock and disbelief, but merged with ardor, you observe me as I savor you with my eyes, feast on your contorted hands, wallow in your paralyzed body. ... You want to stare and to be stared at. I want it, too. Don't take that away with a blindfold. Don't cover your mischievous eyes. Please don't. Haha, great contrarian answer! "Forget the blindfolds - let's just agree to stare hungrily at each other." That works too  You have a very lively imagination missparkle I'd write you a more detailed reply to your wonderful story but I think people would start telling us to get a room  |
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Post by missparkle on Feb 5, 2018 12:46:02 GMT -5
The way I stare at you, you are not used to, not familiar with, it is completely different then any other staring you've experienced before. With slight shock and disbelief, but merged with ardor, you observe me as I savor you with my eyes, feast on your contorted hands, wallow in your paralyzed body. ... You want to stare and to be stared at. I want it, too. Don't take that away with a blindfold. Don't cover your mischievous eyes. Please don't. Haha, great contrarian answer! "Forget the blindfolds - let's just agree to stare hungrily at each other." That works too You have a very lively imagination missparkle I'd write you a more detailed reply to your wonderful story but I think people would start telling us to get a room It is not just agreement, it is encouragement! You have to undress me – to assure me it is not only ok, but desired to stare. If we stick to the subject and talk about dev staring, you can't give bigger gift to a me. If you put the blindfold, you have destroyed it all. No initial fear, insecurity and doubt - no arousal! Oh, so I should stop... And I was just about to touch you... But it seems you don't feel the same.  What should I do with this blindfold in my hands now?!  And about the room, don't you think that sometimes it is ok to be a little bit of exhibitionist, Experimentalist ?  ***remark of the author*** Personal pronouns you and I are used only in attempt to contribute to fantasy's dynamics and to increase the intensity of the feelings for the dear reader. They don't refer to any real person in the present or the past. But the future looks bright... |
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Post by Experimentalist on Feb 5, 2018 13:53:31 GMT -5
What should I do with this blindfold in my hands now?! Tie it around your neck like a choker necklace to just add an accent to the already mesmerising view  . And it should help keep your blood pressure down as I ask you to raise up my hand and touch it to your belly and then eeeeever soooo slooooowly start sliding it down ... |
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What should I do with this blindfold in my hands now?! 
And about the room, don't you think that sometimes it is ok to be a little bit of exhibitionist, 
. And it should help keep your blood pressure down as I ask you to raise up my hand and touch it to your belly and then eeeeever soooo slooooowly start sliding it down ...