PWD and Devs Together

[gimpygay]

Do other PWD share my experience of relationships with Devotees being the most fulfilling, satisfying and affirming? I can definitely say that being with Devs has made me more self-confident as well as enhancing my body-image. I would also be interested in Devs views on the subject as I hope that relationships with Crips have been a positive experience for them too.

[Mets]

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Oct 18, 2018 11:04:16 GMT -5 Mets said:

I can’t read the right button’s label

[Mets]

Oct 18, 2018 11:08:18 GMT -5 @mrniceguy said:

I can’t read the right button’s label

made it bigger

[Geo1]

Too funny.
Steve I'm still cracking up over the toilet seat photo shop. Your humor is refreshing. Thank you.

[propheticstature]

I've never dated, or even spoken to, a devotee. (that I know of!) That said, for those of you who have, what's the difference? I'm genuinely curious... Although someone who's wise to the general issues around disability would be a total bonus!

[gimpygay]

Oct 19, 2018 17:10:36 GMT -5 propheticstature said:

I've never dated, or even spoken to, a devotee. (that I know of!) That said, for those of you who have, what's the difference? I'm genuinely curious... Although someone who's wise to the general issues around disability would be a total bonus!

Great question propheticstature. First off, there can be creepy, obsessive Devs. Just like there can be creepy, obsessive people of all kinds. I have experienced those types. However, mainly I have found the Devs are kind and understanding. Most are truly interested and empathetic towards PWD. They are often very sensitive towards our emotional, physical and sexual need. Importantly, I have found that they are refreshingly free of the kind of  patronising pity that we so often encounter. Another plus point is that you do not have to have any difficult conversations about your physical differences because Devotees already get the picture and do not regard them as disadvantages at all.

[donabbey]

Oct 18, 2018 11:08:18 GMT -5 @mrniceguy said:

Oct 18, 2018 11:04:16 GMT -5 Mets said:

You need help pushing that button faster? Let’s install another button so I can help.

I can’t read the right button’s label

[donabbey]

Oct 18, 2018 3:50:09 GMT -5 gimpygay said:

Do other PWD share my experience of relationships with Devotees being the most fulfilling, satisfying and affirming? I can definitely say that being with Devs has made me more self-confident as well as enhancing my body-image. I would also be interested in Devs views on the subject as I hope that relationships with Crips have been a positive experience for them too.

The one dev I was with, well, we hadn’t even heard the terminology. She definenty changed me for the better. I always had problems with females and body image. She wanted to date me for bothreasons and she saw me struggle with it. She come to me and straight up told me, we are going to be together. When the hottest girl that ever went to your high school pushes through a see of football jocks and future Mark Yes I did that. I was the guy that stole everyone’s thunder. A cripple. She saw some girls treat me unfairly after I was a good guy. She told me, don’t worry about those girls if they accept you or not, I embrace you. And this weekend your going to stay the weekend at my house, and I’m going to show you what you deserve and make you forget about other girls. You need a girl to be good to you. We were together 10 years. I realized she had changed. And I had to leave her. She cried. She absolutely was devastated. Something she was doing bad would not change and she put my life in danger. She was a dev, but she didn’t know she was. And that devness......it saved my life. I would be institutionalized twitching from shock treatments. When She made me see that a woman would accept me and my body image issues. She built me, for someone in the future. She would eventually admit. Years of no devs just settling. Two hours in this forum and I’ve met an amazing dev. She has asked for descretion. I only look for devs now. In fact, it’s required. I’ll never go back. Thank God for them.

[donabbey]

Oct 20, 2018 3:46:56 GMT -5 gimpygay said:

Oct 19, 2018 17:10:36 GMT -5 propheticstature said:

I've never dated, or even spoken to, a devotee. (that I know of!) That said, for those of you who have, what's the difference? I'm genuinely curious... Although someone who's wise to the general issues around disability would be a total bonus!

Great question propheticstature. First off, there can be creepy, obsessive Devs. Just like there can be creepy, obsessive people of all kinds. I have experienced those types. However, mainly I have found the Devs are kind and understanding. Most are truly interested and empathetic towards PWD. They are often very sensitive towards our emotional, physical and sexual need. Importantly, I have found that they are refreshingly free of the kind of  patronising pity that we so often encounter. Another plus point is that you do not have to have any difficult conversations about your physical differences because Devotees already get the picture and do not regard them as disadvantages at all.

You sir, are a God. The best post I have read by far.

[queenjane]

Nov 29, 2018 0:16:59 GMT -5 donabbey said:

I only look for devs now. In fact, it’s required. I’ll never go back. Thank God for them.

I appreciate the sentiment, for sure, but as someone who on this very board once swore off of AB guys (this was years back), I can tell you, that’s a hard road. One I am glad I left, if only for the experience of having dated an AB person and learning that I can still be happy in that kind of relationship. My next bf may be dis, if the right guy comes along, or he may be AB, and I’m okay with that.

It’s awesome you found someone so quickly here, and I truly hope it works out! But if some day you find yourself back in the dating pool, and you’re holding out for that elusive dev who just doesn’t seem to show up, it might not be a bad thing to dip your toes in the normal, non-dev waters. Just my two cents!