raindrop
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Post by raindrop on Oct 18, 2019 0:14:18 GMT -5
My hubby is 7 years older than me. It’s all good. I think it is a mutual thing! Good luck!
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expresso
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Post by expresso on Oct 18, 2019 12:17:17 GMT -5
i am not dating anyone at the moment or involved with anyone - younger or older - i was just curious what others think and feel about age gaps between two people -
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Oct 18, 2019 17:16:56 GMT -5
10 years younger or older is quite a stretch imho. I'd prefer my ideal woman to be at most 5-6 years younger or older to me, and of course compatibility is equally important. To each his/her own, I guess.
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Post by pam on Oct 18, 2019 18:15:46 GMT -5
If I was single I might date someone up to 10 years younger, my age, or a few years older. A guy 10 years older than me would be in his 60s, which just seems too old for me. My husband is 3 months older than me. In the past I dated someone 5 years older and it was fine. Ive never dated a guy more than 2 years younger than me
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Post by Manda2212 on Oct 18, 2019 19:33:21 GMT -5
I think much depends on the maturity level of the younger party. I don't have strong feelings about it either way and feel like if it works it works, why overthink it too much. I have good friends who are a married couple. He is 52 and she is 31. It works for them and that's all that matters at the end of the day!
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Post by Julia on Oct 19, 2019 9:07:02 GMT -5
As long as each person in the relationship are consenting and one isn't a gold digger lol (aka 20 year olds with 70 year olds +)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2019 9:50:57 GMT -5
I've been in relationships with older (17 years) and younger (12 years) and age wasn't an issue. It all boils down to picking a partner that's compatible. Maturity doesn't always correspond directly to age.
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Post by Amee on Oct 19, 2019 10:11:25 GMT -5
I have some rather arbitrary personal opinions about this too, which are probably based on biological preferences and prejudices to varying degrees - namely that I tend to find it attractive, if a man is slightly but not much older than me. The point when it becomes a little "weird" to me personally is when a guy would be old enough to be my father. As for younger guys, my interest tends to fade when he's more than one or two years younger and my "weird" limit would be my little brother's age, which is four years younger than me In other people/couples, I can't say I really care. Although I'll admit, it can make me somewhat skeptical, if a guy is only interested in much younger women, because it makes me think he might place a little too much importance on a superficial kind of physical attractiveness. Of course, that's also a prejudice on my part and doesn't have to be true for any particular man Apart from these personal preferences, I did a little Google "research", because I remembered something about a study about this a while back. I found the study and it actually investigated the relationship between wedding expenses and marriage duration (which is funny to me as I never would have thought to investigate such a relationship). In the study the researches also gathered some other data, including the age gap in the marriages. They found that a large age gap had a significant negative impact on marriage stability/longevity. The larger the age gap, the more likely a marriage will fail. ( www.csus.edu/faculty/m/fred.molitor/docs/wedding%20expenses%20and%20marriage%20duration1.pdf ) Some research in the Netherlands seems to support this. According to this site, couples of similar ages are least likely to separate and divorce rates increase when the age gap is five years or more. ( www.cbs.nl/en-gb/news/2019/24/small-age-gap-gives-more-stable-relationships ) I also found some funny articles/statistics: Apparently, men who marry younger women live longer Though it could just be natural selection, so nothing to do with the relationship being "healthy" for the man ( www.telegraph.co.uk/men/active/mens-health/5426895/Men-live-longer-if-they-marry-a-younger-woman.html ). Also, another one of those great biological injustices: While women tend to find men their own age most attractive, men (regardless of their own age) find women in their early twenties most attractive. At least that's what a study done at OKCupid suggests ( www.businessinsider.com/dataclysm-shows-men-are-attracted-to-women-in-their-20s-2014-10?IR=T )
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Post by zacc on Oct 19, 2019 10:20:59 GMT -5
I find women who are at least 100 years older and also elves to be the most attractive. I like them Lord of the Rings style if you know what I mean. 😉
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Post by Nate on Oct 19, 2019 10:51:00 GMT -5
I find women who are at least 100 years older and also elves to be the most attractive. I like them Lord of the Rings style if you know what I mean. 😉 Record of Lodoss War elves > Lord of the Rings elves.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Oct 19, 2019 10:53:43 GMT -5
I've been in relationships with older (17 years) and younger (12 years) and age wasn't an issue. It all boils down to picking a partner that's compatible. Maturity doesn't always correspond directly to age. So true. +100
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Post by Amee on Oct 19, 2019 11:31:17 GMT -5
I find women who are at least 100 years older and also elves to be the most attractive. I like them Lord of the Rings style if you know what I mean. 😉 Love this!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 19, 2019 18:02:26 GMT -5
I think once women reach their 20's its up to them if they want to date older men. But if older men hit on really young women its creepy.
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