brinzerdecalli
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Sept 10, 2020 22:49:21 GMT -5
brinzerdecalli I find your post pretty rich given you once posted complaining about how most devs are fat. I’m too lazy to write a post about how much harder fat folks have it in life and how you should be more empathetic, but maybe I can forward you some articles on the subject. Are you willing to learn about how harmful your stereotypes are? Good for you for being so open to learning!
I thought I was more defending you but if you took that as an attack, I'm sorry and happy to talk about it in a DM! As someone said, I missed your 2nd post on the forum, since I only saw a quoted post, which sounded exactly like what I said, but your first post was sadly representative of many people's feelings, so that became an icon for a perspective that was being challenged. I said several times that I don't believe you are actually that person, even without seeing your second post. Honestly no attack was intended! I don't know what you are referencing, or how long ago that was, but I am happy to discuss! I have gone on the record saying I'm not sexually or aesthetically attracted to heavy set women. And I said because of the parallel struggle for acceptance and equality by society there is a kinship between BBWs and PWDs. I may have even expressed frustration with the challenge of finding someone with all the amazing traits of many devs here, but with my body type preferences, who I encounter and enjoys my company in many dynamic ways. I personally don't see the exact parallel to having attraction be based on income independence, which is what I was arguing against... I'd also be happy to talk about that as well in a DM! Reach out if you would like and hope you doing well in this difficult time!
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Post by gshotta on Sept 11, 2020 6:16:07 GMT -5
I'm way to brutal for this thread 😂
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Post by darthoso on Sept 11, 2020 8:42:32 GMT -5
Penn (that's where you're from iirc) is one of those weird states regarding SSI and Medicaid. Your best bet would be call SSA (local office, forget the national line) and talk to the Work Incentive Coordinator. Then call your Medicaid Case Worker and find out if your SSI status is tied to Medicaid, again Penn is weird. If not that look into this: www.dhs.pa.gov/Services/Assistance/Pages/MA-for-Disabled-Workers.aspxIf you're tied to Medicaid with SSI, use 1619B. The $2k asset limit is annoying but just move money to your ABLE to get below before the 1st. Your income limit without doing anything regarding individual thresholds is $38k. Sorry for the delay, I took a break from this site. Right you are about PA being weird! I just heard from someone in Illinois that their 24/7 PCA at $14/hour with no income or savings cap... My mind was blown! But WIC's I have dealt with know only slightly more than people at the SSA... sadly. I do do the ABLE thing, and started saving a bit, but that is kinda tied into medical expenses, and has a limit of $15k gift/anything money and $12k income per year. Please correct me if I am wrong, but you must receive at least $1 of SSI money to maintain eligibility, without entering a new waiver. At that transition, they may deem you ineligible for coverage and you may have to appeal, but lose the coverage during the appeal process, if you don't appeal within a couple days of when the letter should come in the mail. I am much more the entrepreneurial type, but know of no ways to crowd fund and save up for a business or project. Any thoughts? Please DM me! You seem to know a lot about this and I would love to brainstorm! Welcome to Federalism. You have drop more income into an ABLE if you certify your income with them. Mine is $27k max. And the Disability Related Expense list is crazy long and inclusive. You should automatically convert to 1619b if you lose SSI, again if Medicaid is tied to your SSI. Open an LLC or something.
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Post by ContingentlyComposite on Sept 11, 2020 11:37:51 GMT -5
brinzerdecalli I find your post pretty rich given you once posted complaining about how most devs are fat. I’m too lazy to write a post about how much harder fat folks have it in life and how you should be more empathetic, but maybe I can forward you some articles on the subject. Are you willing to learn about how harmful your stereotypes are? Good for you for being so open to learning!
I thought I was more defending you but if you took that as an attack, I'm sorry and happy to talk about it in a DM! As someone said, I missed your 2nd post on the forum, since I only saw a quoted post, which sounded exactly like what I said, but your first post was sadly representative of many people's feelings, so that became an icon for a perspective that was being challenged. I said several times that I don't believe you are actually that person, even without seeing your second post. Honestly no attack was intended! I don't know what you are referencing, or how long ago that was, but I am happy to discuss! I have gone on the record saying I'm not sexually or aesthetically attracted to heavy set women. And I said because of the parallel struggle for acceptance and equality by society there is a kinship between BBWs and PWDs. I may have even expressed frustration with the challenge of finding someone with all the amazing traits of many devs here, but with my body type preferences, who I encounter and enjoys my company in many dynamic ways. I personally don't see the exact parallel to having attraction be based on income independence, which is what I was arguing against... I'd also be happy to talk about that as well in a DM! Reach out if you would like and hope you doing well in this difficult time! That post you quoted originally did NOT sound exactly like what you said, which I explained in the post you are quoting now. If you can't see that, I don't know what else to tell you.
Re. attraction to fat women, I'm not really interested in debating the analogy, which I think holds regardless of how you characterize my views, but again, if you read back through the post you are quoting you will see why describing what I said in my original post as a matter of being attracted to income independence is a gross mischaracterization. Regardless, I'm not really interested in discussing the topic further here or through DM.
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brinzerdecalli
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Sept 11, 2020 11:44:08 GMT -5
Sorry for the delay, I took a break from this site. Right you are about PA being weird! I just heard from someone in Illinois that their 24/7 PCA at $14/hour with no income or savings cap... My mind was blown! But WIC's I have dealt with know only slightly more than people at the SSA... sadly. I do do the ABLE thing, and started saving a bit, but that is kinda tied into medical expenses, and has a limit of $15k gift/anything money and $12k income per year. Please correct me if I am wrong, but you must receive at least $1 of SSI money to maintain eligibility, without entering a new waiver. At that transition, they may deem you ineligible for coverage and you may have to appeal, but lose the coverage during the appeal process, if you don't appeal within a couple days of when the letter should come in the mail. I am much more the entrepreneurial type, but know of no ways to crowd fund and save up for a business or project. Any thoughts? Please DM me! You seem to know a lot about this and I would love to brainstorm! Welcome to Federalism. You have drop more income into an ABLE if you certify your income with them. Mine is $27k max. And the Disability Related Expense list is crazy long and inclusive. You should automatically convert to 1619b if you lose SSI, again if Medicaid is tied to your SSI. Open an LLC or something. Exactly... Should, not will, implying there's a potential for messing up, and I have heard about this happening before and people losing their care for almost a year, and had to move back home during the 6 month appeal/hearing process. Did you ever hear about that happening? I can't risk that because I have no family or friends who could take care of me like that. :/ Opening an LLC I heard does not actually separate the assets from mine unless it's in someone else's name. Do you know of a way to separate it? These seem like very niche tax attorney questions and I know nobody who would offer up such info for free... If you do, please refer me!
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Post by jordy on Sept 11, 2020 12:15:14 GMT -5
Welcome to Federalism. You have drop more income into an ABLE if you certify your income with them. Mine is $27k max. And the Disability Related Expense list is crazy long and inclusive. You should automatically convert to 1619b if you lose SSI, again if Medicaid is tied to your SSI. Open an LLC or something. Exactly... Should, not will, implying there's a potential for messing up, and I have heard about this happening before and people losing their care for almost a year, and had to move back home during the 6 month appeal/hearing process. Did you ever hear about that happening? I can't risk that because I have no family or friends who could take care of me like that. :/ Opening an LLC I heard does not actually separate the assets from mine unless it's in someone else's name. Do you know of a way to separate it? These seem like very niche tax attorney questions and I know nobody who would offer up such info for free... If you do, please refer me! There may be some nearby who will offer services for free (situation based) or low cost based on income. Never hurts to ask around as well. I would check with some disability specific organizations, too. Or a community outreach agency meant for low income individuals. Even case managers might know of something. Just some possible solutions to help organize everything. But you are correct. The LLC would not be considered an asset (unless it grows and is worth something by itself), but the earnings would obviously have to be counted towards your limit. Same for self employment of any kind. Depending on how much you make, this could be an issue.
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brinzerdecalli
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Sept 11, 2020 12:25:55 GMT -5
I thought I was more defending you but if you took that as an attack, I'm sorry and happy to talk about it in a DM! As someone said, I missed your 2nd post on the forum, since I only saw a quoted post, which sounded exactly like what I said, but your first post was sadly representative of many people's feelings, so that became an icon for a perspective that was being challenged. I said several times that I don't believe you are actually that person, even without seeing your second post. Honestly no attack was intended! I don't know what you are referencing, or how long ago that was, but I am happy to discuss! I have gone on the record saying I'm not sexually or aesthetically attracted to heavy set women. And I said because of the parallel struggle for acceptance and equality by society there is a kinship between BBWs and PWDs. I may have even expressed frustration with the challenge of finding someone with all the amazing traits of many devs here, but with my body type preferences, who I encounter and enjoys my company in many dynamic ways. I personally don't see the exact parallel to having attraction be based on income independence, which is what I was arguing against... I'd also be happy to talk about that as well in a DM! Reach out if you would like and hope you doing well in this difficult time! That post you quoted originally did NOT sound exactly like what you said, which I explained in the post you are quoting now. If you can't see that, I don't know what else to tell you.
Re. attraction to fat women, I'm not really interested in debating the analogy, which I think holds regardless of how you characterize my views, but again, if you read back through the post you are quoting you will see why describing what I said in my original post as a matter of being attracted to income independence is a gross mischaracterization. Regardless, I'm not really interested in discussing the topic further here or through DM.
I was saying your second post "I think permanent assistance ought to be available" sounded like my first "I don't think you are an asshole", and we were on the same page from the beginning! I didn't say you were attracted to income independence... I just said your first post "Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a deal breaker" had components that were representative of a perspective that needs to be talked about and discouraged from society, which you agreed with in your second post "I think permanent assistance ought to be available" If you don't wish to discuss what you mean by those bold statements, please don't spread such misinformation and character harming inaccuracies. I never made any accusations, or said things so rash, only asked questions to build dialogue and allow new ways of thought for all willing, including myself! If you do change your mind, please quote exactly what I said and how you interpreted it and what about it felt like an attack, so I may explain my intention behind it, and we can brainstorm on a better way to say the same thing without coming off hostile, if I did! It's the only way I will learn to better communicate in such a digital space, without the use of nonverbal and tonal expression! Again, sorry if something I said offended you, or rubbed you wrong! All the best!
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brinzerdecalli
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Sept 11, 2020 12:41:36 GMT -5
Exactly... Should, not will, implying there's a potential for messing up, and I have heard about this happening before and people losing their care for almost a year, and had to move back home during the 6 month appeal/hearing process. Did you ever hear about that happening? I can't risk that because I have no family or friends who could take care of me like that. :/ Opening an LLC I heard does not actually separate the assets from mine unless it's in someone else's name. Do you know of a way to separate it? These seem like very niche tax attorney questions and I know nobody who would offer up such info for free... If you do, please refer me! There may be some nearby who will offer services for free (situation based) or low cost based on income. Never hurts to ask around as well. I would check with some disability specific organizations, too. Or a community outreach agency meant for low income individuals. Even case managers might know of something. Just some possible solutions to help organize everything. But you are correct. The LLC would not be considered an asset (unless it grows and is worth something by itself), but the earnings would obviously have to be counted towards your limit. Same for self employment of any kind. Depending on how much you make, this could be an issue. Trust me... I've been asking everywhere! Nobody has yet given any strong leads. OVR,CIL, several WICs, LCD, Mayor's office, as well as several forums and successful individuals with disabilities I know. Everyone just says have someone else do it in their name... That is not really an answer... you know?! Closest I found was an open source remote 501c3 unbrella but you must first have some heavy traction behind your idea, which requires initial investment... I'm open to any other leads/contacts! I'm going to make a new post, since this is way off topic from the original title.
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Post by darthoso on Sept 11, 2020 13:39:31 GMT -5
I didn't say you were attracted to income independence... Found it for you: I personally don't see the exact parallel to having attraction be based on income independence, which is what I was arguing against... I just said your first post "Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a deal breaker" had components that were representative of a perspective that needs to be talked about and discouraged from society, which you agreed with in your second post "I think permanent assistance ought to be available" If you don't wish to discuss what you mean by those bold statements, please don't spread such misinformation and character harming inaccuracies. Full context: Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a dealbreaker for me unless it's very clear that the guy is otherwise doing super interesting and valuable things with his time. Leaving out the second half of the sentence seems like "spreading such misinformation and character harming inaccuracies" to me... She explained clearly what she meant in multiple posts in this thread, not that the original statement really needed clarification in my opinion. Wanting to date someone you personally find interesting is not a controversial thing and not something that needs to be corrected for in society, it's pretty basic.
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brinzerdecalli
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Post by brinzerdecalli on Sept 11, 2020 14:07:29 GMT -5
I didn't say you were attracted to income independence... Found it for you: I personally don't see the exact parallel to having attraction be based on income independence, which is what I was arguing against... I just said your first post "Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a deal breaker" had components that were representative of a perspective that needs to be talked about and discouraged from society, which you agreed with in your second post "I think permanent assistance ought to be available" If you don't wish to discuss what you mean by those bold statements, please don't spread such misinformation and character harming inaccuracies. Full context: Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a dealbreaker for me unless it's very clear that the guy is otherwise doing super interesting and valuable things with his time. Leaving out the second half of the sentence seems like "spreading such misinformation and character harming inaccuracies" to me... She explained clearly what she meant in multiple posts in this thread, not that the original statement really needed clarification in my opinion. Wanting to date someone you personally find interesting is not a controversial thing and not something that needs to be corrected for in society, it's pretty basic. I wasn't quoting, I was referring to which post. So Thanks for compiling them a bit! But you also forgot the rest of that post that starts "Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a deal breaker" Which gives more context to my response. I said "arguing against" not "is what you were doing". I was arguing against a concept not a person. I wasn't asking her to explain that post "Maybe it makes me an asshole, but being unemployed is usually a deal breaker" because I truly believe she agrees with what I said, from other things she has written since. I was asking her to explain what she was saying about my preferences for body type being the same thing as attraction being based on income independence. And saying I approached such a topic with no tact. I don't know what she is referencing exactly.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Feb 22, 2021 12:59:45 GMT -5
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Post by ContingentlyComposite on Feb 22, 2021 13:36:07 GMT -5
Oh God, must you resurrect this thread, lol. Steve Way isn't on disability. He has a job, more than one in fact. Receiving care services and marriage equality is another matter. Enjoyed reading the interview though, thanks for linking it. darthoso and I are on the second season of Ramy and love it. Steve Way's character is fantastic, wish they had him in more episodes.
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Post by britishtetra on Feb 22, 2021 14:27:58 GMT -5
Well what can I say I am 48, single, no children, financially secured, yet I’ve been on dating sites since 1996. One of my friends is a world famous mouth painter, A couple years ago he met somebody and I now they have a child. I must admit now I wish I could find someone, get married have a family, but I fear it won’t happen. I am writing my autobiography, my army friends have asked me to due to the amount of Fusiliers who are committing suicide. Who knows a charming lady might read it. Anyway I think I will be finish for Christmas, I have had an interesting life so far.
Pete, 👍
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Post by zacc on Feb 22, 2021 15:29:28 GMT -5
Thanks for posting this article! I enjoyed reading it and I'm happy someone with MD is making it as an actor.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 22, 2021 17:15:14 GMT -5
This is not at all the thread I expected to read when I clicked on the title...
I'm not responding to anyone in particular, but the themes I've seen throughout this thread.
In my opinion there's two ways of looking at life, the way it should be and the way it is. Should every person regardless of ability be able to find love and companionship? yes. Is it realistic when factoring in other elements of what goes into building a successful life? no. But, It's definitely possible. The income and job discussion plays an important role in your ability to contribute towards a happy future and potential partners are going to take that into account.You can be the best person in the world, but if your future is insecure or totally limited to a fixed income that will severely limit your prospects of romance.
as it relates specifically to dating, I heard this phrase once and it rang true to me... "Women are seen as sex objects, Men are seen as success objects". So a guys value is viewed at least in part by their ability to be successful and provide a viable future for their partner. It may not be fair, especially with more obstacles to earning good money, but in my experience it's hard to argue with that perception. If you want a future with someone, you have to show you have some future to offer them. It might not be a standard job or the like, but it has to have potential for earnings and or personal growth. I wouldn't pursue a partner who without ambition. They needn't be world beaters but I want to choose someone who wants to grow and be more in the future. I know I do.
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