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Post by imupforanything on May 19, 2023 14:28:29 GMT -5
I'm happy to answer any questions privatly as well if preferred.
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Post by vvulfie on May 19, 2023 18:23:33 GMT -5
I think a key thing here for us PWDs is a willingness to be creative. All you guys are totally right about sex workers and their legality but this thread is edging on just a place to whine that you can't get a craigslist hooker. A sex worker won't enable you to feel any more than you do now. Going to Amsterdam would be fun but it changes nothing long term. Lawmakers aren't finding this thread any sooner. There are other options but it's up to you to find it for yourself. Trust that. My genitalia feels nothing yet I've found answers for myself that work. Sex remains a part of my life and so does sexual satisfaction. These answers are deeply personal (obviously) and personal to the point I'm not going to try to explain them in a forum thread. What works for you will work for you and only you.
Involve sex in your life, one way or another. Write, read, dub, draw, publish, engage online(not here). There are answers. As sex remains a fixture in your life so can the social interactions surrounding it. It's your choice to make so don't get lost in this Amsterdam BS. You may never cum again but don't drown yourselves in that. Tempting, I know..
Once upon a time the sex-ed teacher told us that the brain is the *largest* sex organ, and oh how we laughed...
Maybe this is just a place to vent and validate it all(fair enough), but you're not helping yourselves. Pity never got me laid as an AB and it's not looking any better now as a PWD. I'm not getting laid any time soon here but at least I feel I'm in control of it. Do something different. Give it time.
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Post by vvulfie on May 19, 2023 19:19:13 GMT -5
If it helps, a porn star once said that in their industry experience, the one thing that they know now is that there IS someone looking for you. I mean look, we're reading this on a website literally about female devotees of male PWDs.
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Post by kevink4339 on May 25, 2023 15:38:18 GMT -5
Same here...almost 40 year old virgin
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Post by justnick on May 25, 2023 17:57:30 GMT -5
I feel it but a sex worker wouldn’t do anything for me. I don’t crave the physicality of it all, I crave the intimacy of it. My injury has robbed me of physical orgasm but I do actually feel some sort of release when my partner does. So unless I have at least some kind of connection with her, I don’t really get that much out of it other than a workout. 😉
Plus the thought of going down on someone who has had very recent “visitors“ kind of gives me the icks.
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Post by para1134 on May 30, 2023 12:34:47 GMT -5
I can understand that. Prostitution laws in Canada are hard to follow. I can’t say that I haven’t been tempted. But I think it’s not just sex that we are looking for but a meaningful connection with someone. And the sex we will figure out as we go. Just my thoughts guys.
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Post by quarantinetoughguy on May 30, 2023 13:38:59 GMT -5
in my personal experience, I find that PWD's who long for sex are actually longing moreso for intimacy and companionship.
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Post by ParaDise on Jun 6, 2023 22:59:50 GMT -5
even though I'm paralyzed from the shoulders down, I still get horny and often! Almost 16 years now, without any kind of release. Talk about frustrating! Have you been able to have sex in that 16 years?..
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Post by ParaDise on Jun 6, 2023 23:28:39 GMT -5
I don't know how the general perception of this is here on PD but there are sexual surragates out there. It's not free but it's a possible option to look into. In other places sex for hire is legal, like in Amsterdam in the red light district. Many of the places have the ADA wheelchair symbol in the windows. Some countries understand the importance of healthy sexual participation for all. I agree. I live in Mexico, and sex work here is legal. I have even thought, how cool would it be to start a sex surrogate/ accompaniment business here. I see a lot of people in this thread talking about the intimacy part of having a partner, which I agree is REALLLY nice to have, but my argument is that after many years of not having intimate sexual experiences, maybe it would be nice to (feel the release of tension that that can cause. I'll use this analogy, that I heard once and thought was funny. A guy once told me, "you know you need to masterbate before you go out to the club to try to dance and pick up on chicks" I laughed and asked, and why is that?? lol. He said you never take a loaded gun out when you go to hang out with the ladies. I laughed again, and said o really... and he said "yes, because you don't want that on your mind, and a clear mind when you go out." lol The reason I bring that up is, not that I agree with him. I don't think I need to masterbate to go out and dance with females. BUT I do think is would release a lot of sexual tension in a person that hasn't partaken in sex in a very long time . Sexual tension often presents itself as a lack of confidence, being nerves, being awkward, neediness, ect. I believe a sexual surrogates are such a great service, and can be that bridge that a person can use to understand themselves better when it comes to their sexuality and being comfortable with sexual exchanges.
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Post by mnquad07 on Jun 7, 2023 12:39:48 GMT -5
even though I'm paralyzed from the shoulders down, I still get horny and often! Almost 16 years now, without any kind of release. Talk about frustrating! Have you been able to have sex in that 16 years?.. nothing, not even close
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Post by mnquad07 on Jun 7, 2023 12:44:28 GMT -5
"release" or whatever you want to call it is beneficial in many ways. A lot of those, medical reasons. For instance; serotonin levels increasing, helps to prevent prostate cancer, as 2 out of many reasons.
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Post by ParaDise on Jun 7, 2023 16:10:07 GMT -5
"release" or whatever you want to call it is beneficial in many ways. A lot of those, medical reasons. For instance; serotonin levels increasing, helps to prevent prostate cancer, as 2 out of many reasons. message me. There are ways around this.
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Post by quadversation on Jun 13, 2023 13:57:47 GMT -5
There are a lot of things to try that could help you come that don't involve sex, although less so if you don't have the physical ability to masturbate or use a vibrator. Many men with SCIs don't come from sex though anyway, and if you do, the benefits really depend on the person. It could feel nice, like bad AD, or nothing. Achieving an enjoyable sexual or sensual experience might require a lot of experimentation. mnquad07 I am a C6 incomplete quad and I am fortunate enough to achieve ejaculation. I say fortunate because I was able to have two healthy children naturally with my wife. However, like scarletfire mentioned, the feeling isn't always enjoyable and can be dangerous. The other day I was charged up and decided to use my over priced Medical Vibrator. I ended up having a retrograde ejaculation that included a severe pounding headache caused by autonomic dysreflexia. So on the one hand I get your frustration because I know the urge, but the grass isn't always greener. Exploration has been beneficial for me and I am finding news ways to feel sexually satisfied besides ejaculation.
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Post by mnquad07 on Jun 13, 2023 14:33:01 GMT -5
I get things are, and will always be, different now. I get that. I'm just sharing a frustration of not even knowing and unable to find out.
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Post by Dr. BiPAP Sachin on Jun 14, 2023 19:25:06 GMT -5
Another way to release sexual tension I think you could sometimes consider is to listen to some naughty, kinky music tracks. But don't take my word for it, it's just a suggestion based on my experience. Below is a list of just a few of these songs categorized by rock music genre. Classic Rock: AC/DC - Touch Too Much Aerosmith - Love In An Elevator Bad Company - Feel Like Makin' Love Billy Idol - Rebel Yell Foreigner - Hot Blooded Heart - Magic Man Led Zeppelin - Whole Lotta Love Lynyrd Skynyrd - What's Your Name Pat Benatar - Heartbreaker Steve Miller Band - The Joker Whitesnake - Still Of The Night Modern Rock: A - Nothing Breaking Benjamin - Polyamorous Buckcherry - Crazy Bitch Cold - Change The World Evans Blue - Cold (But I'm Still Here) Halestorm - I Get Off In This Moment - Adrenalize Kid Rock - So Hott Limp Bizkit - Nookie Nickelback - Figured You Out Saving Abel - Addicted Theory Of A Deadman - Bad Girlfriend
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