Post by allisonsr on Aug 4, 2023 22:46:21 GMT -5
Hi everyone. I'm Allison and I've been around here without contributing for a long time. Like a looooooooong time. Like over a decade.
Like many of the devs around here, I've probably been one since pre-adolescence, but didn't know it was A Thing until my 20s. I'm in my mid 40s now. By the time I discovered I wasn't the only one, I was married to an AB guy, which didn't last (nothing to do with disability status). Other things I've realized about myself that I didn't know were things: I'm (hetero) demisexual and possibly biromantic, although it's been over 10 years since I felt romantic interest at all or dated. I was entirely physically and emotionally monogamous in my marriage for the 10 years before that.
My fantasies are about men with vision related disabilities, but the only guy I've had a relationship with other than the one I married was Hard of Hearing. He died tragically and I reacted by marrying the first guy who asked. Pro tip: don't do that.
So... it's after much therapy that I find myself coming out of the shadows here. My therapist doesn't know about my devness, because there's plenty of other nonsense to keep us busy, but nonetheless, it feels like time to be authentic. I do have kids, which is part of why I've stayed silent. My parents were, let's say, over-sharers and I intend to break that cycle.
Apologies for making this all about me. I was just starting to feel like it was creepy and voyeuristic to be reading what you all had to say without saying, "Hi! I'm here!"
I'm more happy to answer questions, be corrected on incorrect assumptions, or set straight on terminology, etc.
Like many of the devs around here, I've probably been one since pre-adolescence, but didn't know it was A Thing until my 20s. I'm in my mid 40s now. By the time I discovered I wasn't the only one, I was married to an AB guy, which didn't last (nothing to do with disability status). Other things I've realized about myself that I didn't know were things: I'm (hetero) demisexual and possibly biromantic, although it's been over 10 years since I felt romantic interest at all or dated. I was entirely physically and emotionally monogamous in my marriage for the 10 years before that.
My fantasies are about men with vision related disabilities, but the only guy I've had a relationship with other than the one I married was Hard of Hearing. He died tragically and I reacted by marrying the first guy who asked. Pro tip: don't do that.
So... it's after much therapy that I find myself coming out of the shadows here. My therapist doesn't know about my devness, because there's plenty of other nonsense to keep us busy, but nonetheless, it feels like time to be authentic. I do have kids, which is part of why I've stayed silent. My parents were, let's say, over-sharers and I intend to break that cycle.
Apologies for making this all about me. I was just starting to feel like it was creepy and voyeuristic to be reading what you all had to say without saying, "Hi! I'm here!"
I'm more happy to answer questions, be corrected on incorrect assumptions, or set straight on terminology, etc.
