focused
New Member
Hello!
Posts: 7
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by focused on May 12, 2024 1:05:01 GMT -5
![]() I'm Paul in Olympia WA. For some reason, after my 1986 SCI, it never dawned on me a woman might develop an affection or affinity for guys with particular disabilities. It was an epiphany when I recently ran across a woman from paradevo on fetlife.
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Post by ichbin on May 12, 2024 14:35:28 GMT -5
Welcome to PD! I´m glad you ran across the woman from paradevo on fetlife. It really makes a difference in self-perception for many guys as soon as they learn about devs. How old were you when you had your accident?
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Post by jrm on May 12, 2024 16:41:14 GMT -5
Welcome to PD!
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Post by Dani on May 12, 2024 18:32:22 GMT -5
Hello Paul, welcome!
I am happy to see you here.
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focused
New Member
Hello!
Posts: 7
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by focused on May 12, 2024 19:54:20 GMT -5
Welcome to PD! I´m glad you ran across the woman from paradevo on fetlife. It really makes a difference in self-perception for many guys as soon as they learn about devs. How old were you when you had your accident? It was a wonderful boost to my sense of well-being! I had my injury when I was 18. I spent a couple of months in critical care stabilizing and then another 6 months in an inpatient rehab. I dumped my girlfriend when she came to visit me in the hospital because I was so sure I was unlovable as a disabled person.
After grad school I married a woman who was hostile to my disability and lived with her for 23 years. I knew the divorce was going to be a shit show and we had adopted kids so I just lived with it until 3 years ago. The fact there are women potentially partly interested in me because of my disability and not just despite of it is surreal and very welcome.
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focused
New Member
Hello!
Posts: 7
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by focused on May 12, 2024 19:56:08 GMT -5
Hello Paul, welcome! I am happy to see you here. Thank you so much Dani! I deeply appreciate you telling me about all this. |
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focused
New Member
Hello!
Posts: 7
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by focused on May 12, 2024 20:00:29 GMT -5
Thank you. I'm extremely pleased to be here. |
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Post by ayla on May 13, 2024 10:36:44 GMT -5
Welcome aboard, Paul! I am always astonished to hear of guys who have gone multiple decades without being aware that devs exist. I am glad that our interest is a pleasant surprise and I hope you enjoy getting to know the community.
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focused
New Member
Hello!
Posts: 7
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled
Relationship Status: Divorced
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Post by focused on May 13, 2024 11:31:45 GMT -5
Thanks you so much for the kind welcome Ayla. You all are awesome. I love the FDR quote in your signature: ""A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor" -FDR
Fabulous stuff
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mswarrior1
Junior Member
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Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled
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Post by mswarrior1 on Jun 12, 2024 21:43:18 GMT -5
Im Justin. It’s very nice to meet you
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not THAT violet
Full Member
Please, no unsolicited “sup?” PMs :)
Posts: 142
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Married/Domestic partnership
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Post by not THAT violet on Jun 25, 2024 13:01:09 GMT -5
Hello Paul, welcome! I am happy to see you here. Thank you so much Dani! I deeply appreciate you telling me about all this. Oh, good. I was like, “OMG WHERE IS DANI SHE NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT THIS LOCAL GUY.” 😂 If you don’t mind me asking, what’s your FetLife username? With such a low injury, are you able to move around without your chair at times? Welcome to PD! |
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