Degrees of devness?

[devogirl]

clover said:

Do you think it's something that strengthens or grows when you begin to explore it or give it free reign? Or do you think some people are barely dev while others are strongly dev?

Are there dev exercises I need to be doing to be worthy of hanging here?

Empirical evidence suggests that the desire actually grows stronger when you don't explore it, but try to repress it. If you give it free reign and accept yourself it won't be so all-consuming.

We have all types here, anyone can join. Welcome to the board.

[Cake]

Welcome aboard, clover!

There sure are several "degrees" of devness. Some of us feel "devish" only occasionally, some of us can't imagine a live without it, some of us say that their devness defines them completely.
Several ladies on here have expressed their need of a wheeler (or at least the image of him) to feel sexually aroused at all. A few have even claimed not to be capable of any sexual relationships with ABs. I personally am not one of these devs, too. I am able to find sexual pleasure with an AB partner, and my longing for a wheeler guy in my life isn't huge (yet). However, as much as I love having AB-style sex and as much as I love and want my current man, there's nothing and no-one who can attract and arouse me like a hot wheeler can. Still, I think I can grow old perfectly happy with an AB husband and dirty dev-fantasies.
I say that now, because who knows, maybe it will grow stronger and stronger with the years... If that were the case - and many fellow, more experienced devs are positive it is - well, then it's probably because the older we get, the better we know ourselves and our needs. The older people get, the less they are willing to compromise.

Great topic, by the way!

[Claire]

I've been a dev as long as I can remember...well, at least since puberty...but I can attest to the fact that it gets stronger over time. I'm 38 now. I used to be able to have a normal sex life without dev fantasies, but I can't anymore.

[BA]

My sentiments used to be very similar to what Cake posted. My devness was pretty much put on the back-burner and I enjoyed sex with non-disabled men just fine. However, as I have grown older, I find that my dev fantasies and urges have grown much stronger. This may be the result of boredom with "married sex" () I have been married for many years to a non-disabled man who I remain quite attracted to.

[dolly]

hi clover. welcome to the board.

just adding my 2 cents that my devness has definitely become stronger (and more integral) with age.