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Post by BA on Jun 18, 2024 0:07:36 GMT -5
My question for Devs is what you feel toward PWDs strongly sexual like a kink or is it like pity and you want to just help? To me I imagine that there is so many different feelings you can have and different levels of attraction I am interested to hear some experiences. Thank you. So, for me it was never purely sexual, I also don't consider it a kink or a fetish. I consider it an attraction. I also don't want to "just help" outside the normal realms of being a good and empathetic human who doesn't differentiate between PWD or AB people when it comes to being helpful. I'm not so much the caregiver type, I probably care more about animals than humans at times ![:D](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/grin.png) , so no it's not about caregiving for me either. So, being a dev is individual for every person and some devs may enjoy the caregiving aspects while others see it as a fetish or kink, the spectrum is pretty broad. For me personally, I'd have to vibe with the person on other things too. It can be the hottest para...if I don't connect with them in other ways, the disability doesn't override the other character traits. You have stated my feelings exactly!
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Post by dutchdev on Jun 18, 2024 2:28:57 GMT -5
Like it's still hard to comprehend that there are people out there that might actually find me attractive because of my disabilities while I have tried to pretend that I am not disabled every day of my life. There is no way to hide SMA Though so I don't usually ever feel attractive. I think you are not alone, coming here, feeling that way. You are definitely in the right place for dispelling the notion of you not being attractive because of your disability.
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jakeonwheels
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Post by jakeonwheels on Jun 22, 2024 15:58:29 GMT -5
Like it's still hard to comprehend that there are people out there that might actually find me attractive because of my disabilities while I have tried to pretend that I am not disabled every day of my life. There is no way to hide SMA Though so I don't usually ever feel attractive. I struggle to believe that people find me attractive bc I’m disabled. I even bristle a bit when I find out that disability is part of it- but I’m trying to let that go. Bc I’m disabled and that’s part of me, and I want my partner to be attracted to all of me. So I’m really trying to get my head on straight about that. I was hoping that being here would help with that, and in some ways it has but it has definitely been a mixed bag. I hope you have a positive experience here. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/smiley.png)
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tanya
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Post by tanya on Jun 23, 2024 17:16:07 GMT -5
The main one for me is just because I'm a congenital paraplegic devotee I'm not into all congenital paraplegic men.
In the same way that a non-dev woman won't be into all able bodied men, it stands to reason that not all paraplegic guys will do it for me.
There needs to be a spark there in the first place, in terms of looks and personality and if there is then the paralysis will really get me going and turn me on as I love how a wheeler guy gets around and transfers and manages to do things for himself etc despite not having the ability to use his legs but has full use of his upper body. I am fascinated by the fact that damage to the spinal cord can result in someone's legs not working and having no feeling in them.
I love seeing the stillness in the legs and the fact they are attached to his body and yet they are completely non-functioning.
And yet, despite all of that, if I don't feel an initial connection then all of that means very little.
Not sure if I'm making much sense, hopefully my fellow dev ladies will understand!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2024 23:12:21 GMT -5
I don't want to hijack this thread by any means but I have a serious question and I think it fits in line with the discussion being had. Is it weird, strange or wrong that lately I find myself searching for and wishing I could meet a dev? Like there's something inside of me that really wants it, kinda badly actually if I'm being honest. I'm starting to wonder if I might dev for devs but I do actually have cerebral palsy and I am in a wheelchair, well power chair to be exact if my name didn't already give it away, LOL
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