stevenc2
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Post by stevenc2 on Jul 20, 2024 20:18:48 GMT -5
Hey. I'm 17yrs disabled with only a couple of romantic relationships to count over that time. Like you, I often find myself feeling "desperate" for that part of my old life but have never solicited a sex worker. I've found the answers here interesting and will keep and will keep an eye on the thread. Whatever you decide to do, good luck!
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jakeonwheels
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Post by jakeonwheels on Jul 28, 2024 16:52:40 GMT -5
Hey OP,
I know people here are saying that this would be an empty experience and make you feel bad, and it might depending on whether or not you want more than some relief and pleasure, but this doesn't necessarily have to be a negative or exploitative interaction in either direction.
I have a friend who never had the opportunity to date before and hired a sex worker who he saw semi regularly over the time, they were friends and talked about real things, and having a friendship with her and being able to have sex and feel desirable and practice made him more ready to have a relationship when the opportunity arose.
This doesn't have to be a bad experience, it doesn't have to be a *bad* thing to hire a sex worker. The feeling of emptiness is something that society talks up bc we're sex negative and judgmental of sex workers and their clients and that's just a thing that people who have no experience with the work say and assume to be true. And it *MIGHT* make you feel that way, all things are possible, but it's not a given.
I hope you make the right choice for you, whatever that may be. Sex work is a valid and important access need. Sexual and social isolation are damaging as I'm sure we all know at this point.
Good luck OP. I hope you find a way to have the experiences you want to have. We all deserve that. <3
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Post by zacc on Aug 3, 2024 19:52:47 GMT -5
The way to meet and hire sex workers (at least in the US) was sites like backpage and rentboy ten years ago and since then because of sex work laws they have been up and down and up and down ever since. I don't know the current status of those pages but they may be worth checking out. It seems like many sex workers have moved to a self promotion/influencer model. Meaning, you can find them on onlyfans and pages like that. People making video content also sometimes will book in person sessions. There's a perfectly legal site that's run out of Australia, where sex work is legal. It's called Tryst.link, I actually found a couple sex workers I worked with there. And it was very worth it, contrary to what some may believe. Of course, you have to be careful, usually the cheaper the fee is the less trustworthy they may be. I lost a deposit I made on a session because the worker ghosted, but it only happened once.
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Post by mnquad07 on Aug 5, 2024 14:54:28 GMT -5
I was extremely sexually active before my injury... Now it's been 17 years of nothing... No one else, not with myself, nothing... I personally think sex workers to be beneficial. It's a mental thing and very healthy. Other countries do it and no one to do it right have no problems
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