What is the best thing about devs?

[dutchdev]

This question might sound as if I am fishing for compliments, which it kind of is.

This is a spillover from the Discord server. The question was asked and the answers where the kind I needed to read when I was still lurking (and sometimes still need to hear).

This is for the lurkers out there and what some of us still need to hear sometimes.

[justnick]

Which Dev? Kidding.

I have been in a couple relationships with Devs And have had some casual encounters and I have to say for both, it is the level of intimacy. I can’t really think of a better example of two people that were made for each other. One person that is usually considered undesirable or even untouchable by the rest of society and the other person that may exclusively want them. I think it is beautiful how devs and PWD find value in each other that probably goes unnoticed by the rest of the world.

And it is one of the rare instances that I can physically do for someone something that few other men can.

[mikefatty]

in my opinion, the best thing about Devs is I can be myself. I can just be me with what I believe are flaws and be accepted. every part of me in my existence and day to day life. yall understand us better than any othe humans ever will. your interested in our struggles, what we love, situations we avoid, accoodations we look for etc.. we don't have to explain everything all the time yall could anticipate our needs before we even need them, and why we need them. you help us be more confident as humans, and will help us thrive in society. I could keep going, but I made my point.

[Deleted]

I've never had the privilege or the pleasure to meet a dev or spend any time with someone. Having said that, if I find the right girl, I have to echo what Mike said about just being able to be myself. Every time I go out somewhere it takes so much effort that people can't even see, that they're not even aware of, just for me to be able to appear as presentable as I want myself to be. Just the thought of being able to be around someone and not having to worry about for example when I'm out of my chair and I might be laying in bed and my body starts to spasm to the point where I'm shaking so much that I mimic one of those old time type of beds where you put a quarter in and the damn thing vibrates for 25 minutes. For me it would be the acceptance, not having to deal with someone taking one look at me and you could see it in their eyes when they think oh hell no, regardless of how nice or presentable I might be. To have someone actually looking at me and want me in the way that I've seen so many other people look at people. I can only hope I get so lucky as to meet someone

[lyon11]

having said it before, if what you are looking for are compliments:
The main one is that they are tailored to a PWD.
They are a great motivation and it would not be strange for them to receive a caress from hands that move clumsily.
@mekefatty left us very few options to mention.

[mswarrior1]

To me, it’s just nice to know that somebody cares. That’s it.

[sy]

To be honest as a PWD even we do not like our own bodies at times. So it almost feels like some sort of divine balancing system. The fact that devs exist and find us attractive despite how we feel about our own bodies. I really do feel devs are special people.

[ayla]

One of the best things about devs in this community and similar ones is how thoughtful we are. Devs want to come to a place like this to figure out our feelings, make sure they’re “okay,” and learn how to act on them (or not) in the best possible way. That’s a pretty high level of thoughtfulness and empathy. Sadly, this does not apply broadly to all “devotees” but certainly most female devs, who self-identify that way, are exceedingly thoughtful and empathetic people.

[dutchdev]

Thank you all for the thoughtful answers. justnick you are totally right in asking which dev. I basically posted the question because I already knew mikefatty ‘s answer and I thought I should have read that years ago. It made me feel good and everybody needs that sometimes. So thank you all, and hoping some lurking babydev reads this and realizes they do not need to feel guilty or ashamed. As sy said, it is a balancing system, we make each other feel better about something unchangeable.

[wheelsthrowaway1989]

I've never been close to a dev before , but I think it's the nurturing spirit. The empathy and thoughtfulness and kindness. The fact that there are women out there that could see me as special and valuable is a big thing