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Post by Claire on Dec 16, 2008 16:35:19 GMT -5
That's cool...I'm at my happiest in academia. I would make being a student a full time job if I could! Oh that's interesting, I would love to know what the two "sides" are saying about that. Do you have any good links that explains it fairly succinctly? Very cool! I bet you shocked the heck out of them. Any interesting reactions out of them? One of life's greatest pleasures.
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Post by Pony on Dec 18, 2008 15:12:47 GMT -5
Heyyyy, great on you for even bringing the discussion into the light. I actually think there's more AB girls that have the ability to be attracted to us chairdudes, especially in the right settings, but I also think that societal pressures and stereotypes have made females less willing to face the hardship of actually pursuing a relationship with wheeler. I admire the chicks on here that have accepted this part of themselves and have decided to face the music. This has me thinking: I'm going to write Top Ten Reasons to date a chairdude!!
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Post by Claire on Aug 12, 2009 22:11:06 GMT -5
Nice pic. The blue of your eyes matches your shirt. How come you weren't in your chair today? Forgive me, I can't remember what your disability is!
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Post by thegoodlife on Aug 13, 2009 2:32:29 GMT -5
No problem claire! I have a milder form of MD, as such I can still walk but not long distances. So, I mostly use my chair in public as I can wheel faster and for longer distances than if I was walking. In addition using a manuel chair is just easier for me to get around than walking since my arm strength and dextarity is better in my arms and hands than my legs and feet. At home I'm mostly on my feet and walk around but I occasionally sit in the chair for comfort, hence why I am not in my chair.
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Post by Claire on Aug 13, 2009 11:45:48 GMT -5
Wow that sounds a lot like how I handle things! (totally different reasons of course)
I am curious. I have a friend who uses a chair and walks and a complete para once accused him of faking because it seems like most people don't understand that there ARE physical disabilities where you can actually walk but also need a chair sometimes (and I mean genuine physical impairments, not BIID). Do you ever come across attitudes like that?
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Post by thegoodlife on Aug 15, 2009 15:42:19 GMT -5
Well there does seem to be a misunderstanding about impairments that can lead to one using a chair. But no one has outright accused me of faking my disability. There have been people who seem surprised when they see me one day with a wheelchair and other days without a wheelchair. But when i'm out of my chair it's still apparent that I have a disability. So there have been those whoe are curious about why I use my wheelchair sometimes and other times I do not. I merely explain to them that there are disabilities where you can use your legs but sometimes and it's easier on them to use a chair than walking: whether it be because of fatigue, lack of balance, lack of leg strength etc. They seem to understand. So to answer your question there are certainly attitudes like you described but when I explain to them about myself they somewhat understand. But there is no outright accusations of faking it, yet.
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