Another post gave me a thought.

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How many times have you gotten or shared the "look" and then failed to act upon it?

[matisse]

I count 5 times, all in Vegas, where the interaction just had that extra bit of oddity, more than just the standard drunken party girl. Of course there's nothing for me to do with them, other than maybe some general drinking or partying at some other point during their trip.

[mrjefffurz]

im way to absorbed in whatever activity i happen to be involved in to notice how anybody looks at me...or maybe im so self-centered i believe that ALL looks from the female populace indicate interest...

[Pony]

...those hypnotizing-alluring-steamy looks don't mean they want you to approach, or they're interested in more!! It 'can' mean they find some attraction, like starring at a fire, but I think most girls are more complicated. Let's face it, as dudes, if we are locking eyes up with a hottie, we want to 'pursue!' I don't think it's necessarily true with chicks!!! But hey, my track record for picking up Miss Magnet Eyes isn't good!! lol

[Triassic]

uh uh...no tony, this is different. it's a very distinct look. for that matter-and this just now occurred to me-it's different from a 'non-devo' checking-out look of interest. when i was younger and [ahem] presumably rather more handsome, i'd get looks from chicks who DIDNT KNOW i was a gimp; like while driving...the non devo look of interest is much more smiley and flirty. the devo look is different somehow; maybe it has a kind of stunned quality to it, or something.

[BA]

I think stunned is a very good word. I'd also use "overcome". First look is like a deer in the headlights (often with a quick look away, due to extensive head-rush and blushing). The second look is usually way more intense.

[laurasweetou]

way to say it!

[Pony]

Jul 30, 2008 17:44:41 GMT -5 BA said:

I think stunned is a very good word. I'd also use "overcome". First look is like a deer in the headlights (often with a quick look away, due to extensive head-rush and blushing). The second look is usually way more intense.

Uh, just my opinion, but I think this description of 'THE DEV LOOK' also fits the 'NON-DEV LOOK'...minus the 'head-rush, blushing' and nipples hardening. lol Point is, I just don't think there's a there's a look that gives the Devness away.

Question: Can you be attracted to a chairdude without being a 'Dev?' I personally think that happens MUCH more...

[Triassic]

i agree tony pony gimp plus non-dev female is probably by far the norm...but here's an example of the dev look in my life: 20 years ago i happened to be in boston w/a friend. at the time, at age 25 i hopped around reasonably well on crutches and braces, we were at a nice restaurant, and i noticed this cute busgirl clearing a table a little ways off. she kept looking at me, then glancing away. then looking back; and semi-intensely too. but not smiling. i didnt know what to make of it. i thought she might have been grossed out at the sight of a cripple, but no-usually in that case she'd look right thru me, or past me, or give a little fake smile. in retro, i'd say she was exhibiting devo behavior, but i can't be sure.

[Ouch]

I don't know...I think there are two different looks, but they are subtle, and if you don't pay enough attention, you could easily miss it. I wouldn't have identified two seperate looks until I knew what a Devotee was...and then I realised there are some people that I have encountered that really could've been Devotees. Their approach, the odd way in which they did so...a sortie of sorts (that sounds funny...), they seem as though they dare to approach after long consideration, and if you pay attention, you can tell they have an unnatural focus on you; they may make a attempt to approach but some will falter as they lose the confidence once they hit a certain radius-point and then they awkwardly fall back and reconsider.

[Claire]

I think AB, Tri and Wind all nailed it. I would add to all that an obvious (or maybe not so obvious) look at the legs and chair. That's certainly how *I* behave in those situations. I've also been the object of those looks a couple of times, when using my chair. While there's no way to know for sure, as a devotee myself it seemed totally obvious to me that I was being appraised by a devotee. I actually smiled and started conversation with them myself. Not because I'm looking for someone, but out of curiosity. The reaction was interesting. Startled, looking but trying not to look at my legs and chair, and then a short conversation in which their attention was intense. And when I saw them again, they greeted me with way more familiarity than our level of acquaintance should allow. One seemed to follow me around sometimes at school. Not stalking, and not creepy at all, but just *being there* quite often. He was a really nice young guy, about 19, waaaaaaaaay too young for me (I'm in my late 30's, and not looking for someone anyway). Perhaps it was just coincidence, I don't know. But my behavior as a dev is quite similar with wheelers that I know. I try not to do it, but it's hard.

[Pony]

Wow, I must be running into 'Devs' all the time without knowing it!!! lol Look, I get those reactions all the time from people. It doesn't mean they are 'Devs' at all. And if I go some place twice in 6 months the waitress acts extremely 'familiar' because nobody forgets me. Most times they'll remember what I ordered last time. I could never rob a bank!!

Here's the deal, we are very different,sometimes shocking, to most AB people. It's interesting, alluring! Each person reacts different, but it fucks with people's head when they see a younger person (especially if good looks) knocked down into a chair. Among other emotions, it makes most people wonder how they'd handle it. It's even more disturbing if the chair-person is HOT!! Tri, that chick was attracted to YOU...not that you were on crutches!! Or, maybe it was the combination, but I'll bet she wasn't a Dev...just a girl attracted to a guy!!

[Triassic]

well anyway, i haven't gotten any devo OR non-devo action in some while....except...except for...[oh i'm almost too embarrased to mention it]...<blush> a certain GEORGE MICHAEL FAN....'wake me up before ya gogo/i don't plan on goin solo'...lata deedee...