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Sex Workers Outreach Project Chicago and Red Light District Chicago Present-

BASICS OF SEX WITH PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES

Date: Tuesday October 7, 2008
Time: 7:30 PM
Location: Early to Bed, 5232 N. Sheridan Rd., Chicago
Donation- $5 with proceeds benefiting Sex Workers Outreach Project-Chicago
www.swop-chicago.org

Hosted by SerpentLibertine of SWOP-Chicago

PRESENTATION DESCRIPTION:
A large number of disabled people have never experienced sex in their life. This lack of physical contact produces emotional pain. The disabled have the same desires and needs as everyone else. This is a presentation on how to interact and approach sexual activity with people who have disabilities. We will explore practical ways to physically interact with disabled partners.

Our presentation is intended to be a guide to help able-bodied people interact with people with disabilities in the best possible way. I will begin with a brief discussion about how people with disabilities should be viewed by able-bodied people. I will then provide correct terminology and etiquette, which may be utilized with people who have different disabilities. The presentation concludes with a short discussion of correct sexual etiquette between able-bodied people and the disabled(differently-abled).

PRESENTER’S BIOGRAPHY:

William Takahashi is a college graduate with a background in graphic arts and social work. He is disabled and has Cerebral Palsy. The effect of Cerebral Palsy, or CP, is characterized by lack of muscle control and body movement. He decided to enter the adult design world three years ago because he saw a real need for education, understanding, and integration of the disabled into the adult industry. It’s unfortunate that sex and disability are more often seen as a medical or academic research topic, but not seen as erotic or hot. He splits his time between doing disability awareness training in the adult entertainment industry, and marketing his erotic art greeting cards to adult product retail stores. He also enjoys being in front of a camera.

William’s websites-
www.adult-performer-resources.com
www.access-design-services.com/

[Ouch]

Ah! Making Syphillis and Gonorrhea accessable to all!

[Triassic]

i remember this guy. he used to do naked pics of himself 'interacting' with virtual reality sim chicks. bizarre! but he IS hung like a donkey, haha

[Lee Abramson]

They should make this program for all high end exotic dancers, as well as escorts. The last time I went to a strip club was in 2005 at none other than Scores in New York City. They waved the $20 entrance fee for me, but when one of the dancers refused to give me a lap dance because she was afraid that she would hurt me, it kind of bummed me out.

[MindOut]

Might get flamed or misunderstood but here goes,

Many disabled will mostly die as virgins and I think there’s nothing wrong with that. And vice versa if they choose to lose it through buying it should be ok too. We have needs and wants too but out of 60 only 3 or less AB person well even give a chance to get to know a disabled person. Perfect example is me; I graduated from elem. school as valedictorian, and H.S. as salutatorian. In college I'm treated like I'm retarded and that sucks big time. I was in 3 relationship and all ended with me used and abused. Sorry for ranting but life for us suxs or at least for me. It would be great for just one day without obstacles or judged by our appearances.

Just to clear things up I've never been to a strip club or hired a sex worker. I feel if disabled person choose to its their choice and its ok.

[mrjefffurz]

midout, u have only been used & abused 3 times?...dude, u havent even got started,,,u need to learn from your mistakes that allowed that to happen & continue the chase,,,u keep attacking life,,,let your obvious intelligence shine thru,,,convince yourself as best u can that if somebody is put off by your physical appearance then its them that has the problem,,,and yes,,,life for us does have its sucky elements,,,u r still young so u have to come to understand that despite the sucky stuff those moments are transitory,,,get over them and move on...ill leave the strip club discussion to matisse as i have little experience with them...chin up, dude,,,u CAN have a good life even with a dis if you really want to...

[BA]

Keep trying Mindout. You are very young. Too young to give up. It may take a special woman to see past whatever particular disability you have, but if you give up nobody will ever get to see the content of your character. What type of women have you 'dated' in the past? Have they been shallow and self-serving? If yes, then they are not worth YOU.

[mrjefffurz]

one more thing,,,start a strenuous regime of tongue exercises,,,it will come in handy when the right woman comes along

[roger888]

Mindout has got a point in that life can suck for us sometimes where relationships are concerned,there is a lot of luck involved in finding the right person,but is that exclusive to only disabled people?

Take a look around your local city or town centre & you will see its not.You only have to look around for the large proportion of sad AB's wandering the streets & you know the competition is very poor out there.

Might get flamed for this ,as Mindout would say,but I have got a lot to be thankful for being disabled because if I wasn't I wouldnt have met the wonderful woman that became my wife.If I was an AB i would never have met her,so being a "wheeler" is the best thing that happened to me & thats the absolute truth.

[Pony]

Well, that's a good point, Roger!! My one solace is that almost all the ABs I know have had a terrible time finding the RIGHT person. It's not just disabled, as I'm sure everyone realizes. Looking back, I've had a very active love life for quad, but age has worked it's magic against me in many ways, not just physical. I really don't think I probably would've found Miss Right had I not got hurt. I'm a different kind of animal than most, so it would've been like hitting the Lottery anyway. But I don't feel alone, as there's just so many people 'stuck' with wrong partners. That's something i could never tolerate, just being with someone...definitely not me!

[Ouch]

Well, I'm not going to start by saying 'Oh, there's plenty of fish!', etc. sorta' thing...

...it does suck, hardcore.

I understand your sentiments - I would lie if I said I didn't feel the same way at times, even now that I'm involved in a relationship...in fact, I'm so fucking grateful it's impossible to put into words that circumstances for me turned out the way they have recently. I never would've thought I would've gotten back to a point that I am now.

Even if I were 'Abled' as well, my previous two longish-term relationships would've most likely have been not very great anyway (drug addicts and dead people don't make very good girlfriends).

I think this is a circumstance that can happen for all people, though. The disability is just another circumstance that can complicate it (or be the 'selling point' in the case of Devs), which is why Devotees are so awesomely gifted (or cursed, depending on the time, and circumstances, I'm sure) with their particular attractions.

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Dead people can make great girlfriends.

[MindOut]

Oct 6, 2008 13:02:34 GMT -5 mrjefffurz said:

one more thing,,,start a strenuous regime of tongue exercises,,,it will come in handy when the right woman comes along

Sorry Mr. Jeff, I'm not interested lol

Funny thing is even finding friends are hard. Girls think I want to get their pants even a simple "hi" and funniest thing it's same with guys. My sister's ex is my only friend I guess and his interpretation was I have that pretty boy(assuming I'm gay) look which scare guys and girls sees the wheelchair before getting to know me. Another thing is gay guys hit on me all the times. I'm not homophobic but they have other intentions. I'm not interested in dating a guy or be friends with one who always want do things to me.

So, in past few weeks school work crushed me and noticed how strong I'm and it's a curse to think so much or the ability to.