anais
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Post by anais on Mar 26, 2009 11:17:23 GMT -5
So it goes like this. Have you ever had dev feelings for AB guys? I mean, is it common for you to fantasize devishly about non disabled acquaintances /actors/fictional charachters imagining them in wheelchaires and disabled?
I ask this, because I recently found out that this sort of fantazy turns me on much more than actual disabled guys I meet.
Does any of this sound familiar?
Would be waiting for your answers.
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Post by me on Mar 28, 2009 10:49:23 GMT -5
Yes, I imagine/fantasize the same thing, I wouldn't have thought this was uncommon. Funnily enough I don't have these thoughts about my OH though. The real thing is much more attractive though  |
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Post by dolly on Mar 30, 2009 1:06:42 GMT -5
So it goes like this. Have you ever had dev feelings for AB guys? I mean, is it common for you to fantasize devishly about non disabled acquaintances /actors/fictional charachters imagining them in wheelchaires and disabled? i probably wouldn't say "common", but occasionally. disabled guys hold more appeal for me, assuming they are attractive to me in other ways as well. but i do feel like i can enjoy fantasizing about fictional guys in a dev context more freely since the things that make me feel uncomfortable about being a dev (being attracted to something that may bring difficulty or pain to someone) are absent. i appreciate the lack of conflicted feelings involved in just pure fantasy. |
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Post by Claire on Mar 30, 2009 6:34:18 GMT -5
I mean, is it common for you to fantasize devishly about non disabled acquaintances /actors/fictional charachters imagining them in wheelchaires and disabled? I used to do this when I was younger, before I knew enough about devism to feel guilty about it. Now I just can't, it feels too much like wishing disability on someone and I can't do that, it makes me feel horrible. |
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Post by Enid on Mar 30, 2009 10:34:55 GMT -5
I used to do this when I was younger, before I knew enough about devism to feel guilty about it. Now I just can't, it feels too much like wishing disability on someone and I can't do that, it makes me feel horrible. This is exactly what happened to me as well. (Already existing) Fictional characters are game, but I usually stick to reading stories that do that. My own fantasizing only involves characters I make up myself. |
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Post by Ciao Bella on Mar 31, 2009 20:59:10 GMT -5
Before I had the guts to actually try and meet wheelies, I'd started out fantasizing about disabled characters in movies. I must say though, like Dolly, I much prefer the real guys...esp. my SO  |
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Post by faith on Apr 1, 2009 12:29:50 GMT -5
That is not a fantasy I have ever had. To be attracted to someone who has an injury that has already happened is one thing, but the thought of fantasizing about someone to have an injury is not comfortable to me. I know I have no control over that, but it still doesn't seem right. And, why.. when the real thing is so sexy? |
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anais
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Post by anais on Apr 27, 2009 7:13:23 GMT -5
Thanks to everyone for answering I don't think that "why" fantasizing about non-disabled guy is a question I could answer. I wish I hadn't (not really though) it just happens, without any control. And somehow I don't even fell guilty about it, since I believe I do not wish them anything, well, not willingly. It is just sort of a little pleasure I allow myself into. But the thing is, that may be the real question that I ask here, is whether I am a genuine dev. Of course I know that the definition is broad. But from reading the forum, I often feel that perhaps more than many of you I am attracted to fantasy than the real thing. And again, it is possible that it came out this way because I have never tried the "real thing", but it also feels like I don't want the real thing, it scares me alot, and, I am afraid, it doesn't give me the rush as much as the fantasy. So...I don't know, I guess I am confused. |
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Post by CJ on Jul 8, 2009 16:00:09 GMT -5
I don't exactly feel the same way as you, but to some extent I know what you mean. I don't fantasize about real AB guys becoming disabled. It would make me feel like I'm wishing something bad upon them. However, one night I had a dream that involved a guy I know in real life, except in my dream, he was in a chair. I would never want harm to come to him, but after that dream, I just couldn't look at him the same way anymore. It's strange because I was never attracted to him before the dream, but I was afterward because of the image still in my head.
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Post by celesty on Oct 10, 2009 21:25:42 GMT -5
I have always felt bad about imagining AB guys were disabled. I would never ever wish them to be. But I do think that fictional characters/non disabled guys can be hot in wheelchairs.
The other day, one of my classmates was wheeling around in another one's wheelchair, and I thought it was really cute, until he stood up, of course!
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Post by vonvon13 on Oct 13, 2009 5:07:23 GMT -5
I have dreamed of some of the AB men i have dated becoming disabled. So, i guess in my mind i have. LOL! |
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Post by wheelbaby on May 3, 2010 10:25:34 GMT -5
Constantly happening to me too... And yes, even about my fantastic fiance. That's -devotee- life...  |
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Post by Neffie on May 3, 2010 17:06:19 GMT -5
I have been lying in bed with an AB man on top of me and I really wanted to feel something sexually or emotionally. I just couldn't. I have kissed the guy and made all the moves but feel nothing.
There was only ONCE I tried this (and still feel guilty) but I sat on my BF and imagined he was paralysed. It just doesn't work for obvious reasons.
There is no sobstitute
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Post by gorgonesque on May 3, 2010 21:45:08 GMT -5
I've had "those thoughts/dreams" as well. My specific fet, though, is versatile enough that something like a routine surgery or mild injury is enough. Still guilt-inducing, though.
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Post by aliceofwonder on May 3, 2010 23:28:39 GMT -5
oh anais, all the time!! you can probably understand how completely distracting it is, which is probably why i write because i need to get them out of my head and onto paper. I think i have been doing this long before i knew i was a dev. When i was young i use to have this re-occuring day dream that by childhood best friend would become a wheelchair user. There are even those shots in a movie or tv show where you could imagine it and again the fantasies begin. Perhaps i just have a really active imagination. glad you started this post.
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