Revisiting the past...

[problemlover223]

Ughhh!!!!!!!!!!!! I just started posting again. that always gets me thinking about my x. I couldnt help myself and i called him last night. Why? This is soooo not good for either one of us. F*&K...it took me so long to get to a point where i thought id moved on. Still, in all honesty (and the main reason i consider myself a dev) hes the best partner ive ever had. Hands dn, bar none, period. I can see him if i want to in 2 weeks. He says hes still working on getting past all the shit and dramma we went through. havent seen him in months. im trying to make good choices for my life and i know better than to go back and rehash something that wed already left in the past. but.....why deny ourselves of a little 'fun'. i dont miss him i miss being with him. he doesnt seem to miss me but being with me. were both adults, both not in commited relationships since ours. i just want opinions here. Is this a bad idea? mayb im overthinking things. it would b great to spend a few days with him. really great ;D i do have to work while im there but trust...my job leaves a wide margin for free time, its like getting paid to hang out. (when were traveling, office life is a lot duller and work related)and wed b at a hotel so it would b like a vacation. should I? Is devogirl around? I need her insight....

[vonvon13]

;D Just F$$K his brains out. Get it over with you know you want too. Having sex with him every few months is not going to kill you. Don't beat yourself up over it. Actually may be the thing you need. Until the day the right wheeler comes along and rolls you off in to the sunset with him. Just have fun.

[irishclaire]

Hmmmm I gotta give my opinion here. It could go 2 ways...you could have the best time of your life or you could get your heart broken again. As we ladies are generally more emotional (I said generally) it could get very messy and bring back memories of being together and wanting that back. I wouldn't be able to have anything with my ex...even talking about him now is too painful. Maybe you and your ex are in a better place than that and things could end up just being physical and fun. I'm just too cynical for my own good at the minute.

[Dee Dee]

Problemlover223 - I think you´ve more or less given the answer yourself by saying that it wouldn´t be good for either of you.

Being together physically can quickly lead to more - and then you´re back where you started. You say you´ve left it in the past, and if you want to move on, wouldn´t it be better not to visit that past?

Obviously I don´t know you or your boyfriend, but from reading between your lines: I wouldn´t do it if I were you. Then again, you know best yourself

[BA]

Are you a person who can easily detach sex from emotion? I have never been able to be "friends with benefits". I get sucked back into the muck and mire. I have learned the hard way, to let the past go.

[Valkyrja]

Ah... I think AB made a good point.
I was thinking the same. All my female girls can´t separate that. Once the sex is in the picture, they seem to be emotionally bonded.

[problemlover223]

Hmmmmm. Thanx evbody. Guess the real issue here is what twilight was saying about getting emmotionaly involved. I cant make up my mind. Im trying to separate myself from the situation just to see things objectively but in all honesty i cant. Still its very fuc*^d up that theres no question hes the best lover ive ever had and i do think i deserve that treat. Ya'll keep posting....i'll be here confused till the day i need to make up my mind.

[problemlover223]

Just to let ya'll know...I JUST HAD THE BEST WEEKEND EVER!!!!!! I can already see all the things I got warned about about to creep up on me but wtf at this pt I dont care. I SOOOO NEEDED THIS!!! I hope we can keep a safe distance since we live so far away but I think ill b ok. No regrets. Not at all...

[annie]

As long as you have no regrets, then I say good for you. You are entilted to a good time, and if you can separate fun from past feelings good for you.