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Post by yoell on Jun 29, 2009 23:51:51 GMT -5
I have noticed a trend in many different threads. My observation is many members have discussed what Dev's like to see. I understand that woman are different than men. Dudes are always in favor of seeing as much as possible. Woman, on the other hand are have a different perspective. So, that being said. How explicit could a wheeler go in posting photos without going too far? I know a few of the devs have mentioned that they like to see the legs, or what have you. Where is that line for a wheeler in providing pictures that are too explicit. Where is that line? I bring this up as a consequence of IM'ing a dev or two and talking about what the line is between appreciated and "that is not appropriate." I must admit, my confidence has grown since the early days of my injury. So, in all honesty I am not all that worried about going too far. For my love of the devs, how far is too far? I ask this because, frankly I wouldn't be worried about providing images that are very explicit. So, where is that line? depending on responses, you just may get some great leg images, faith, and more. "discuss amongst yourselves." Until then, I am holding off on any pics that ya'll may like, or not like.
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Post by faith on Jun 30, 2009 1:35:24 GMT -5
I have to say that this line made me smile..... "For my love of the devs".
My personal opinion is I would much prefer some things left to imagination, although I am not easily offended in that area either.
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Post by Ciao Bella on Jun 30, 2009 2:12:36 GMT -5
"For my love of Devs" - just gorgeous! LOL
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Post by Dee Dee on Jun 30, 2009 4:42:38 GMT -5
I think it would depend totally on who your spectators are, Yoell. If it is a public site like this one, I don´t think it´s appropriate to post very graphic photos; and by graphic I mean people more or less in the nude. A pair of legs however, wouldn´t be too graphic for my "taste". But it´s difficult to answer, really, as I don´t know what you´re thinking about specifically.
If it´s a case of sending photos to someone, you´re chatting with, then you should only do it as long as you´re sure that the other person is comfortable with receiving those photos. And never send a photo, that you´re going to regret having sent later on.
As nice as photos can be, they´re only pieces of paper or in this modern day and age pixels on a screen; so the best thing would obviously be to meet someone physically/in real life and then - as things progressed - show (her) what you would like to show.
If it were me, I´d ask that person straight out. She can always say no.
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Post by BA on Jun 30, 2009 5:49:34 GMT -5
I think it would depend totally on who your spectators are, Yoell. If it is a public site like this one, I don´t think it´s appropriate to post very graphic photos; and by graphic I mean people more or less in the nude. A pair of legs however, wouldn´t be too graphic for my "taste". But it´s difficult to answer, really, as I don´t know what you´re thinking about specifically. If it´s a case of sending photos to someone, you´re chatting with, then you should only do it as long as you´re sure that the other person is comfortable with receiving those photos. And never send a photo, that you´re going to regret having sent later on. As nice as photos can be, they´re only pieces of paper or in this modern day and age pixels on a screen; so the best thing would obviously be to meet someone physically/in real life and then - as things progressed - show (her) what you would like to show. If it were me, I´d ask that person straight out. She can always say no. That was SO well said that I have nothing further to add! Ditto squared and cubed!
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Post by Triassic on Jun 30, 2009 8:59:45 GMT -5
just whatever you do-no erect penises. not sure about a limp one...MIGHT be ok.
pics featuring a legbag aren't too popular eithe r.
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Post by devogirl on Jun 30, 2009 12:26:22 GMT -5
Yes, please no cock pictures. Even in private IMs, in general women are not impressed or turned on by a close-up of a cock. Other than that, ideas about what is tasteful can vary a lot. It's hard to make a generalization.
But keep in mind that photos you post here or email or IM to anyone can be used in ways you might not want. This is an open forum--anyone can see the photo you post and copy it for use elsewhere. Even with private messages, it's a good idea to be careful about what you send, especially if you don't know the person well. You never know where it will end up. My ex Rollerboy had his photos stolen by a guy pretending to be a devo woman, who used them to create a pretender website, impersonating him and making up stories about his life as a quad. Just FYI.
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Post by BA on Jun 30, 2009 21:31:37 GMT -5
A long time ago we had a dude who decided to post pics of his penis. He titled the thread "My brown banana". Needless to say, his penis pics were not well received on the board. The brown banana has become a running joke.
Banana's, of course this is a public forum. It is open to anyone who wants to join and can be read by those who just sign in as guests. Someone could pop on here at random and see your pics. It is not like you are sending a private email. If you don't list your real name, birthdate or address and you decide not to post any photos, then you will be pretty anonymous.
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Post by yoell on Jul 1, 2009 1:03:23 GMT -5
OK, a few additional thoughts to a few questions. first, I had this thought at first when I accidently saw a fellow female wheeler in some sexy photos she did for herself a few years ago. And, after talking with someone, that came to my mind. At which point, I thought to ask this question. I know for her it was exploration and a search of her self-identity for her own sexuality. I had similar thoughts. Many aspects of who we are is our sexuality and that has a impact our lives. So, I asked this question to gain some further understanding of my own sexuality. I felt this place was a good place to gain some knowledge.
Second, I really didn't have any true thoughts of what I would show, or not show. But, I am pretty sure that my penis would not be in the image. After reading the posts, I would likely try to make them more erotic vs. pornographic. Something along the lines exposing the legs, belly, or shoulders. As far as them getting out. Well, I am not overly worried, as this "world" is not "mainstream". And, I am not sure if I would actually do it. But, if I did it really would be to gain some understanding about my own sexuality. So, you are safe from my Brown Banana, ya'll can rest easy.
Oh, and this is not attempt to get some sweet, sweet dev love.
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Post by roger888 on Jul 1, 2009 1:20:15 GMT -5
This is a good thread because I think its opened a few eyes about how public everything in it really is for the newer membes.It might have the effect of fewer people posting pics though,maybe its time to give paradevo more privacy.You can see everything on the website BUT you have to be a member & log in?I'm sure there's a way it can be done,is it time for a referendum on this subject? In answer to the OP.Full length clothed pics is enough,anything else you dont need to show it on the public forum,that can easily be down privately if thats your thing
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Post by Enid on Jul 1, 2009 11:24:08 GMT -5
Identity thief issues aside, I think a good rule of thumb is treating the net as if it were the meatspace. This is a public forum, so pictures should ideally be the equivalent of seeing you on the street. Pictures on the pool/beach would probably be ok, but not the way you'd initially present yourself, I guess. IMs and emails are private interaction. Being naked in your own house is not a crime, and there certainly might be situations when it's perfectly appropiate, but nobody wants to go to your house for coffee and find you buck naked. Take nude pictures if you want to, it's a very interesting exercise even if you don't show them to anyone. If you do want to send them to somebody make sure that you work the relationship up to the point when you wouldn't mind them seeing you that naked in real life, and that they're not expecting the pictures of your last trip Just my two cents.
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Post by Ouch on Jul 1, 2009 15:04:57 GMT -5
Yeah the brown banana was too far...
...when it comes to restraining oneself, it's your own call. I have nothing for people to steal, and if someone wants my identity, then I pity the poor bastards for the world of crap they're getting into.
...when it comes to showing others, and finding a limit with them, well that's more one on one, in terms of what's acceptable. I can't tell you what the preferences are of AB, or Devogirl individually, but I can tell you what my own preferences are...(in general terms, not in relation to you lol).
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