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Post by BA on Sept 17, 2009 16:56:22 GMT -5
;D After a fairly dry spell, have been re-visited by the "devo crazies". Suddenly hot all over again. So frustrated! Is it the change of life? What causes these hot spells? I haven't had a sighting or a contact at all.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Sept 17, 2009 20:03:50 GMT -5
I don't know what causes them. Go with the flow, try to enjoy it. I don't know why I'm advising you...  I guess it's really just a yeah, I get it... but can't seem to have it. Sigh. P.S. You can't be doing the change of life thing, can you? You're not old enough for that are you? |
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Post by nell on Sept 17, 2009 22:08:28 GMT -5
I don't get it... why is that a bad thing again??
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Post by BA on Sept 18, 2009 5:04:22 GMT -5
I don't get it... why is that a bad thing again?? It's not a bad thing at all. It's a frustrating thing b/c I am otherwise partnered with a "Mr. AB" and sometimes have problems with that. |
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Post by dolly on Sept 18, 2009 8:18:01 GMT -5
"devo crazies"... lol
yup, those patches can be overwhelming and frustrating in so many ways.
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Post by canadiandev on Sept 18, 2009 10:21:36 GMT -5
;D After a fairly dry spell, have been re-visited by the "devo crazies". Suddenly hot all over again. So frustrated! Is it the change of life? What causes these hot spells? I haven't had a sighting or a contact at all. I believe it's related partly to menstrual cycles. After my exciting weekend chat with a wheeler I'm now feeling absolutely nothing dev-like - just like that it switched off. Has to be somehow linked to hormones. I totally understand having problems with the fact that you're attached during "the crazies". Does Mr. AB know you're a dev and/or understand? |
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Post by BA on Sept 18, 2009 16:20:34 GMT -5
I totally understand having problems with the fact that you're attached during "the crazies". Does Mr. AB know you're a dev and/or understand? ABsolutely not, or should I say not really. I have hinted at things to him over the years, but as I have said on another thread many moons ago - he thinks my "interest" shows what a "good hearted person" I am. He does not seem to link this to sexual interest and I am not going to discuss it any further than I have with him. He has drawn his own conclusions. So be it. |
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Post by nell on Sept 18, 2009 22:03:52 GMT -5
AB, does he know about this website?
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Post by BA on Sept 19, 2009 9:04:35 GMT -5
AB, does he know about this website? Not at all. |
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Post by faith on Sept 19, 2009 18:19:13 GMT -5
AB- I have had that so many times through the years. On, off.. on, off...on, on, on, on...  I really do think it has something to do with other parts of our lives. Hormones, fulfillment or lack of fulfillment in other areas of life, even seasons of the year.... I don't know I guess! Just enjoy it, embrace it, take it all in... I think it is completely normal! (for us anyway!) |
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Post by Ciao Bella on Sept 19, 2009 21:09:27 GMT -5
I know exactly what you mean, AB - I've actually been in my "off" moods lately...but you know what? I am looking forward to my "on" days again. For some reason I enjoy my "on" days because I know I'm never consistently in that frame of mind. So as what all the other girlies here say...Enjoy and embrace it! Carpe Diem |
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Post by Valkyrja on Sept 20, 2009 0:20:11 GMT -5
I think we all have this on/off seasons. For example, when I have a lot of work (lot means 10-12 hs. a day including saturdays) I`m completely "Off" latelly.
So... like Isabelle said... enjoy this on season!!!
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Post by paraxdreamer on Sept 20, 2009 9:28:46 GMT -5
I totaly understand AB. I am in a relationship too at the moment. I dont think its going to last. well we have tech. broken up, again! because they totaly dont get it. I feel completly unforfilled which causes arguments in other areas. It just never works. I have an on day 24/7 lol but its fustrating because I cant seem to find that right person. I dont think its just a sexual thing , I feel the wheelchair is the added spice i need in my relationships. Like that is the thing thats missing and stopping it from working.. So here I am single AGAIN lol waiting for the right para , because it just seems I don't think I can hide my urges and my unsatisfaction anymore. x:)
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Post by BA on Sept 20, 2009 12:50:28 GMT -5
Paraxdreamer, I am presuming your soon to be "ex" is non-disabled? It sounds like you told him about your preference for a disabled guy by the way you state they "totally don't get it"?
How many of you have told your non-disabled boyfriends/partners and what has their reaction been?
I have never told a non-disabled partner - ever. It's only since being on this board at the age of 40 that I discussed it with anyone ( and thank god for all of you!) Never dreamt that would happen.
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Post by Valkyrja on Sept 20, 2009 22:18:55 GMT -5
Like you, AB, I've never told my partner about my devness. Nor I told my friend, I trusth them everything but, I don´t know why, I could never told them about my dev side.
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I guess it's really just a yeah, I get it... but can't seem to have it. Sigh. 
