GREAT BOOK

[Neffie]

I read this book today and I wanna see what you think.

Some of you in the States will have seen it on Oprah and everything, believe me, I am the LAST person to read a self help book. The only therapy I have comes in a bottle with a cork.

nevertheless, I heard about this from the girl who works for me and I thought I would read it. I read the whole thing in 3 hrs at work.

I thought it would piss me off but it didn't, it's just a book about what men want and how women can deliver. It tells you how to spot a man who is using you as well as how to get a man to take you seriously.

Woah, I know this is me so I don't say this lightly BUT men are the Daddies.

I read this book and everything made sense to me but didn't really apply to a wheeler.
It made me realise sooooo much when i thought about it though.

This book is aimed at God-fearing, AB Black men in America and yet somehow he still makes it about all men no matter who they are.

What i couldn't help feeling though is that the main principles of manhood as he sees them don't apply in some part to most wheelers. This is problematic to Devs and any woman obviously as it means he will never be truly happy until he finds his purpose and role in life.


The book is

Act like a Lady, Think Like a Man.

I understand a lot more about men from reading this. Will it help me? God knows....

[devogirl]

I haven't read this book, but I have heard about it. I don't have an opinion about the whole thing, but I think his observation about men not being happy until they find their purpose and role in life is right on the money AND it applies to women as well. This is a problem for disabled guys because most men find their purpose through a career and it is harder for a person with a disability to work. However, it doesn't mean it's hopeless. First, there are jobs out there and second, work is not the only path to one's purpose in life--there are plenty of guys on this board who have successful careers or who find purpose in creative work, social work, etc.

There was a post a few weeks ago by someone who was worried that her wheeler guy doesn't work. I think this can be a big problem if he has no purpose or direction in life. It doesn't have to be a paying job, but he should have something that gives him direction and meaning, otherwise he won't be happy, and you won't be happy with him. I once dated a guy whose only ambition was to play video games all day. At first we had fun messing around, but eventually he didn't even want to leave the house, and in retrospect it was one of many signs of serious depression.