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Post by Ath on Sept 22, 2010 22:54:46 GMT -5
There seem to be lots of devs here who has never been/met/dated a partner with the specific thing you are looking for? Did that make sence in english..?
-I mean are there devs here who has never been with a disabled guy at all?
I know some of you are married/ living together too.
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Post by Emma on Sept 22, 2010 23:20:38 GMT -5
I spent 8 years like that (29 if you count not knowing about being a dev) so I totally understand the reality of it. It takes time to both work up the courage to contact someone and be okay with changing your perception of what a boyfriend should be. It's tough to find a partner with the disability you are into especially someone who is you age, shares interests and is compatible iwth your personality wise. I suggest trying out people who are not perfect disability, age, personality, or whatever wise.
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Post by Valkyrja on Sept 23, 2010 5:43:50 GMT -5
I. I never met a wheeler. I knew my partner in 1995 and we are together since then. We have a wonderful kid and we are OK (I mean... sometimes you love him a lot and other you want to kill him! LOL!!... ) But a wheeler... never.
Ít´s gonna be difficult to be with one now (at least phisically speaking) because I´d never cheat my partner.
That´s why I´m totally aware that you can´t get everything in life!
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Post by Cake on Sept 23, 2010 18:16:23 GMT -5
-I mean are there devs here who has never been with a disabled guy at all? Yep, I'm one of those weird devs. Maybe I'm not "hardcore", I don't know. I mean, it's not that I don't want to... But it's also not my only option to ever be happy. |
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Post by Ath on Sept 23, 2010 18:22:23 GMT -5
I didn't mean it was weird =)
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Sept 23, 2010 19:30:27 GMT -5
Yep, I'm one of those weird devs. Maybe I'm not "hardcore", I don't know. I mean, it's not that I don't want to... But it's also not my only option to ever be happy. Yes. |
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Post by Valkyrja on Sept 23, 2010 23:05:47 GMT -5
yes... I love scars! my guy only has one... and a really little one from a motorcycle crash too. He hited against a car but he managed to jump over the car, so... he barely hit one knee. The scar is about 1,5 cm... I have more scars and biggers!! LOL!!
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Post by BA on Sept 24, 2010 19:37:34 GMT -5
Yes, I have had a long term relationship with a wheeler. There was tremendous physical chemistry and it was probably the hottest relationship I have ever had sexually, but there were other issues such as extreme control, stagnation and a pretty nasty temper that ultimately brought things to an end. I subsequently dated other wheelers, but nothing at that level of attraction.
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Post by devine on Sept 30, 2010 13:42:33 GMT -5
Yep, I'm one of those weird devs. Maybe I'm not "hardcore", I don't know. I mean, it's not that I don't want to... But it's also not my only option to ever be happy. Yes. Yep, yep.  |
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Post by Neffie on Oct 1, 2010 19:16:31 GMT -5
It's not from want of trying Ath!!!
The way I see it I've been waiting since I was like 13 to mount a wheeler and when I do you better believe it'll be amazing. I don't expect fireworks but I know I'll be happy for the first time and that's worth waiting for
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Post by cwbjr on Oct 5, 2010 13:32:12 GMT -5
Yes, I have. Several times.
It is as scary and thrilling as you might think. As always, it rarely lives up to the fantasy, but still immensely enjoyable.
I would encourage anyone who has the means to fulfill that fantasy at some point, if for no other reason than to ground said fantasy in some sense of reality. Otherwise, the fantasy takes on a life of its own, and the reality, when experienced, can lead to disappointment. I've learned to find something (even if just one aspect) that I really like/enjoy in each of my encounters, even if the overall experience didn't live up to my lofty expectations.
In addition, living the fantasy does help to relieve the sense of desperation - that feeling that you're never EVER going to get to experience that one thing that you've obsessed about your whole life. And it helps you realize that you're not some crazy freak, just someone with some unique interests.
:-)
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Post by paraxdreamer on Oct 12, 2010 12:57:04 GMT -5
There seem to be lots of devs here who has never been/met/dated a partner with the specific thing you are looking for? Did that make sence in english..? -I mean are there devs here who has never been with a disabled guy at all? I know some of you are married/ living together too. I have met quads and 1 para ( when i was 15 i met the para) I have never done anything with a sci guy. Its unfortunate though! because it would be good to figure out if how i imagine things would be ..are just a fantasy or would i really enjoy it in real life.. im sure one day il find out lol there isnt alot of disabled guys in uk.. seems to be a few on here lol but none that i know lol |
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Post by paraxdreamer on Oct 12, 2010 13:14:25 GMT -5
It's not from want of trying Ath!!! The way I see it I've been waiting since I was like 13 to mount a wheeler and when I do you better believe it'll be amazing. I don't expect fireworks but I know I'll be happy for the first time and that's worth waiting for oh my goodness this sounds like me lol but ive been waiting abit longer lol boy oh boy will it be worth it when it happens haha |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Oct 13, 2010 7:08:30 GMT -5
It's definitely worth the wait...but something strange happened to me a while ago. Before my current bf and I decided we wanted to get serious, we took a little break from each other, we both wanted to make sure this is what we wanted. Moving my whole life for someone is not something I have done before and I wanted to take it seriously make the right decision. During that time, I went on a date with another guy who is a para. He was a really nice guy, dinner was great, good conversation, he was funny but something just wasn't right, something was missing. I didn't feel attracted or turned on by him at all! Not the least bit! So that was a strange feeling for me. And when my bf and I got back together, I just knew he was the one for me. The attraction was instant and the chemistry we have is incredible. Am I a true dev? I don't know. I do find guys in wheelchair sexy but I think my feelings for my bf goes deeper than just him being a quad, our relationship has evolved to a whole different level. It just feels right, so I can say I am living my fantasy now and even more. Awesome.  |
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Post by Devoblue on Oct 13, 2010 12:24:32 GMT -5
It's definitely worth the wait...but something strange happened to me a while ago. Before my current bf and I decided we wanted to get serious, we took a little break from each other, we both wanted to make sure this is what we wanted. Moving my whole life for someone is not something I have done before and I wanted to take it seriously make the right decision. During that time, I went on a date with another guy who is a para. He was a really nice guy, dinner was great, good conversation, he was funny but something just wasn't right, something was missing. I didn't feel attracted or turned on by him at all! Not the least bit! So that was a strange feeling for me. And when my bf and I got back together, I just knew he was the one for me. The attraction was instant and the chemistry we have is incredible. Am I a true dev? I don't know. I do find guys in wheelchair sexy but I think my feelings for my bf goes deeper than just him being a quad, our relationship has evolved to a whole different level. It just feels right, so I can say I am living my fantasy now and even more. Awesome. I second Inigo's comment.  It just proves the point again that we aren't going to be with a guy strictly because of his being a wheeler. There has to be more...without wanting to sound cliche'd, it really is the whole package. Sweetlia it's really wonderful that you've found that. Congrats. |
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It just proves the point again that we aren't going to be with a guy strictly because of his being a wheeler. There has to be more...without wanting to sound cliche'd, it really is the whole package. Sweetlia it's really wonderful that you've found that. Congrats.