Post by jordsbaby on Oct 21, 2010 18:20:12 GMT -5
I was with my ex-partner (c5/c6) for four years, which include some of the highest and lowest points in my life. A pivotal point of our relationship was that he would constantly leave it, and say he wasn't good enough for me, or that he didn't feel like he was supposed to have relationships. But I was always there waiting for when he came to his senses again and we'd make up and it'd all be okay until the next time. My relationship involved a bucketload of patience and understanding, sometimes we both got frustrated but it all just came together eventually. Being with someone from a young age (I'd just turned 15 when we got together, moved in nine months later) I just got used to being with a man who needed my help for a lot of things. In a lot of ways it felt like I was the older one in the relationship, I grew up pretty quickly when I was a teenager.
Then it was the final straw for me when I got pregnant and expected him to be excited, but instead he left and said he never wanted it. I knew he'd try and come back in through the door eventually, but I've made it clear to him that I'll be raising MY little girl the way I want to, and if he wants to contribute he'll have to prove it. I'd rather be with a man who can love me and my daughter because we exist. I don't want to be taken advantage of and be the swinging, revolving door in life.
tl;dr - Yes, I've been with a wheeler.
Then it was the final straw for me when I got pregnant and expected him to be excited, but instead he left and said he never wanted it. I knew he'd try and come back in through the door eventually, but I've made it clear to him that I'll be raising MY little girl the way I want to, and if he wants to contribute he'll have to prove it. I'd rather be with a man who can love me and my daughter because we exist. I don't want to be taken advantage of and be the swinging, revolving door in life.
tl;dr - Yes, I've been with a wheeler.
