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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 7, 2011 20:12:04 GMT -5
As you can tell by now, I'm pretty open about what I'm attracted to. I always tell the people that I date, even the non-disabled ones. I've had several relationships with able-bodied men and none (strangely, it seems to me) ever had a problem with me being a dev. I don't think they really thought through all the implications, but anyway...
Many of them suggested the idea of sexual role play with a wheelchair.
I've never tried it. It seems like it wouldn't be enough, having someone pretend to be disabled for me, but knowing that he wasn't.
(Of course there is also the issue that sexy wheelchairs are very expensive!)
Has anyone tried this or considered trying it?
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Post by devogirl on Jan 7, 2011 21:43:10 GMT -5
Never done that, it feels too presumptuous to do it in public, and besides it's way to difficult and expensive to get a nice chair. And I don't think a guy who was not a pretender or wannabe could fake it well enough to be interesting. On the other hand, with an ex a long time ago we had an elaborate plan to play with plaster casts and crutches. He got the casting material but we broke up before we got around to doing it. Too bad, because that would have been fun.
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 7, 2011 21:58:48 GMT -5
Never done that, it feels too presumptuous to do it in public, and besides it's way to difficult and expensive to get a nice chair. And I don't think a guy who was not a pretender or wannabe could fake it well enough to be interesting. On the other hand, with an ex a long time ago we had an elaborate plan to play with plaster casts and crutches. He got the casting material but we broke up before we got around to doing it. Too bad, because that would have been fun. Yeah, I agree that I don't think someone not involved in this world could pull off pretending well enough. I also feel like the other person identifying as disabled is important to me. I don't know why. Also, good point, Lucretia, that it might introduce a lot of awkwardness into a relationship. This probably won't come up again because I really don't think that I can be satisfied in a relationship with someone who isn't disabled and that's not fair to any of us. So, I would rather be alone than compromise. I've tried enough times to make it work with non-disabled men and it just doesn't. |
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Post by Emma on Jan 7, 2011 23:16:33 GMT -5
Never done that, it feels too presumptuous to do it in public, and besides it's way to difficult and expensive to get a nice chair. And I don't think a guy who was not a pretender or wannabe could fake it well enough to be interesting. On the other hand, with an ex a long time ago we had an elaborate plan to play with plaster casts and crutches. He got the casting material but we broke up before we got around to doing it. Too bad, because that would have been fun. DG I too have thought that plaster casts could somewhat replicate what I want as a dev with an AB guy. I imagined it several times when I was dating AB guys but never brought it up. I do know two male devs, one who pretends with crutches/plaster and is starting to involve his AB wife in it. The other pretends all the time he is an amputee with his AB wife and she also pretends to be an amp for him. The both have bought the nice, cool wheelchairs on ebay. |
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 8, 2011 21:24:38 GMT -5
I've had guys pretend before and it sucked. Did nothing for me. On the other hand, I had an AB male friend who had to spend a day in a wheelchair as some part of sociological experiment (don't ask). I had never been particularly attracted to him, but for some reason, I wanted to jump him that day. Not sure why. That is good to know! Sometimes I wish I could just use it in the bedroom and that's it, but it just doesn't seem like it would work for me. |
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Post by Neffie on Jan 10, 2011 15:50:30 GMT -5
I always wanted sex sitting up though
if I had an AB guy I would ask him to sit on the end of the bed so I could straddle him (if there wasn't a hard backed chair).
I still never got off but I got closer
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 10, 2011 16:22:48 GMT -5
I always wanted sex sitting up though if I had an AB guy I would ask him to sit on the end of the bed so I could straddle him (if there wasn't a hard backed chair). I still never got off but I got closer Interesting, I've never tried that! |
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Post by Emma on Jan 10, 2011 23:58:06 GMT -5
I've had guys pretend before and it sucked. Did nothing for me. On the other hand, I had an AB male friend who had to spend a day in a wheelchair as some part of sociological experiment (don't ask). I had never been particularly attracted to him, but for some reason, I wanted to jump him that day. Not sure why. The college I went to had a day like that where one of the classes had to do that, the whole class... all day... It was one of my favorite days... it seemed like there where wheelers everywhere... LOL It's a bad example of disability since being in a chair only one day makes people think it's super tough when in reality day 2 is easier and day 500 is even easier. |
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Post by ruthmadison on Jan 11, 2011 10:11:56 GMT -5
The college I went to had a day like that where one of the classes had to do that, the whole class... all day... It was one of my favorite days... it seemed like there where wheelers everywhere... LOL It's a bad example of disability since being in a chair only one day mates people think it's super tough when in reality day 2 is easier and day 500 is even easier. I've heard that. I was just looking at a book about how to do a Disability Awareness day effectively written by the woman who started The Disability Rag in the '80s. It looks excellent and she makes the point that having people test out disabilities for a few hours doesn't really educate! |
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