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Post by dentelle on Jul 1, 2011 9:40:48 GMT -5
I wonder if I'm being played upon.  Again, he is not coming. This time he sais the 18th. I checked and there is a plane leaving the 11th. Now what do I do, do I tell him about it? Or do I just leave it for the 18th. GRRRRRRRR.I'm starting to get royally pissed off. I just got off the phone with my mom and we comforted each other. My dad pissed her off too. I'm so upset, I'm going to take an appointment with a social worker at my clinic. Cause this is not normal. I've gone before with big problems like the time that the tennants downstairs threatened to kill me and when I found out about my health. I hate going to see people about my problems. I hate depending on anyone. So how would you call it? He seems so sincere...... |
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Post by ~Z28gal~ on Jul 1, 2011 9:44:49 GMT -5
I wonder if I'm being played upon. Again, he is not coming. This time he sais the 18th. I checked and there is a plane leaving the 11th. Now what do I do, do I tell him about it? Or do I just leave it for the 18th. GRRRRRRRR.I'm starting to get royally pissed off. I just got off the phone with my mom and we comforted each other. My dad pissed her off too. I'm so upset, I'm going to take an appointment with a social worker at my clinic. Cause this is not normal. I've gone before with big problems like the time that the tennants downstairs threatened to kill me and when I found out about my health. I hate going to see people about my problems. I hate depending on anyone. So how would you call it? He seems so sincere...... Hey Dentelle - How many times has this happened? And what are reasons for not coming? I generally try to give the benefit of the doubt the first two times, and then after that I get suspicious... ~Z |
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Post by dentelle on Jul 1, 2011 11:40:14 GMT -5
This is the second time. The planes were booked. He found for the 18th, but I found for the 11th. He's checking out the 11th. Mom said if he does it again, just let it go. Sigh oh well, I,m eating my comfort food, walnuts. I talked to him on the phone. It was the right number, so that checks. Oh well he's called me like 5 times so far. I guess that I've been dumped upon by guys so many times that I do get suspicious. So depending on the tickets, he'll be here the 11th or the 18. I am not going to hold my breath. And I,ll be even more healthy  Thanks Z28gal. I'm sorry for my insecurities. Guess I'm more dev than I thought. |
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Post by Emma on Jul 1, 2011 13:43:05 GMT -5
D I would be very suspicious. Have you been on webcam with him? I'd try to do some random contacting and see if he is available and answers the phone. I'm sorry this is happening but sadly it seems like more the norm than things working out the way they should.
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Post by dentelle on Jul 1, 2011 16:49:59 GMT -5
Thanks for all your concerns, I love you all for it. I feel liked actually and warm and fuzzy inside.
I'm being careful and very cautious. I tend to fly off the panhandle an think the worst, 13 years of marriage did that to me. So I've learned to count to 10 and then wait for an explanation.
Hopefully things will go as planned. Yeah men and streetcars or busses......
I'm thinking that men are all alike. Look downstairs, no idea of the jerk has moved or not. IT IS A MESSSSSSSSSSS. I'm telling you. He left the key, my tennant, but sheeeeeeesh, the mess he left behind. Atleast he didn't leave his fabulous collection of cardboard Tim Hortons cups. I have to wash the wall down outside with water cause they used the corner down there as an ashtray. GRRRRRRRRR. Men. It's smutty.
Georgette
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Post by dentelle on Jul 8, 2011 18:27:50 GMT -5
Well, he cancelled again. This time a funeral. Hmmmm, I hate to be mean, but I nearly asked for the name of the guy. I am now more than suspicious. I,m not crying this time, just exasperated. I don'T want to be like the guy in Ferris Buellers day off and ask for the body, but geee. So the date has been changed to the 18th or the 24th. We'll see. Atleast I have calmed down about it all for the most part, still. I DO NOT LIKE TO BE PLAYED THE FOOL. I AM NOT A FOOL. I AM TOO KIND HEARTED.
Well there is my rant. I'm done now.
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Post by dentelle on Jul 8, 2011 21:01:15 GMT -5
Not going to give up yet, but this time hasn't phased me like the other two times. I'm more myself and down to the ground, so it was less of a fall. I'm going to just get on with my things. Have to go with my avon lady tomorrow to get rabbits, so that should distract me.
We talked tonight. He does live with his mother and his mother insisted that he go to the funeral. They haven't spoken for a couple of days now. We'll see. If he makes it the 18th or the 24th. So I'm saying, yeah yeah, I believe you. See you there, and leaving it at that.
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Post by dentelle on Jul 8, 2011 23:01:32 GMT -5
Yeah sounds lame doesn't it. We'll see. My Avon lady said, just let it be, say sure sure and leave it at that and if he finally comes.... I'm not the one who has to go anywhere. I'm not going to move on to the next street car yet. That would be rebound city. Came too close to that tonight with a friend of mine who is like a brother to me..... He did call and we talked for over an hour..... Just smack me  |
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Post by ruthmadison on Jul 9, 2011 9:20:08 GMT -5
At that point, I would tell him that I'm serious about him and this back and forth is hurting me and that I don't want contact again until he's ready to care more about my feelings.
Personally I think he's scared and he's being really selfish about it. He's thinking about how vulnerable *he* is and not thinking about how vulnerable you are. I find disabled people making this mistake a lot, thinking that we as able-bodied are so much stronger and tougher than they are.
I would tell him you really care for him and you don't want to talk to him again until he's sitting in front of your door!
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Post by Dee Dee on Jul 10, 2011 14:51:05 GMT -5
Personally I think he's scared and he's being really selfish about it. He's thinking about how vulnerable *he* is and not thinking about how vulnerable you are. I find disabled people making this mistake a lot, thinking that we as able-bodied are so much stronger and tougher than they are. That is a very good point Ruth. We often tend to be more concerned about how the disabled person feel than how their able-bodied partners or friends feel. Both parties should be allowed to have their nervousness and other feelings taken into consideration. |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Aug 15, 2011 9:42:24 GMT -5
Bumping it to the top for a friend.  |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 8, 2011 22:53:12 GMT -5
Sometimes, I need to remember for MY sake.
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 12, 2011 22:04:19 GMT -5
Again! lol
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Nov 13, 2011 10:02:23 GMT -5
I feel like it was my fault you were exposed to that. Sorry. =/ |
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Post by ruthmadison on Nov 13, 2011 12:39:48 GMT -5
yeah
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Again, he is not coming. This time he sais the 18th. I checked and there is a plane leaving the 11th. Now what do I do, do I tell him about it? Or do I just leave it for the 18th. GRRRRRRRR.I'm starting to get royally pissed off. 
