Post by PIxiie on Jan 5, 2006 19:05:50 GMT -5
hmmm said:
Ok some people are not gonna like this.but if thats hes attitude hes either after sympathy and feels sorry himself, or hes a loser with no self asteem.aww feel sorry for me cos im a cripple or ugly,ffs he needs to grow up.........Yep. You are right. I don't like this comment. But there is some truth to it. His self-esteeem comes and goes. Anything that he can do with his brain presents him no forays into self-doubt. Initimate relationships are another mannner. He is in his late thirties and his experience is limited.
And this may not be the right forum because I think there is a difference between the pyschology and sociology of born disabled andacquired disabled people. I mean no offense to any members of the site when I say that.
Anyway, I'm over it now, but I brought it up to point out that if your guy doubts your feelings for him because you're a devo, there's usually a lot more going on, and that simply reassuring him that you find him attractive might not be enough. And also, sadly, as much as you want to help someone, sometimes you just can't. Anyway I really hope Pixie's situation is different from mine. It already sounds from her second post that things are more hopeful, so here's hoping
My situation is a little different from Devogirl's. He hasn't berated me for being a devo (I am sorry you had that experience, Devogirl. That really sucks.) He simply doesn't always understand my attraction to him.
And I may be up against something I cannot overcome. It may not work out between us. I do know that right now, we are for the most part making each other happy when we are together.