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Post by Ath on Jul 20, 2011 0:35:24 GMT -5
When you are close to someone that fits your dev desire, Do you feel it too? Sometimes I only need to look at my man, and i feel a physical rush, or a sort of sting in my heart and chest that is almost orgasmic. (or better) Even if Ive been in love with ab men, ive never experienced that with then. Or maybe i just have a heart problem  |
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Post by Valkyrja on Jul 20, 2011 12:42:05 GMT -5
LOL... a heart problem!! I like that!!
I can olny tell you this: I´ve never had a "dev relationship".... but, the 2 or three times I saw a wheeler that I liked, I felt a jump in the stomach, a punch in the heart and a completely lack of air in my lungs. I could tell that´s a terrible "beasty" attraction. And I have never felt that for an AB guy... no matter how in love I am.
Or, like you said... I have big problemas with my internal organs!!
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Post by ruthmadison on Jul 20, 2011 14:48:07 GMT -5
Yes, I've felt that.  The heart swells. |
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Post by dentelle on Jul 20, 2011 14:49:49 GMT -5
Oh yess, I've felt it. Just this year, never before.
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Post by ~Z28gal~ on Jul 22, 2011 10:06:51 GMT -5
Yes. Sorry Brad Pitt, you've got nothing on [insert wheeler of choice here]. |
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Post by dentelle on Jul 22, 2011 13:54:37 GMT -5
I hear ya z28 |
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Post by cwbjr on Aug 5, 2011 12:51:38 GMT -5
So, the flip side of this (and i'm sure it's been discussed before, just can't locate the thread) is that when you aren't close to someone that fulfills your dev desires, then it's kind of...empty.
Seeing all these hot wheeler guys in my town this week (for the veterans wheelchair games) just serves as a reminder of how difficult (if not impossible) it may be to have a sustainable relationship with someone who is not a wheeler. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it to pursue something with an AB guy anymore, because my devness is so strong that it'll never go away.
I guess I may be making my peace with the fact that if I want a fulfilling relationship, I'm going to have to be willing to travel great distances, to find a gay wheelchair guy with whom I have a connection.
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Post by ruthmadison on Aug 5, 2011 13:28:10 GMT -5
So, the flip side of this (and i'm sure it's been discussed before, just can't locate the thread) is that when you aren't close to someone that fulfills your dev desires, then it's kind of...empty. Seeing all these hot wheeler guys in my town this week (for the veterans wheelchair games) just serves as a reminder of how difficult (if not impossible) it may be to have a sustainable relationship with someone who is not a wheeler. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it to pursue something with an AB guy anymore, because my devness is so strong that it'll never go away. I guess I may be making my peace with the fact that if I want a fulfilling relationship, I'm going to have to be willing to travel great distances, to find a gay wheelchair guy with whom I have a connection.  I'm right there with you. I made the decision not to date AB guys any more because I feel like I'm hurting them and letting them down in the long run. I'm working on making peace with the idea that I might never have fulfilling relationship. Right now I am so glad that I'm a romance author! lol. I can create guys who are wonderful and never let me down. Oh, and speaking of writing, I found something on GoodReads the other day that you might enjoy: a list of the best gay romances with disabled characters, people vote on what books to include, so I don't know anything about the quality on these! www.goodreads.com/list/show/3878.Best_Gay_Romance_With_A_Character_s_Who_Has_A_Disability |
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Post by cwbjr on Aug 5, 2011 14:07:31 GMT -5
I made the decision not to date AB guys any more because I feel like I'm hurting them and letting them down in the long run.
I suppose this is exactly what I'm doing when I say I'm making (or trying to make) my peace with it. I mean, I can't exactly date an AB guy and be like "just so you know, if I find a hot wheeler guy, I'm dropping your ass like a hot potato. If you're ok with that, though, let's proceed..."
In other news, that list of books is amazing. Thanks for the link!
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Post by ~Z28gal~ on Aug 5, 2011 16:38:16 GMT -5
I mean, I can't exactly date an AB guy and be like "just so you know, if I find a hot wheeler guy, I'm dropping your ass like a hot potato. If you're ok with that, though, let's proceed..." I really wish I was brave enough to say that... because being wheeler-less sucks, but being alone or feeling guilty for being in an AB relationship is even worse. Sigh. |
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Post by ruthmadison on Aug 5, 2011 17:42:38 GMT -5
I suppose this is exactly what I'm doing when I say I'm making (or trying to make) my peace with it. I mean, I can't exactly date an AB guy and be like "just so you know, if I find a hot wheeler guy, I'm dropping your ass like a hot potato. If you're ok with that, though, let's proceed..." Exactly! I can't put myself into a position to hurt someone else just because I'm feeling lonely. Then again, some guys might be okay with that set up. Once I met a cute quad guy and started chatting with him, but I had an AB boyfriend. I felt loyalty to the boyfriend, and didn't act on my opportunity with the new guy. I don't want that happening to me again! |
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Post by faith on Aug 14, 2011 17:14:51 GMT -5
I have that heart problem and I have no desire to get it fixed. There is nothing like it and that part of my heart can not be filled any other way. It is like relationships with AB guys, no matter how hot or wonderful they are, are missing a part that can't be filled any other way. It doesn't matter how sweet, smart, articulate, funny, sensitive, strong, kind ... nothing fits in that space except "wheeler". It is as if there is a hole there just for that. I am not willing to fill that hole with anything other than what should go there! |
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The heart swells.
