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Post by lovinglife on Jun 13, 2012 5:50:42 GMT -5
Hi all, I've been lurking this board for years but never had the courage to sign up and post. I always thought there was something wrong with me as I have been attracted to guys in wheelchairs for as long as I can remember, I can't even explain why. However all my long terms relationships thus far have been with AB guys, I thought my feelings would change over time, they didn't. Don't get me wrong, I was in very happy relationships but they never felt 100% right, like something was missing. I have also dated a para and a quad before and those experiences made me realize what I was missing before, it just felt so right. But I also had a bad experience with a guy who was a paraplegic as his personality sucked big time, he was condescending and disrespectful, he just wanted sex ad he was disgusting. So I'm not just after a guy in a wheelchair, we need to be able to connect as well on a personal level. I value friendship more than anything.
Finding this board made me feel more confident about myself and not afraid to feel the way I do. I would love to chat with anyone who is willing to share their thoughts and feelings and experiences.
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Post by lavly on Jun 13, 2012 6:03:23 GMT -5
wow life ! this is post could have been written by me. its so good to have you here  |
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Post by Inigo Montoya on Jun 13, 2012 7:16:08 GMT -5
Welcome, I'm glad you finally joined. |
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Post by Peony on Jun 13, 2012 7:26:39 GMT -5
Hey there Congratulations for joining and posting! Really looking forward to hearing more from you |
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Post by lovinglife on Jun 13, 2012 12:46:49 GMT -5
Thanks for the welcome, I look forward to knowing you all better |
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Post by Kid A on Jun 13, 2012 13:09:13 GMT -5
Welcome! I was intimidated to sign up at first too, but I'm glad I did. It's nice to be among friends. |
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swagittarius
Junior Member
Posts: 67 
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
Relationship Status: Single
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Post by swagittarius on Jun 13, 2012 13:25:34 GMT -5
wow life ! this is post could have been written by me. its so good to have you here Except for the spelling!  I jest Welcome life. |
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Post by lavly on Jun 13, 2012 17:44:51 GMT -5
lol swagger mate ... dont make me come over there  |
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Post by wheelie88 on Jun 13, 2012 23:39:58 GMT -5
Welcome lovinglife, great to see another Aussie. It looks like our numbers are slowly growing |
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Post by lovinglife on Jun 14, 2012 1:15:54 GMT -5
Thanks Wheelie, good to see another Aussie. Looking forward to knowing everyone and participating more. What brought you here?
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Post by wheelie88 on Jun 14, 2012 23:34:15 GMT -5
A few people told me about devs so through some research into it I stumbled across this site. I have to say to everyone here that it is not what I had expected. Peony has brought this up in another feed about the bad reputation you guys get. I must say from the first few sites I saw I was unsure what to make of it. There are some sites out there that are down right offensive and sickening. However after feeling like a stalker reading the comments on here, it seems like a nice 'community' so I thought I'd say hi and see if there was anything I could contribute.
I think the main problem with it all is awareness. I imagine this has been brought up many times before, so please ignore me if it has, but I think it's one of those things when a person doesn't understand something or it's a little different to their beliefs, shun it and call it taboo. Even wheelies I know have a different perception of this. I've also found that it's mainly sporting people that have heard about devs. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
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Post by spurs2000 on Jun 16, 2012 6:44:39 GMT -5
Hi and welcome lovinglife. I look forwards to chatting sometime.
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vancityippy
Full Member
Posts: 209
Gender: Female
Dev Status: Devotee
Relationship Status: Married/Domestic partnership
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Post by vancityippy on Jul 1, 2012 13:36:59 GMT -5
Lovinglife. My experience is exactly like yours (and other devotees it seems!). I have analyzed my attraction down to every detail...and can't put my finger on "a reason why".
I am a very open person and my friends and family are aware of my attraction...they accept it (though I don't think they want to hear TOO much about it, lol)
But when they do ask me "why" or "what is it about a disabled guy" I have come to the point where my explanation is simple. When I daydream, or fantasize or imagine a relationship, it's always with a guy in a wheelchair.
ps
I dated a real jackass guy (who was a quad/ only wanted sex) It's amazing how fast a hot guy can turn ugly when he shows his true colours;)
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Post by lovinglife on Jul 2, 2012 22:11:39 GMT -5
Welcome to the board Van.
It is true and from my personal experience, if a guy is a cheater, liar or has a personality/attitude problem, then it's a complete turn off for me, regardless of who they are. At the end of the day, it's the person you fall in love with, nothing else.
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Post by spurs2000 on Jul 3, 2012 17:10:35 GMT -5
I think it is openmindedness, and a willingness to celebrate diffence along with being fairly driven in life type of wheelers that hang out on this site. We all have our own little quirks! Am I right?
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