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Post by devogirl on Apr 1, 2020 8:03:10 GMT -5
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Post by devogirl on Apr 8, 2020 6:04:21 GMT -5
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Post by lisa on Apr 11, 2020 14:04:10 GMT -5
I'm a bit behind on reading the newest chapters, so I'm sorry that this is not a comment to the latest chapter ;-).
The most relatable section for me was this:
I'm always picturing how sexy meeting with a PWD is, but when it's actually happening, my mind is too occupied with the practicalities and with wanting to seem like the perfect catch. Because of more or less recent events, I noticed that this strategy is not the best at all times, especially not when the guy is someone who just fakes to be okay with me being a dev. (Not that I wanted to date someone who is not okay with it, but yeah.) You write that you've come to recognize if a disabled guy is like that. I'm curious, how do you do that? I have some cues, like if he has some judgmental sounding questions about devness or doesn't want to talk about disability stuff, but I don't think either of them is a real indicator and it could always be for other reasons...
Anyway, thank you again for sharing your experiences with us :).
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Post by devogirl on Apr 11, 2020 20:55:48 GMT -5
Thanks lisa ! I'm always so happy when readers identify with my experiences. We're not alone! someone who just fakes to be okay with me being a dev. (Not that I wanted to date someone who is not okay with it, but yeah.) You write that you've come to recognize if a disabled guy is like that. I'm curious, how do you do that? Oh my goodness, it's been over ten years since I was dating so it's hard to remember exactly. I think it's just a hunch--does he talk about his disability casually, matter of factly, or is he bitter and angry? Also guys who are morbidly curious, who say things like "I don't know how you can be attracted to disabled people, we're all so messed up." Or guys who would say, "I thought you would be a freak, I just wanted to know what a real devotee would be like. You're so normal!" Of course I was wrong many times, obviously. Lots of times I engaged in wishful thinking when I was attracted to a guy, or even tried to talk him into seeing me. That never worked out well.
To be honest, I can't remember exactly what Birk said that made me so confident that he was ok with me being a dev. But he knew it before he even met me since it was in my online profile and it was never an issue between us.
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Post by devogirl on Apr 15, 2020 7:22:32 GMT -5
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Post by cilantro on Apr 15, 2020 16:18:30 GMT -5
Oh dude. Shorts and knee high socks? Run. You're too good devogirl, you're getting me through this quarantine, and I really need better for you. |
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Post by devogirl on Apr 15, 2020 21:17:31 GMT -5
Aw, thanks cilantro! It's mysterious to me why several people in the comments were swooning over Birk. Someone left a comment on a previous chapter saying she wanted to write Birk/DG fanfiction. Hilarious! I say, go for it. But seriously, if she met him in real life I doubt she would be saying that. I thought I made it clear in the previous chapters why I had doubts about him from the beginning but maybe not clear enough, haha. |
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Post by devogirl on Apr 22, 2020 7:45:20 GMT -5
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Apr 24, 2020 9:33:39 GMT -5
I’ve tried so often to leave a comment lately, but it never works. :/ Anyway, great chapter as always. I never understood why people were loving Birk so much...  |
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Post by devogirl on Apr 24, 2020 20:52:54 GMT -5
Thank you! A lot of people seem to have trouble leaving comments. I don't know what is causing the problem, but it's very frustrating. But I appreciate comments in this thread just as much, thank you!
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Post by Emma on Apr 24, 2020 23:47:29 GMT -5
You have to either log in (on your dev identity name) or choose name/URL and add your name. Once you do that, type the comment and hit submit I think it gives you a CAPTCHA or something confirming you are real. Sometimes that doesn't happen and it just deletes the comment without telling you. It also seems like comments sometimes need to be approved so right then it's hard to tell if it has posted or not. It's been like this for years, I don't think anything has changed.
Every time there is a comment in this thread I get excited thinking another chapter has been posted.......LOVE this story sooooo much. Thank you DG!
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Post by blueskye101 on Apr 25, 2020 6:08:44 GMT -5
I’ve also had trouble commenting. Never have before. Have gone through all the advice but it just disappears after it says posted. Anyway, as always, really enjoying your story and Birk was the weirdest. I thought the socks with sandals and his medical issues were red flags, but seemed like a decent guy. Good lord, what an ass he turned out to be.
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Post by devogirl on Apr 25, 2020 7:42:04 GMT -5
Oh no, I'm sad to hear so many people have problems commenting. I think it may be a captcha problem. I don't have to do the captcha because I have a profile, and it seems the other authors also don't have this problem commenting. We once turned on comment moderation for a few months but then turned it off again. That was many years ago, so comments should not have to be moderated now, at least I don't see any awaiting moderation. There is also a comment spam filter, but I've been checking it regularly and nothing is there either. I'll try to look into it again but I don't think there's anything we can do. It's just another sign that Blogger is buggy, poorly maintained and will probably be discontinued sometime soon. Anyway thanks very much blueskye101 He really was an ass! There were so many red flags right from the start that I should have heeded. But I'm glad you agree that tube socks with shorts is one of them, haha. On the one hand, he was blind, but on the other, he lost his sight as an adult so he should have known better. I'm sure he was dressing the same way before. |
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Post by devogirl on Apr 29, 2020 4:09:40 GMT -5
More Devo Diary! stories.paradevo.net/2010/02/devo-diary-chapter-70.htmlI adjusted the comments settings but I don't know if it solved the problem. Sorry, it seems to be a major issue with Blogger, not just us. If you can't or don't want to leave a comment there, comments in this thread are welcome too  Thanks! |
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Post by cilantro on Apr 30, 2020 23:31:12 GMT -5
Holy s**t! It feels like the end of Harry Potter or something, like what am I supposed to do with myself now. Looking at your adventures just makes me think of how much I have yet to go. All the experiences that await me and that in the end it will all work out. Or, at least, I hope hard that it will. Thank you so so much for writing this. It feels like the first time I've been able to see my own feelings on the page, even with all the differences I feel like a little girl discovering that she's not alone. I wish there was a hard copy of Devo Diary I could stick on my bookshelf so that one day my ancestors could discover it in a dusty old box and realize how far everyone has come in their understanding of devness.
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Thanks!