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Post by BA on Apr 2, 2007 22:01:57 GMT -5
Ok, let's be real honest here. How many of you boys and girls (wheelers and devs) have ever LOWERED your standards in order to be with a particular someone (or anyone in particular)?
In what way did you lower your standards?
(I dated a guy who was truly dumb as a brick even tho' he was a nice wheeling specimen visually. He also had no ambition and had no intention of ever keeping a job)
Do you believe that you kind of "have to" lower your standards, in order to have a relationship?
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Post by E on Apr 2, 2007 22:11:45 GMT -5
I do. I've come to accept it.
... which is exactly why I'm not with anyone.
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Post by matisse on Apr 2, 2007 23:18:40 GMT -5
I do. I've come to accept it. ... which is exactly why I'm not with anyone. Seems like lowering your standards would lead to the opposite result? |
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Post by matisse on Apr 2, 2007 23:19:57 GMT -5
(I dated a guy who was truly dumb as a brick even tho' he was a nice wheeling specimen visually. He also had no ambition and had no intention of ever keeping a job) I don't know that this is really lowering your standards, unless you were serious about a LTR. Seems like more of a Mr. Right Now vs. Mr. Right type of situation. |
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Post by E on Apr 3, 2007 7:27:41 GMT -5
I do. I've come to accept it. ... which is exactly why I'm not with anyone. Seems like lowering your standards would lead to the opposite result? It would, but I won't, and there we are... |
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Post by Ouch on Apr 3, 2007 8:15:43 GMT -5
I've 'lowered' (I think 'changed' is a better word, at least in my case) my 'standards' so to speak on an occasion, it didn't work well, my geuss being because she wasn't what I truly 'wanted', so at times it was excruciatingly hard to be with someone, because you didn't really want to.
I don't think it's necessary to always have 'lower standards' to make a relationship, but you'll definitely need patience.
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Post by wheelie37 on Apr 4, 2007 1:28:53 GMT -5
I dont think i have lowered my standards, though i have learned through becoming disabled, not to judge people by appearances and look for the person inside and judge by their actions
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Post by faith on Apr 6, 2007 16:42:02 GMT -5
I wouldn't lower my standards but I would probably try some things I would not try otherwise. But that is half the fun...
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Post by mrjefffurz on Apr 6, 2007 19:26:31 GMT -5
think i understand the meaning of "settle for"...ie. coyote ugly.....closing time queen....("why did you marry him?"), because he asked."....i can say from this particular place in my life that i wouldnt settle for anything less than HER...whoever that mythical woman may be...and if, in the future, i did settle i woud never admit it ...most of my liasons are the result of the woman showing some interest then reacting to my provacativeness....if im doing the chasing it is genererally a pursuit of the "alpha female"-ist woman that i feel any interest in,,,often the gal all the stallions are trying to impress but if she's phony or a gamer or such i wont "settle" for her..or maybe i'm guilty of unconcionable conceit and i only wind up successful in the dating world when some woman is willling to settle.....
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