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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2015 16:35:35 GMT -5
You ask such thought provoking questions! I love it! I've never really thought too much about this...I think that my dev side would likely vanish, though I can't say for sure. I used to lean heavily towards BIID, so I always thought that would be the cure for me too. I like what I like, and that happens to be paraplegic men. I'm very interested in whether or not this would change! I do know that it wouldn't be a turn on for me if I were to have an injury similar to my SO. Okay, final answer is yes.
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Post by tori on Mar 24, 2015 20:39:32 GMT -5
Really interesting question. I had to think about this one for a bit. Honestly if I think I was ever to land in a wheelchair it could very well flip the switch in the OFF position for me for other men in wheelchairs. However it may not for other types of disability. I have some weird pairings I do toy around with from time to time that work for me in fantasy scenarios....usually they never have the SAME disability.
For example I have a fantasy about a blind female that is in a romantic relationship with a male below knee amputee, and that really gets my motor running. I don't know if I could fantasize about BOTH being in a wheelchair, if that makes any kind of sense at all...
I think it would depend on the disability.
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Post by Emma on Mar 25, 2015 0:34:19 GMT -5
That's an interesting Inkdevil! I've never thought about this before. I don't think I would cease being a dev if I woke up as an amputee tomorrow. I'm very attracted to the visual side of things and being an amputee myself would not make me less attracted to a male amputee. I think there would be complications in a relationship if I was disabled and so was he, but I think I'd still prefer being with a guy who is an amputee. I'm attracted to a few different types of amputees so depending on what type of amputee I became I may have a preference for the same type as me or something different to compliment our disabilities. Woah this is a bit weird to think about since I'm very far from the BIID spectrum.
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Post by eva on Mar 25, 2015 3:42:03 GMT -5
What a great question. I'm very far from BIID myself, and never felt the desire to be DA. Not that it never crossed my mind, but in a very superficial way. My gut answer to your question would be "yes" but thinking deeper, maybe not. I could become fascinated with the changes in my own body and it could be a real turn-on, a higher octave of my devness. I'll stick to that answer
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Post by alexa2010 on Mar 25, 2015 9:36:46 GMT -5
Where does these (excellent) questions all come from? I never thought about that and it's very difficult to answer. I really don't know. My gut answer would be no. But after thinking a while (since yesterday) I'm not sure any more. Maybe there are aspects that would calm down my devness. Like all the daily routine which is now appealing wouldn't probably be attractive any more.
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Post by kayleexo on Mar 25, 2015 10:18:30 GMT -5
Ooh what an interesting question! First off, I would be a horrible pwd lol, but hypothetically if I became disabled, I don't think I would pursue a relationship or anything with disabled men. I really have no clue if I would still be attracted to disabled men though. I feel like the things that I find devy would no longer push my dev buttons because I would be living it, struggles and all. I actually think I would want to seek out an AB male who was a devotee of disabled women if that was the case.
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Post by lucretia on Mar 25, 2015 21:21:33 GMT -5
I can say with some level of certainty that if I were permanently disabled, my devness would diminish, if not vanish altogether.
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Post by savannahgirl on Mar 25, 2015 22:44:57 GMT -5
I think if I was disabled my devness would go away. I can't really explain why I just think it would change something inside me.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2015 6:00:25 GMT -5
its a really interesting question and I'm not sure I know the answer. I think it wouldn't change my devyness, my devyness is about disabled guys and how they move and do things. Perhaps my devyness would change but I don't think it would go away
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Post by lucretia on Mar 26, 2015 18:01:38 GMT -5
I've been temporarily disabled a few times and have a chronic illness that causes almost daily severe pain.
Recently I reinjured my back. I've been in PT and have just this week ditched the cane... for now.
The last time I injured my back I spent 18 months in rehab. The reality of dealing with personal life changes, facing the fact that I wasn't going to bounce back like I thought I would... that nearly killed the dev in me.
Avatar happened a couple of years later, and I came back to PD. I decided to once and for all find my perfect wheeler. I did.
It was such a difficult journey, with so many sacrifices... I knew I was done. Alf was it. The end.
Now that I have another many months of rehab and pain management ahead, I'm even more sure.
For me now, I'm only a dev for Alf. I stay with PD for the dev conversations... and of course goofing around with the guys I know.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2015 19:18:12 GMT -5
I don't think it would kill the dev inside of me, because I am also very much into the hardware around a disability and seeing a hot guy in the wheelchair, crutches or braces of all sorts. Actually the hardware on myself turns me on as well but I do not have BIID. I also see the medical hardware as a type of bondage. So, I think it is safe for me to think that I would still be a dev even if I would have to deal with some kind of disability, temporary or permanently. I am sure though that pain and complications could damper the dev urges for a while but I would still like to get my dev on..
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Post by lucretia on Mar 26, 2015 19:24:56 GMT -5
I've been temporarily disabled a few times and have a chronic illness that causes almost daily severe pain. Recently I reinjured my back. I've been in PT and have just this week ditched the cane... for now. The last time I injured my back I spent 18 months in rehab. The reality of dealing with personal life changes, facing the fact that I wasn't going to bounce back like I thought I would... that nearly killed the dev in me. Avatar happened a couple of years later, and I came back to PD. I decided to once and for all find my perfect wheeler. I did. It was such a difficult journey, with so many sacrifices... I knew I was done. Alf was it. The end. Now that I have another many months of rehab and pain management ahead, I'm even more sure. For me now, I'm only a dev for Alf. I stay with PD for the dev conversations... and of course goofing around with the guys I know. Is that because you only have the energy to be a dev for Alf? Or have your personal experiences with illness killed the dev in you for the most part? Perhaps both? Both. And my journey to find Alf was filled with so much emotional drama, turmoil, precious feelings and rampant wheeler insecurity and assholeyness... I just wouldn't go through it again.
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Post by sara on Mar 28, 2015 11:43:32 GMT -5
Well. That is one question i can answer. A couple of years back i had a retinal detachment scare. The whole thing was so terrifying and my devness just vanished. I came out of that episode and it took some time ( weeks actually )for my devness to comeback:) Acquiring disability or even the prospect of acquiring is very tragic and so frightening. Atleast i felt that way. Maybe because disability is considered to be the end of the world in third world societies?? ( i am indian)
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Post by lacey on Mar 29, 2015 8:48:21 GMT -5
It wouldn't diminish my devness at all. Amputees with brains have always, and will always be the most appealing men on earth to me.
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Post by strawberrybubblegum on Mar 30, 2015 4:15:04 GMT -5
I think if I became disabled some parts of my devness, like wanting to know about the day to day life and how it feels, would go away a little. I would still be interested in how it feels for others or how they handle their lives. What I think will never go away for me is finding the body of a para man so extremely appealing. Even if I had a similar body image after becoming disabled, the desire of being with a paraplegic would still be there.
All in all, I think they devness may change and even become a little less, but it will never go away.
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