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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 15:42:44 GMT -5
feelsunshine I'm pretty sure that's the nicest thing anyone has ever done on Tinder! You deserve some kind of award! I would not want that message. It’s like “Hey, I just wanted to message you to let you know that you’re not my type. Good luck, though.” lol No, of course you wouldn't want that message, because you know how Tinder works. I still think it's incredibly thoughtful of her to message him to explain it. Although, one thing that might be relevant feelsunshine: Did you know that you could just unmatch someone and sent the message anyway to be polite? (That's what I assumed) Or did you just not know you could unmatch?
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Post by feelsunshine on Jul 3, 2019 15:46:33 GMT -5
I would not want that message. It’s like “Hey, I just wanted to message you to let you know that you’re not my type. Good luck, though.” lol No, of course you wouldn't want that message, because you know how Tinder works. I still think it's incredibly thoughtful of her to message him to explain it. Although, one thing that might be relevant feelsunshine : Did you know that you could just unmatch someone and sent the message anyway to be polite? (That's what I assumed) Or did you just not know you could unmatch? I had no idea. I swiped right and then immediately started the message
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 15:48:24 GMT -5
@mrniceguy I always read the profile. In fact, when I'm feeling picky, not having any profile text at all (or one that just states their height) becomes "shit that makes me swipe left". And I feel picky quite often Really? Don’t get me wrong, I read profiles too but only the ones that I find initially attractive. In fact, I don’t think the profile even shows up with the first picture or you click the “i” on the bottom of the screen. If the first picture is someone I find unattractive or there’s a picture of a sky or something (I hate that), I don’t bother reading a profile. Next. If I like what I see, I do read what they have. It also helps weeds out the fake profiles pretty well. Okay, so your question was "Do you really read the whole profile before you swipe?" - I probably should have clarified: I always read the whole profile before I swipe right To be fair, though, I read a lot of profiles of guys, I don't find particularly attractive, to see if there's anything interesting there. But I concede I don't read every single profile (anymore - I used to do that in the beginning, lol). And do you mean that you're put off if just the first picture is of the sky or if the only picture is of the sky? Because the former wouldn't bother me, the latter, I would agree
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 15:50:09 GMT -5
No, of course you wouldn't want that message, because you know how Tinder works. I still think it's incredibly thoughtful of her to message him to explain it. Although, one thing that might be relevant feelsunshine : Did you know that you could just unmatch someone and sent the message anyway to be polite? (That's what I assumed) Or did you just not know you could unmatch? I had no idea. I swiped right and then immediately started the message Oh Well then you don't deserve an award, haha. I'm so naive, I always assume the best of people, lol. But I agree with mrniceguy, I'm sure it's not the worst thing that happened to him on tinder
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2019 15:54:08 GMT -5
Really? Don’t get me wrong, I read profiles too but only the ones that I find initially attractive. In fact, I don’t think the profile even shows up with the first picture or you click the “i” on the bottom of the screen. If the first picture is someone I find unattractive or there’s a picture of a sky or something (I hate that), I don’t bother reading a profile. Next. If I like what I see, I do read what they have. It also helps weeds out the fake profiles pretty well. Okay, so your question was "Do you really read the whole profile before you swipe?" - I probably should have clarified: I always read the whole profile before I swipe right To be fair, though, I read a lot of profiles of guys, I don't find particularly attractive, to see if there's anything interesting there. But I concede I don't read every single profile (anymore - I used to do that in the beginning, lol). And do you mean that you're put off if just the first picture is of the sky or if the only picture is of the sky? Because the former wouldn't bother me, the latter, I would agree If it’s their only picture. It always makes me think they’re hiding something. I know I’m not the best looking guy out there and that the quadriplegia thing is a deal breaker for the vast majority of women but I don’t hide it. They’re either buying what I’m selling or they’re not.
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Post by Amee on Jul 3, 2019 16:01:53 GMT -5
If it’s their only picture. It always makes me think they’re hiding something. I know I’m not the best looking guy out there and that the quadriplegia thing is a deal breaker for the vast majority of women but I don’t hide it. They’re either buying what I’m selling or they’re not. Yes, in that case I agree! It also really annoys me, when people have pictures of themselves from really strange angles or half-concealed or with super-weird lighting, that makes it impossible to see what they actually look like...
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Post by Hopper on Jul 3, 2019 16:10:44 GMT -5
From personal experience of having done the 'photos at odd angles' thing, it was simply due to me thinking it was and/or I was cool at the time, but end off looking the opposite.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2019 17:27:37 GMT -5
I just thought about how "liking coffee" is the most common thing here in WA state where literally everyone and their brother likes coffee...I think here I would freak if someone would write something in terms of "liking tea"... Maybe you would have to amp up the "coffee" theme somehow with "liking coffee when bare naked" or "liking coffee when I am in my latex suit"...lol
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Post by sy on Jul 3, 2019 17:34:12 GMT -5
I just thought about how "liking coffee" is the most common thing here in WA state where literally everyone and their brother likes coffee...I think here I would freak if someone would write something in terms of "liking tea"... Maybe you would have to amp up the "coffee" theme somehow with "liking coffee when bare naked" or "liking coffee when I am in my latex suit"...lol Dani gets it.
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Post by Julia on Jul 3, 2019 17:43:29 GMT -5
@tc123 I was just about to post that before I read your post lol. zackamp I think my heart would leap out of my chest (in a good way) if I found out the guy I was talking to had a disability I didn't notice.
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Post by dave78 on Jul 3, 2019 21:09:34 GMT -5
@tc123 I was just about to post that before I read your post lol. zackamp I think my heart would leap out of my chest (in a good way) if I found out the guy I was talking to had a disability I didn't notice. I love that you stipulated that your heart would leap out of your chest "in a good way". Any variation towards the literal and I'd be forced to think you were being a touch dramatic.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2019 21:33:32 GMT -5
@tc123 I was just about to post that before I read your post lol. zackamp I think my heart would leap out of my chest (in a good way) if I found out the guy I was talking to had a disability I didn't notice. I love that you stipulated that your heart would leap out of your chest "in a good way". Any variation towards the literal and I'd be forced to think you were being a touch dramatic. Does that mean throwing myself at the feet of the pwd and begging to be taken advantage of might be a touch dramatic ? I sure do hope not lol
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Post by Amee on Jul 4, 2019 1:56:47 GMT -5
Yes, in that case I agree! It also really annoys me, when people have pictures of themselves from really strange angles or half-concealed or with super-weird lighting, that makes it impossible to see what they actually look like... I think that’s their intention. I know and I understand it. I was very uncomfortable with putting up pictures of myself for everyone to see in the beginning (and I still use that tinder-setting, where only people I've already swiped right can see my profile, because I don't like to be that public). But when you've been on Tinder for a while, I guess you get a little impatient and all these things that make it harder to see who you're communicating with become annoying. But again, it's not that I blame them. I get it.
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Post by Emma on Jul 4, 2019 3:10:20 GMT -5
So not online...; never done that... But I was at a local brew pub sitting at the bar enjoying a beer and this quite attractive woman was sitting two stools away looking on her phone and laughing, it seemed to me that she might be trying to get my attention so I asked what was so funny... she immediately shuffled over to show me so I'm thinking I was right (correct me if I'm wrong ladies). We had a great conversation and she seemed to be super into me but I suspected she hadn't yet noticed my prosthetics. I was running earlier and was wearing shorts but my legs were under the bar. I was also wearing a hoodie so my arm wasn't super noticeable either. We chatted for about 20mins and we're talking about running when she looked down and suddenly noticed two prosthetic legs... She literally said "what's this now?" So I explained and showed her my arm too. She then for no particular reason started talking about her supposed boyfriend and not so tactfully fled. Hahaha. Super shitty and clearly not a dev. If only we could make the world smaller so these situations could happen for the people here looking for them.
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Post by Amee on Jul 4, 2019 4:03:29 GMT -5
So not online...; never done that... But I was at a local brew pub sitting at the bar enjoying a beer and this quite attractive woman was sitting two stools away looking on her phone and laughing, it seemed to me that she might be trying to get my attention so I asked what was so funny... she immediately shuffled over to show me so I'm thinking I was right (correct me if I'm wrong ladies). We had a great conversation and she seemed to be super into me but I suspected she hadn't yet noticed my prosthetics. I was running earlier and was wearing shorts but my legs were under the bar. I was also wearing a hoodie so my arm wasn't super noticeable either. We chatted for about 20mins and we're talking about running when she looked down and suddenly noticed two prosthetic legs... She literally said "what's this now?" So I explained and showed her my arm too. She then for no particular reason started talking about her supposed boyfriend and not so tactfully fled. Hahaha. Super shitty and clearly not a dev. If only we could make the world smaller so these situations could happen for the people here looking for them. So true. It's sad to think how many potential dev-meet-cutes are wasted on non-devs, who don't know how to appreciate them (and then act shitty).
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