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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 16, 2006 15:11:20 GMT -5
Before I go on...My name is Ashley. I would hate for you all to have to keep calling me ajp  Anyway, I've always been pretty sexually open and curious, so I think I associated my feelings with curiosity in general. Now that I'm older, I am starting to see that it's a little more than that. About the labels, I do hesitate putting any label on myself that I don't fully understand. From what I know so far, I wouldn't mind the label 'devotee'. I just don't want people to assume that my association to devotism is strictly fetish/kink (not that fetish and kink are bad, mind you). Have you ever dated a wheeler or thought about it? So, thank you to Lee and the regulars here that have created so much dialogue about this. It's helped answer so many questions. |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 16, 2006 15:14:49 GMT -5
Before I go on...My name is Ashley. I would hate for you all to have to keep calling me ajp Anyway, I've always been pretty sexually open and curious, so I think I associated my feelings with curiosity in general. Now that I'm older, I am starting to see that it's a little more than that. About the labels, I do hesitate putting any label on myself that I don't fully understand. From what I know so far, I wouldn't mind the label 'devotee'. I just don't want people to assume that my association to devotism is strictly fetish/kink (not that fetish and kink are bad, mind you). So, thank you to Lee and the regulars here that have created so much dialogue about this. It's helped answer so many questions. messed up last post! bit drunk!! have you ever dated a wheeler or thought about it?  |
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Post by ajpchicago on Jul 17, 2006 15:09:18 GMT -5
Yes, that's actually how I came to question my devoteeism...I've had two serious relationships with guys with SCI. It wasn't until someone mentioned the word 'devotee' that I questioned anything. For me, I think it's the emotional connection that I miss and want back. There is an entirely different type of interaction that happens with a man in a wheelchair. Simple things like bending down to kiss the person I love changes the emotional exchange. A kiss isn't an afterthought, it's a very purposeful action. Sex isn't just about getting off, it's about building up. I like that and I want that. So, when I said that when I see a guy in a wheelchair I get turned on, it's as much about the emotional as it is the physical. I'm not very good at expressing my feelings in words, so forgive me if it sounded cheesy...but, I hope I was able to convey a little of what is in my head. Also....hope you don't have too bad a hangover, Paul |
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Post by Pony on Jul 17, 2006 18:12:11 GMT -5
damn, not cheesy at all...really very profound and descriptive, i like you!!  |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 18, 2006 1:18:31 GMT -5
Yes, that's actually how I came to question my devoteeism...I've had two serious relationships with guys with SCI. It wasn't until someone mentioned the word 'devotee' that I questioned anything. For me, I think it's the emotional connection that I miss and want back. There is an entirely different type of interaction that happens with a man in a wheelchair. Simple things like bending down to kiss the person I love changes the emotional exchange. A kiss isn't an afterthought, it's a very purposeful action. Sex isn't just about getting off, it's about building up. I like that and I want that. So, when I said that when I see a guy in a wheelchair I get turned on, it's as much about the emotional as it is the physical. I'm not very good at expressing my feelings in words, so forgive me if it sounded cheesy...but, I hope I was able to convey a little of what is in my head. Also....hope you don't have too bad a hangover, Paul I agree with you in so many ways! You express yourself very well It does make us emotionally stronger, less prejudiced, and we are not ruled by our dicks! we have brains and imagination |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 18, 2006 1:19:13 GMT -5
oh and thanks I didnt have a hang over in the morning |
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Post by brendanuk on Jul 18, 2006 4:01:12 GMT -5
Relationships have to be based on the emotional aspect for me too. There has to be a connection there.
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Post by matisse on Jul 19, 2006 0:40:25 GMT -5
we are not ruled by our dicks! Hey, speak for yourself!!!! |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 19, 2006 2:12:20 GMT -5
ok!! |
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Post by mrjefffurz on Jul 19, 2006 18:47:33 GMT -5
;D @ matisse,,,our resident mega-perv,,,ya gotta like the guy,,,even if he is an *whispered* attorney ;D were talkin camming,,,i cant even convince anyone to yahoo chat w/ me...i'll bet carpenter has been spreading rumors about my lapses of civilized deportment...  ....tonight, as i'm feeling pretty damned good, im gonna go out to gator's bar & grill for karaoke...but, since my #1 party pal is a lil butchlette, i'll wind up in my van for several "safety meetings"w/ a pile of under 25 bi-grrls and, invairably be forced to endure them flashing bewbyz in an attempt to attract the attention of my lil butchlette buddy,,,,oh the things i dont put up with for my friends,,, ;D  DISCLAIMER: technically, it wont be jeff thats rolling thru the front doors...it will be the teddybear & i refuse to accept any responsibility for the actions of the aforementioned ursine critter |
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Post by meinkaltestesherz on Jul 19, 2006 21:25:06 GMT -5
I use YIM, and i have a cam around somewhere...but i also have the personality of dry twigs so im not a real winning chatter.
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Post by E on Jul 20, 2006 9:12:42 GMT -5
I use YIM, and i have a cam around somewhere...but i also have the personality of dry twigs so im not a real winning chatter. I chat with dry twigs. They always make me laugh... those funny, funny twigs. |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 21, 2006 1:40:05 GMT -5
I use YIM, and i have a cam around somewhere...but i also have the personality of dry twigs so im not a real winning chatter. Its like everything else, just takes practice |
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Post by meinkaltestesherz on Jul 21, 2006 10:18:53 GMT -5
I use YIM, and i have a cam around somewhere...but i also have the personality of dry twigs so im not a real winning chatter. Its like everything else, just takes practice I can't say I'm practicing and most people beg to differ..although i dont know why. |
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Post by wheelie37 on Jul 23, 2006 3:03:24 GMT -5
Its like everything else, just takes practice I can't say I'm practicing and most people beg to differ..although i dont know why. how do you mean most people beg to differ? |
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Anyway, I've always been pretty sexually open and curious, so I think I associated my feelings with curiosity in general. Now that I'm older, I am starting to see that it's a little more than that. About the labels, I do hesitate putting any label on myself that I don't fully understand. From what I know so far, I wouldn't mind the label 'devotee'. I just don't want people to assume that my association to devotism is strictly fetish/kink (not that fetish and kink are bad, mind you). 
....tonight, as i'm feeling pretty damned good, im gonna go out to gator's bar & grill for karaoke...but, since my #1 party pal is a lil butchlette, i'll wind up in my van for several "safety meetings"w/ a pile of under 25 bi-grrls and, invairably be forced to endure them flashing bewbyz in an attempt to attract the attention of my lil butchlette buddy,,,,oh the things i dont put up with for my friends,,, 
