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Post by BA on Aug 27, 2006 22:34:28 GMT -5
Yes Cake, in the past I had definitely avoided getting involved with one or two guys that might have really had potential because I felt too guilty and mortified by my own attraction. In hindsight, I am sorry that I didn't but I also realize that I just wasn't ready to come to terms with myself and it would have ended up ruining the relationship. Not fair to either me or the guy. It has taken me a very long time to work through my feelings and emotions regarding dev issues. (well I am still working it through, but realize that I am just wired this way) I lurked for over a year on this board when it was in it's infancy, just to "prove" to myself that I was the only person in the world who felt the way I did. Membership increased from 30 people to over 250. I have now made friends (male and female) from all over the world. It's like falling into a vat of the softest cotton balls over here. You can let go and just be who you are. Finally!
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Post by mrjefffurz on Aug 27, 2006 22:35:25 GMT -5
well, i gave it a try to not replay with the obvious but failed...welcome to the zoo, cake,,,maybe u can prove that a w/c dude CAN have his cake & eat 'er too,,, ;D no booing allowed!  |
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Post by Pisti on Aug 28, 2006 7:59:54 GMT -5
Happy birthday to all those Virgins!
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Post by Cake on Aug 28, 2006 12:52:23 GMT -5
(well I am still working it through, but realize that I am just wired this way) I lurked for over a year on this board when it was in it's infancy, just to "prove" to myself that I was the only person in the world who felt the way I did. i'm glad that now i'm really at the point in my life too, where i fully accepted this part of my personality. thank to the past few months i've been here i finally don't feel guilty anymore. but it's been a hard and long way indeed. i remember that night when i found out about devotees. on one hand i was totally relieved to have found a name for my feelings and to realize that i'm not the only one. but on the other hand this discovery caused an outburst of deep inner struggle and loss of every self-confidence. i just didn't want this. i felt like in some way it had been easier to think that i'm the only one, but to be part of a big fetish bunch. i felt pervert and desperate. after two weeks or so i couldn't take it any more and i sat down my best friend to tell her everything. it was the hardest thing for me; i was so f*cking ashamed. but my friend was very cool and understanding, she even was relieved it was "only that", as she had been deeply concerned about my obvious desperation  it's kind of funny, but after that all my burden and self-doubt were gone. it was the breakthrough.  |
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Post by vivi on Aug 28, 2006 17:36:58 GMT -5
Welcome Cake!
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Post by Cake on Aug 28, 2006 20:58:53 GMT -5
thanks, vivi!
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Post by Cake on Aug 30, 2006 10:00:07 GMT -5
i'll do my best  |
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Post by wheelie37 on Sept 1, 2006 1:50:59 GMT -5
You mentioned you have told your best friend you are a devotee, does you ab boyfriend know too?
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Post by wheelie37 on Sept 3, 2006 3:16:02 GMT -5
that is good he is cool with it  |
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Post by sidney on Sept 6, 2006 16:00:11 GMT -5
so glad you found us, cake! welcome! this place has been amazing for me in helping me come to terms with my lifelong attraction to guys in chairs. just knowing that it's not just me and also discovering that some guys actually think it's cool has really helped me in coming to an acceptance of this part of myself. i've felt bad about it long enough...time to have some fun with it! i even met my first wheeler from the boards just over a week ago (hi sid!) and it was great. didn't have a chance to discuss any dev stuff since i had a travel companion with me, but just feeling comfortable enough with that part of myself for a face to face meeting is a billion miles away from where i would have been last year at this time! so i'm glad you registered and hope you get involved and enjoy the interaction here. (btw to my fellow devs: sid is hot and just as funny and open as he comes across in cyberland...it was fun) Wow Dolly, thanks for the endorsement! That ought to to be good for my stock. It was fun, wasn't it? I've always enjoyed reading about when members of this board actually meet up, it makes the whole thing seems so much more legitimate. More real. Matisse is the king of this. I'm that much more stoked on this Vegas trip. Dolly is not only the first person that I've met from the board, but also the first person I've ever met face to face from the Internet. It really was cool. It felt like we had already known each other for a long time. And for the skeptics out there, Dolly really does exist. And she is just like you might imagine her to be from her posts: smart, funny, honest, energetic, and down to earth. Not to mention cute, too. And so do I exist, for that matter. (And so do I exist?) Although I can hardly vouch for myself. hmmm... By the way, the invitation is officially out there for any of you ladies interested in visiting the West Coast, I guarantee you a good time. I also assure you that I'm not a total perv, hopefully Dolly will vouch for that too! I think that's enough rambling for now. - Sid |
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Post by Pony on Sept 7, 2006 16:44:11 GMT -5
....i think i might start a new thread about "ïnternet meetings" coz i've had quite a few over the years...yet, none from here!! This has me curious how many quads have met girls via internet. I've always felt like the online thang really evens the playing field and allows a girl to know you as a person without the chair coloring the relationship.
The first girl i (physically) met off internet was back in '93 or '94....she was the granddaughter of the guy who started the corp Caterpillar, Inc., so she was/is enormously rich. she had aspirations to be a jazz singer, and i was recording my music at that time, but beyond that we were extremely drawn to each other sexually, and we had intense phone sex before i ever met her. We exchanged pics via snail-mail, and she was gorgeous. She's even better now, as she did eventually become a well-known jazz singer in South Florida. Talk about a 1st meeting, it's amazing, but she flew to Tampa, stayed at The Hilton on the water for 3 days. It was New Year's, so we actually had dinner served in the room (veryyy expensive) and we played sexually for all three days. It was a GREAT 1st meeting, but a few months went by and we both moved on. Still, it was really cool...
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Post by spurs2000 on Sept 7, 2006 17:23:18 GMT -5
i wish i could date someone called cake. then i could have my cake and eat it too!! welcome aboard cake, hope you bring a generous serving to all on the board so we can share in your sweetness Well said! |
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Post by dolly on Sept 9, 2006 8:39:39 GMT -5
Wow Dolly, thanks for the endorsement! That ought to to be good for my stock. It was fun, wasn't it? I've always enjoyed reading about when members of this board actually meet up, it makes the whole thing seems so much more legitimate. More real. Matisse is the king of this. I'm that much more stoked on this Vegas trip. Dolly is not only the first person that I've met from the board, but also the first person I've ever met face to face from the Internet. It really was cool. It felt like we had already known each other for a long time. And for the skeptics out there, Dolly really does exist. And she is just like you might imagine her to be from her posts: smart, funny, honest, energetic, and down to earth. Not to mention cute, too. And so do I exist, for that matter. (And so do I exist?) Although I can hardly vouch for myself. hmmm... By the way, the invitation is officially out there for any of you ladies interested in visiting the West Coast, I guarantee you a good time. I also assure you that I'm not a total perv, hopefully Dolly will vouch for that too! I think that's enough rambling for now. - Sid i'll vouch for ya anytime, sid. and i'm still thinkin' about that chinese food....mmmmm....
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Post by diveguy99 on Sept 10, 2006 17:51:59 GMT -5
Hi cake, I am glad that you showed up here. I am new here too and find this place a cool place to be. So welcome to the club.
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Post by E on Sept 11, 2006 8:34:56 GMT -5
I was listening to Hole last night (don't ask why) and I heard that classic line...
"I wanna be the girl with the most cake."
Of course, I was reminded...
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it's kind of funny, but after that all my burden and self-doubt were gone. it was the breakthrough. 
