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Post by Pony on Mar 2, 2007 9:10:14 GMT -5
Thanks for the welcomes. It really is nice to have a place to talk about this stuff. Tony- The guilt thing is a strange beast. I know that I was brought up to pity the disabled, and the problem is, pity is usually not my gut reaction.  I have felt like maybe there was some kind of mental disconnect with me, because I don't react the way society tells me I should. So I don't know, maybe I felt guilty cause I was just not "normal". Nowadays I have pretty much gotten over myself on that, but now its the guilt of emotionally straying from my marriage, and I have to say it is probably worse.  Taylor....your explanation kinda explains the strange vibe i get around some girls. i think they have feeling of guilt, or some of pity they don't know how to face. I fucking hate it!! I want them to see me exactly the way you do - 'disconnected' from that stereotype feeling society has driven in. I'm a man, living my life as viable and interesting as any AB dude, and from what i see, i do better than most of them. I don't want the pity, i do dig admiration and equal respect, minus the patronizing. That being said, there are dudes in chairs that love the pity party, bitch n whine, and want people to hear how terrible it is. And sometimes they use it like a whip. I haven't seen too many dudes on here like that, but i've run into them in real-life. I love it when a girl doesn't have the 'uncomfortable-scared-to-say-the-wrong-thing' attitude. I joke around a lot, and hate when someone is so uptight they won't laugh coz they're too nervous. Girls that just act natural ROCK!!! |
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Post by BA on Mar 2, 2007 15:54:18 GMT -5
I know that I was brought up to pity the disabled, and the problem is, pity is usually not my gut reaction. I have felt like maybe there was some kind of mental disconnect with me, because I don't react the way society tells me I should. So I don't know, maybe I felt guilty cause I was just not "normal". Nowadays I have pretty much gotten over myself on that, but now its the guilt of emotionally straying from my marriage, and I have to say it is probably worse. Exactly how I feel Taylor. No pity, no cares about society but guilt about straying from marriage - yes. |
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Post by Ray T on Mar 15, 2007 8:52:41 GMT -5
Tony,
you make a good point... I my self however do not care if a girl feels pitty for me... as long as it gets her to talking to me... If someone will just take the time to get to know me i am a catch... or so I have been told (not that I think I am all that or anything) so if it is pity that causes them to interact with me so be it,,, The pity will change s soon as they see there is nothing about me that needs pitty... lol but I do use my handicap to my advantage... lol and why shouldn't I. I have it why not use it lol
I just wished I could find a dev that wants to meet and is emotionally available. any way I know this is way off topic now... lol Welcome to the world of the Crips Taylor You seem really nice so far and your post on this board will open up the world for you in my opinion
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Post by Jocker on Mar 21, 2007 22:54:24 GMT -5
Man, every time I read a post Tony manages to convey my exact sentiment cheers to you Tony!!!
I'll beat you to the punch one day...
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I have felt like maybe there was some kind of mental disconnect with me, because I don't react the way society tells me I should. So I don't know, maybe I felt guilty cause I was just not "normal". Nowadays I have pretty much gotten over myself on that, but now its the guilt of emotionally straying from my marriage, and I have to say it is probably worse. 
