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Post by Rob on Feb 6, 2005 16:44:32 GMT -5
A question for the disabled guys amongst our community.
Approaching someone that you are attracted to is always difficult. In another thread several people express the feeling that approaching a disabled guy was even moreso because of the sympathy/kinky/pity/pervy aspect.
So how would you personally like others to approach the issue?
Rob.
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Post by QueerPara on Feb 6, 2005 16:49:40 GMT -5
I think the answer to this is obvious. Treat us like regular people. The kinky stuff can come later, if we're into it...  |
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Post by Rob on Feb 6, 2005 16:55:16 GMT -5
Point taken, and that is what I personally do. As I have said in another thread, my own feeling is that a guy having a disablity is secondary to everything else.
However, if so many of our members find this a difficult aspect it can't be that obvious.
Rob.
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Post by paul wheelie37 on Feb 8, 2005 12:55:59 GMT -5
The best people to answer this question are devotees. From my point of view as a wheelchair user, i wonder if it is to do with the way people are brought up ie what is the norm. Like racism, sexism, gay/lesbianism etc, times are changing and hopefully people will feel more confident to approach thier personal issues and conquer them.
People are naturally nervous of things they dont understand or have been brought up to ignore or feel sorry for.
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Post by QueerPara on Feb 8, 2005 23:18:08 GMT -5
I'd just like to say, I much prefer gay/lesbianism to racism and sexism  |
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Post by wheelie37 on Mar 20, 2005 2:58:10 GMT -5
bringing up a subject which we are familiar with would be good. You could use anything ie state of paths, curbs, access, height of shelves, disabled parking etc. Then move on to accessible places to socialise and ask where they go? then go there sometime and hopefully "bump" in to them  |
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