|
|
Post by Claire on May 20, 2007 14:35:34 GMT -5
Argh!!! Story of my life, passed over for a fleeting pleasure... *sigh*  |
|
|
|
Post by Ouch on May 20, 2007 15:35:34 GMT -5
What're you complainin' for? At least *someone* benefitted...my story isn't even that good.
|
|
|
|
Post by matisse on May 20, 2007 15:36:31 GMT -5
My 2 cents: Jason, Devogirl, Fubb and Wind know what they are talking about.  Of course, since their attitude showers you with attention and all you have to do is sit back and enjoy it. Bottom line is that if a woman is into you, it takes little effort. In fact, if she's into you, it would probably take some effort to maintain your own space. I'm not saying that you don't go to dinner, movies, hang out, etc. Just that it's not part of any big effort or grand plan for "getting her," it's just what you end up doing (if you want to). |
|
|
|
Post by Ouch on May 20, 2007 15:38:51 GMT -5
I completely disagree...I think there's more effort with someone that's 'in' to you, than someone who 'isn't' ironically, like I've said, you get what you put into it.
For some, putting little is satiating enough...there's nothing *wrong* with that, but not my style...
|
|
|
|
Post by matisse on May 20, 2007 15:45:14 GMT -5
I think there's more effort with someone that's 'in' to you What kind of effort are you talking about? |
|
|
|
Post by devogirl on May 20, 2007 17:04:18 GMT -5
My 2 cents: Jason, Devogirl, Fubb and Wind know what they are talking about. Of course, since their attitude showers you with attention and all you have to do is sit back and enjoy it. Matisse, you are missing the point (maybe intentionally). The point being, you will never attract women by telling them you are lonely and desperate. You have to do something else. What that something else is, depends on who you are and what kind of relationship you want. |
|
|
|
Post by matisse on May 20, 2007 18:04:08 GMT -5
Matisse, you are missing the point (maybe intentionally). The point being, you will never attract women by telling them you are lonely and desperate. You have to do something else. What that something else is, depends on who you are and what kind of relationship you want. Actually most of the reactions, including mine, were to the advice on how to court a woman. I do agree that declaring your loneliness and desperation will get you nowhere. |
|
|
|
Post by Pony on May 20, 2007 18:05:04 GMT -5
Oh man, the LAST thing i ever want is to pull on the 'Feel sorry for me' strings!! It's very unattractive in ANYBODY, and I'd never want a girl who was with me because of my loneliness or desperation.. I have been running a personal ad on match.com and CraigsList, and while i've had some responses, it's definitely not my kinda girls, so i never even let it get off the ground. In my ad, I do explain about the chair and accident, but it's a minor paragraph, as being in a chair is a minor part of WHO i am. I'll explain more later to the right chick. Look, the odds are against me, but at least i have the feelers out there. Now, I have a date with another Eclair...I think they are addictive, maybe cocaine in them!!! lol |
|
|
|
Post by E on May 20, 2007 18:46:11 GMT -5
...laziness with women never works... There are plenty of women with men who are too lazy to work on the relationship. These guys typically have something else going for them, like money, power, good looks, or just a whole lot of "game." Money and power is overrated. |
|
|
|
Post by BA on May 20, 2007 21:59:22 GMT -5
Money and power works like a magnet for some women, provided they are very turned on by that. (Can we say Woody Allen?). There are some plug ugly guys out there who troll around with arm candy just because of $$$$ or fame. I can think of bunches.
The least redeeming quality a guy can have is desperation coupled with laziness and a "I'm a loser" attitude. I don't care if he's stinking filthy rich, famous or the president of east bumfluck. It's the biggest turn-off in the world.
|
|
|
|
Post by Valkyrja on May 20, 2007 22:39:40 GMT -5
I agree. The time I dated guys, I did what I liked in that moment. Sometime they had to work hard and sometimes I picked them up. But I never... never was with a guy for pity. I think pity is the worst thing a human can feel for another. I've had a lot of adventures before my "husband". I enjoyed them, I have no regret; but when a guy used the phrase "please, look how lonely I am, not even the dogs want me!" (LOL... here we say: "Ni los perros me quieren"... for you Tony), I used to laugh and said "sorry for you".
|
|
|
|
Post by Pony on May 21, 2007 15:14:22 GMT -5
Money and power works like a magnet for some women, provided they are very turned on by that. (Can we say Woody Allen?). There are some plug ugly guys out there who troll around with arm candy just because of $$$$ or fame. I can think of bunches. The least redeeming quality a guy can have is desperation coupled with laziness and a "I'm a loser" attitude. I don't care if he's stinking filthy rich, famous or the president of east bumfluck. It's the biggest turn-off in the world. i was at Home Depot store over the weekend, and I saw this really chica CALIENTE (para ti, Val...jeje) - she had long silky black hair, killer body in tight jeans wearing sunglasses, and I couldn't take my eyes off her. Then I see this big FAT guy call to her "Honey, come here!!" I couldn't believe this chick was with him, but then i watched them climb in a Cadillac Escolade - then I understood!!! |
|
|
|
Post by Ouch on May 21, 2007 15:35:56 GMT -5
Could just be that it is a big car for big person...Cadillacs aren't as creme de la creme anymore...you can find some reasonably priced ones that are used....
...though 'car-girls' are dangerous...
|
|
|
|
Post by E on May 21, 2007 18:50:44 GMT -5
Money and power works like a magnet for some women, provided they are very turned on by that. (Can we say Woody Allen?). There are some plug ugly guys out there who troll around with arm candy just because of $$$$ or fame. I can think of bunches. The least redeeming quality a guy can have is desperation coupled with laziness and a "I'm a loser" attitude. I don't care if he's stinking filthy rich, famous or the president of east bumfluck. It's the biggest turn-off in the world. i was at Home Depot store over the weekend, and I saw this really chica CALIENTE (para ti, Val...jeje) - she had long silky black hair, killer body in tight jeans wearing sunglasses, and I couldn't take my eyes off her. Then I see this big FAT guy call to her "Honey, come here!!" I couldn't believe this chick was with him, but then i watched them climb in a Cadillac Escolade - then I understood!!! Maybe she liked him for his personality... his sense of humor... I heard somewhere that body isn't everything. |
|
|
|
Post by Ive on May 21, 2007 20:41:32 GMT -5
Well, most women like to be courted but sometimes it's good to get the sex out of the way. I don't think there is anything desperate in what Ray was saying. He is yearning for touch, for sensuality, for closeness. He doesn't want it from a prostitute, although, why not? he wants a girl who also yearns like him.
I am with Tony on this, i hope you talked some more to Argentina girl! Seize the moment! Hopefully u like each other enough to meet and hopefully go ahead and please each other.
|
|
