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Post by no judging on May 22, 2007 0:31:36 GMT -5
Money and power works like a magnet for some women, provided they are very turned on by that. (Can we say Woody Allen?). There are some plug ugly guys out there who troll around with arm candy just because of $$$$ or fame. I can think of bunches. The least redeeming quality a guy can have is desperation coupled with laziness and a "I'm a loser" attitude. I don't care if he's stinking filthy rich, famous or the president of east bumfluck. It's the biggest turn-off in the world. Then I see this big FAT guy call to her "Honey, come here!!" I couldn't believe this chick was with him, but then i watched them climb in a Cadillac Escolade - then I understood!!! I can't believe you are judging this girl or her guy. you don't want to be judge because of your chair or disabilities, but you do judge people because they are fat or because you think she's just interested in a cool car, it's kinda weird isn't it?? He might have a million cool things and you don't have any idea of it. Jealous maybe??
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Post by Triassic on May 22, 2007 1:23:05 GMT -5
Jeez, if
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Post by Triassic on May 22, 2007 1:29:51 GMT -5
Jeez, if I was well off enough to seriously attract some gold digger...I wouldn't want her, no matter how hot she was. Why would I want someone who was just there for the percs, who didn't really want me, who was hooking up with the pool man, my attorney, my broker, etc behind my back?GGHSB
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Post by Ouch on May 22, 2007 8:02:30 GMT -5
Tri, you hit the nail on the coffin man...exactly my sentiment.
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Post by Valkyrja on May 22, 2007 8:12:28 GMT -5
In Argentina, The morbid obesity is being considered a disability (I'm talking of real fat people). Perhaps the guy you were talking about has a great personality and, his kind of disability, likes that girl. Here in this forum, we are Devs that likes guys in chairs. Perhaps there're a kind of devness where girls likes obese men. I saw really big guys here with beautiful girls with great bodies... and it was not for the money.
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Post by matisse on May 22, 2007 10:44:03 GMT -5
Jeez, if I was well off enough to seriously attract some gold digger...I wouldn't want her, no matter how hot she was. Why would I want someone who was just there for the percs, who didn't really want me, who was hooking up with the pool man, my attorney, my broker, etc behind my back?GGHSB Trump doesn't seem to mind. But you're also oversimplifying. Some women are truly attracted by all that stuff, and to them you become genuinely attractive because of it. Sort of a hot by association LOL.
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Post by Ive on May 22, 2007 10:54:04 GMT -5
Yeah Valkyr, yeah no judging. Le dieron al clavo! Judging by appearences is not good...
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Post by Ouch on May 22, 2007 16:52:22 GMT -5
...lol...point by me saying big car for big guy, doesn't necessarily mean attracted to riches...
...matisse, I can see it as possible, but to me it is like having the light switch on and off at the same time...not quite possible.
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Post by Pony on May 22, 2007 17:17:53 GMT -5
....you guys might be right, she might have just liked his personality!! The other thing is sometimes couples marry in young 20s, and he might not have aged as well as her. I knew a girl exactly like that, but please don't act like the money doesn't have a strong effect. I've known a LOT of girls that have taken great advantage of guys with money. I just talked to one friend this weekend...the guy makes it easy for the girl to take him usually. I have seen this over n over!
I'll admit, I jumped the gun, but I'm human, and sometimes prejudices come out...if I ever see that big fat guy again, I'll beg his forgivness, and a few $$$ lol
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Post by rollnthundr on May 28, 2007 12:28:08 GMT -5
Dennis Rodman would never get laid if it wasn't for his money.
That being said, I'd like to get back to the original post from ray. Although I don't agree with his approach, I truly understand it. Many times as a disabled guy we set up our lives in a way that we are fulfilled in every way except our sexual aspects. We get busy with family and friends, charities or work. Because women who are open to dating us are very few. So when we think of relationships the sexual aspect jumps up as most important. If the sex drive can be fulfilled then the life is complete. It just gets the better of us sometimes. Ray, take the advice of these women. In the long run you'll end up getting sex more often.
Lets face it, those of us who are gimps because of an injury dated far more often before the injury than we do now. So if the only difference is the way we look and get around, then how can you say women don't put looks as a major part of who they date? In general, if all you have going for you is a great personality, you'll have a ton of lady friends. But that's all they'll want to be is friends. That is why these issues of money, fame, or size get raised. But men are just as bad if not worse.
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Post by mrjefffurz on May 28, 2007 14:32:01 GMT -5
u r correct, thunder,,,im sure we all dated quite a bit more in our pre-dis life than now...in my instance, being an "older gentleman " who suffered thru a 22 year marriage 'tween dating periods we're talking 2 totally different games...however, according to the grrl half of my roomycpl ive been way ahead, on points, vs. other men who are out of the prime dating years and she is in a position to know since she & i dated briefly b4 deciding that would ruin a boo-tee-ful friendship & she knows my dating history vs. lots of other dudes......this was sure news to me but...well,,ok...true, many women date based upon the looks/money/size of truck criteria but not all of them...a dude hasta get out there,,,make himself approachable and available...NOT act like an arsehole..meet and become friends w/ lots of grrlz...and let the law of averages take care of your success...
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Post by Triassic on May 28, 2007 15:37:03 GMT -5
In all honesty, were I A.B. I seriously doubt I would date a disabled woman. So I can hardly bitch if chicks don't dig me so much because of my physical problems.
But Rolln...you're a handsoeme happening dude, right? I remember when you first posted your pic, the girls here went nuts. Doesn't that happen IRL?
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Post by E on May 28, 2007 16:51:08 GMT -5
In all honesty, were I A.B. I seriously doubt I would date a disabled woman. So I can hardly bitch if chicks don't dig me so much because of my physical problems. But Rolln...you're a handsoeme happening dude, right? I remember when you first posted your pic, the girls here went nuts. Doesn't that happen IRL? I won't date a disabled woman. I've had chances. There was nothing else wrong with them. I just can't do it. It's pretty messed up, isn't it?
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Post by E on May 28, 2007 16:52:36 GMT -5
In general, if all you have going for you is a great personality, you'll have a ton of lady friends. But that's all they'll want to be is friends. Feel free to check out my pictures for an excellent example of this, with a rare exception.
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Post by Ouch on May 28, 2007 21:42:25 GMT -5
Good points made...well argued.
E, it does seem hypocritical on the surface...but yet...at least to me, I can understand...while, I myself, could date a disabled woman, if she fulfilled what I would want; honestly, it is just as justifiable if I didn't as well...it is just as if a woman wouldn't want to date a disabled man...
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