ukparaguy
New Member
Posts: 32
Gender: Male
Dev Status: Disabled Male
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Post by ukparaguy on Aug 21, 2020 15:02:41 GMT -5
Just for another perspective on being a dev: For me I'd say the attraction is very much sexual, and a component of it is sort of a fetish. There's a significant romantic fantasy element as well though. I can't say I fully understand my devness, but I think for me a lot of it has to do with this idea that disability *could* foster vulnerability between two people in a way that makes for a very deep sort of intimacy. I've always craved intimacy and vulnerability from others in a really intense way. I can be sort of aloof with people I don't know, but once I'm friends with someone, or sometimes even just wanting to be friends with someone, I'm like "hey, let me tell you about my most disturbing thoughts and my enduring emotional despair in detail. Can you relate? Let's do drugs together and meld our souls for the night." As someone who is new to all of this I would be interested in hearing more about your thoughts, experiences etc
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Post by ContingentlyComposite on Aug 21, 2020 15:13:57 GMT -5
Pretenders like pretending they have a disability. For some it's a sexual thing, for others it may be a way of coping with BIID, others may have different reasons for pretending. Pretenders *may* also be devs (some descriptions of what being a dev means above) but the vast majority of devs are not pretenders. thank you very much for this insight, also can I please ask what BIID means? Body Integrity Identity Disorder. Google it.
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Post by ContingentlyComposite on Aug 21, 2020 15:45:19 GMT -5
Just for another perspective on being a dev: For me I'd say the attraction is very much sexual, and a component of it is sort of a fetish. There's a significant romantic fantasy element as well though. I can't say I fully understand my devness, but I think for me a lot of it has to do with this idea that disability *could* foster vulnerability between two people in a way that makes for a very deep sort of intimacy. I've always craved intimacy and vulnerability from others in a really intense way. I can be sort of aloof with people I don't know, but once I'm friends with someone, or sometimes even just wanting to be friends with someone, I'm like "hey, let me tell you about my most disturbing thoughts and my enduring emotional despair in detail. Can you relate? Let's do drugs together and meld our souls for the night." As someone who is new to all of this I would be interested in hearing more about your thoughts, experiences etc I'd encourage you to look at the pinned threads at the top of the board to see more of people's thoughts and experiences on being a dev. There was also some discussion along these lines over the last few days in Dani's thread called "ashamed of being ok with devs". If you're interested in reading more about my thoughts and experiences in particular you can click over to my profile and look through my posts.
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Post by wheelzoffortune on Aug 21, 2020 22:18:51 GMT -5
Pretenders like pretending they have a disability. For some it's a sexual thing, for others it may be a way of coping with BIID, others may have different reasons for pretending. Pretenders *may* also be devs (some descriptions of what being a dev means above) but the vast majority of devs are not pretenders. thank you very much for this insight, also can I please ask what BIID means?
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